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I am a bad doggy mommy :(
DH surprised me with a yellow lab new years eve. I didn't post about it because he got her from a breeder that I am very unhappy about. I came home from work - there she was, crate, food, toys, the whole shibang.
Ok fine - I took her to the vet-she checks out. My dilemma is that I am not used to a puppy. I take her our every 2-3 hours (DH works a lot - I was off for the last few days) so I am 'puppied out'. She has eaten my moldings upstairs (we are replacing so its not that big of a deal). Even after spending a half hour-45 min walking outside she will come in-run up the stairs and poop in my diningroom  she also has a lovely habit of at night when in her crate she only sleeps for an hour at a clip and then she starts barking/yelping  I can't take it anymore! This has been going on EVERYDAY since she has been living here. This morning at 330am I told DH that I can only take a week to two more weeks of this before she needs to find a new home.
I am disappointed in myself for feeling this way (she's just a baby) but even still. I am 9w4d pregnant, running on NO sleep, fatigued like you have no idea, sporting lovely morning sickness that when I'm not taking her out I have my head in the toilet.
He took the initiative and signed her up for puppy kindergarten after her rabies shot next week where she can learn basic commands for an hour a week. I work overnights 3 nights a week - I go back to work tonight - I do not know what to do HELP!!!!!!
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Since you got the puppy from a breeder they will take the dog back at anytime.. can you see if they will do that.. I do not blame you one bit.. to spring a puppy one anyone peggers or not I think that is just unfair to you and the dog.. Since you are the one caring for he dog the majority of the time you should call the shots.. You have to realy be committed for life to tak any animal in .. it just doesnt seem that you have made any such decision.. I do not think you are a bad person one bit.. Your husband is the one who made a big mistake here.. i am sure he did it not realizing.. But please stick to your guns and let the breeder find a home that is fit for the dog.. Thats what i would do.. Before anymore time passes..
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Coley
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
What's worse is that we had another breeder lined up that I really liked. We would have brought the pup home the end of this month.
When I freaked this morning - DH's response was 'when the baby gets up every 2-3 hours in the middle of the night - you can't return it'
He is really good with her when he is home - I try and play with her everyday but I am too tired to keep up with her
I hope it gets better..
Anyone have terrible puppy phase?! Did it get better?
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
I'm not sure what you expected from an 8 week old puppy, but it sounds completely normal to me. It's friggin hard, which is why we always chose not to get a dog that young, like we discussed in our FM's. It's typical behavior for puppy that young, so if you know you can't handle it, get the breeder on the phone immediately. A reputable breeder will want that puppy back asap to find it a home.
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Posted by greenfreak
I'm not sure what you expected from an 8 week old puppy, but it sounds completely normal to me. It's friggin hard, which is why we always chose not to get a dog that young, like we discussed in our FM's. It's typical behavior for puppy that young, so if you know you can't handle it, get the breeder on the phone immediately. A reputable breeder will want that puppy back asap to find it a home.
Exactly. And this is why animals are NEVER a good idea for a surprise or a gift.
You both have to be 100% dedicated and into the idea and the work involved.
Not to mention the fact that you are pregnant.
Totally not a good time for a "gift" like that.
I'm sorry he did that to you...
Best of luck!
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Posted by anonttcer
Posted by greenfreak
I'm not sure what you expected from an 8 week old puppy, but it sounds completely normal to me. It's friggin hard, which is why we always chose not to get a dog that young, like we discussed in our FM's. It's typical behavior for puppy that young, so if you know you can't handle it, get the breeder on the phone immediately. A reputable breeder will want that puppy back asap to find it a home.
Exactly. And this is why animals are NEVER a good idea for a surprise or a gift.
You both have to be 100% dedicated and into the idea and the work involved.
Not to mention the fact that you are pregnant.
Totally not a good time for a "gift" like that.
I'm sorry he did that to you...
Best of luck!
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What you are describing is NORMAL puppy behavior, this could go on for over a year AND if the dog isn't trained right, forever....
So I am going to say this, it may sound harsh. But IMO, I would see if the breeder would take the puppy back (if it's a real breeder, not a mill that is) or find another home for the pup asap.
B/c if you really don't want her, and keep her for a while, when baby comes and you can't/don't want to do it, it will be a LOT harder to find a home for a one year old dog with bad habits than a 2 mth old puppy. KWIM?
That is why pets/dogsMUST BE a joint discussion. Your DH made a big mistake honestly. Getting a puppy is definitely NOTa good idea with a baby on the way.
I have 2 dogs that I had since 10 weeks old, they are now almost 5 and 4. And I have a one year old child now. I can assure you things are going to be rough when baby comes so if you really don't want the dog now or feel this way now, rest assured it will feel a billion times worse when baby comes. This is coming from someone who feels my dogs are my children, but they are a LOT of work, esp when adding a child into the picture.
Hope you understand what I mean and that this is just said to help the dog. I don't think this was a good idea, doesn't sound like you do either, the dog should NOT be the one to suffer.
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Posted by Coley
What's worse is that we had another breeder lined up that I really liked. We would have brought the pup home the end of this month.
When I freaked this morning - DH's response was 'when the baby gets up every 2-3 hours in the middle of the night - you can't return it'
He is really good with her when he is home - I try and play with her everyday but I am too tired to keep up with her
I hope it gets better..
Anyone have terrible puppy phase?! Did it get better?
But I am confused. Did you not want a pup or not want THIS pup? What is the difference? Either way, a puppy while pg is not a good idea nor is it a good iea when baby is too young. I can guarantee you if you are overwhelmed with caring for this pup now, wait until you have all the stresses of life AND a screaming infant AND no sleep in days AND this dog (or any dog). Trust me, parenting can be that hard. You have to REALLLLLLLLLY love your animals for it to work and to remain patient with them (and your child).
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Posted by Coley
I am disappointed in myself for feeling this way (she's just a baby) but even still. I am 9w4d pregnant, running on NO sleep, fatigued like you have no idea, sporting lovely morning sickness that when I'm not taking her out I have my head in the toilet.
As a fairly new parent myself, I want to let you know that if you feel the above way now while pg, you haven't felt a thing yet. You will never imagine how one little child is going to rock your world like never before.
My DD is over one year old now and I haven't had a full or decent night sleep since before I got pg. So that's going on close to two years now. I am stressed beyond belief. You will be even more exhausted than when pg, I can guarantee. I never would have believed it until I experienced it. The pup will suffer, b/c the reality is you will tend to the needs of the child first. Please know what I say is only meant to help. And please for the sake of the dog, think hard about this fast, before the pup gets too big and is hard to rehome. 
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
saw some of your old posts and I stand corrected.. You were just as into this puppy as dh.. You really should have thought this through more.. An animal is a HUGE commitment.. I am surprised you posted this..
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Posted by dilb712
saw some of your old posts and I stand corrected.. You were just as into this puppy as dh.. You really should have thought this through more.. An animal is a HUGE commitment.. I am surprised you posted this..
D, you and I can both attest to the fact that unless you LOVE LOVE LOVE your animals, it's very hard to have a baby and a young dog at the same time without feeling like you don't have the time or energy for both. You have to LOVE LOVE LOVE your dog or the dog will suffer greatly b/c odds are the baby's needs will come first and many dogs are forgotten about by their owners once baby comes. Sad but true. But NOT in my house or Diana's house either. So if you feel this way now and you don't even have a newborn in the picture, the picture doesn't look good to me already. Just being honest. I think the dog needs to go back to the breeder, in his/her best interest.
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
Posted by Goobster
Posted by dilb712
saw some of your old posts and I stand corrected.. You were just as into this puppy as dh.. You really should have thought this through more.. An animal is a HUGE commitment.. I am surprised you posted this..
D, you and I can both attest to the fact that unless you LOVE LOVE LOVE your animals, it's very hard to have a baby and a young dog at the same time without feeling like you don't have the time or energy for both. You have to LOVE LOVE LOVE your dog or the dog will suffer greatly b/c odds are the baby's needs will come first and many dogs are forgotten about by their owners once baby comes. Sad but true. But NOT in my house or Diana's house either. So if you feel this way now and you don't even have a newborn in the picture, the picture doesn't look good to me already. Just being honest. I think the dog needs to go back to the breeder, in his/her best interest.
Thanks for your honesty. I am completely into the dog as much as DH, if not more. I am sleep deprived, hormonal, and have been the primary caretaker for this pup. I hope things will look up after her vet appt next week when I can take her on walks (she will have the OK once she gets her rabies vacc) and I can get out of the house with her a little more. I have been feeling completely cooped up with her - and I haven't had a puppy in 12+ years.. This was a bit of a shell shock, I do love her - I just can't get over how much work she is... Thanks again everyone
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
I don't blame you for feeling overwhelmed. I was the primary caretaker for Maggie when we got her because I was home for the summer and DH works 14+ hours a day. One day I was so fed up, I called my DH and told him to put an ad for her on his companies bulletin.... obviously she's still here and I love her more than anything -
Puppies need a lot of time for potty training - which I'm sure is a nightmare in this lovely weather. it will get easier once you figure out a routine and the weather gets better. Sit down with DH and figure out an eating and walking schedule.
Training activities are a great way to wear the puppy out mentally. Reader's Digest makes a great dog training magazine that my friend lent me. I was able to teach Maggie how to sit, stay, and down in one week with their step by step instructions. Maybe block off the areas where she runs to poop??
Good luck - everyone has felt like you at one point. It will get better...
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Re: I am a bad doggy mommy :(
If you are feeling this way and it hasn't even been a full week since you got her, I would definitely return her to the breeder. Yellow labs are known for being puppies for a very long time! I would say that she will be puppy like for about 3 years!!! IF you can't deal with it now, please throw in the towel so that she can get adopted by someone who is able to care for her.
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