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Lichi
what what!?
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Lissette
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by -Lisa-Posted by LichiPosted by -Lisa-
I'm due 6/15 - we have a wedding 6/17.
Hey, maybe we're going to the same wedding? lol 
Is yours in PA? Al and I were just discussing how long the drive would be, and if my water broke or contractions started, icould get back to the hospital in time...
I'm thinking with my 1st baby? plenty of time 
You definitely would have plenty of time! They say we'll be in labor for 12-14 hours!!!  
As for the wedding... nope, mine is in Long Island...
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lullabella
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Re: How realistic am I?
I went to a Holiday party exactly 1 week after I had the baby and I was ok. I was a little tired but I still had a good time.
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| Posted 4/13/06 8:56 PM |
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pharmcat2000
Mom of 2 + 1
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by prncssrachel
Well, if you are close with this person, maybe you can let them know closer to the date. Tell them to not include you in the final count. It's always better for them to add at the the end than have to lose money.
I agree with this. They can always add somebody that day if they need to. It's harder to tell them yes and then have to back out; although they probably don't need to give a final number until a couple of days before the wedding.
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| Posted 4/14/06 1:23 AM |
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stayandjohn
Our life is complete
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Re: How realistic am I?
Go for it. I was due on 3/7 and I had a wedding on 3/12. I went and my son was born on 3/15.
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| Posted 4/14/06 6:43 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: How realistic am I?
I had a friend show up to my wedding the day after she came home from the hospital. I will never forget getting lined up to walk down the aisle & seeing her peek out from the quiet room with her newborn in her arms.
I would say attend the church, skip the reception.
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| Posted 4/14/06 7:25 PM |
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05mommy09
Family of 5!
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Re: How realistic am I?
What if you go late???
I had a s-sect. and physically I couldve gone to a wedding 2 weeks pp (not danced like a crazy woman- but couldve went and got out of the house)
So I def. think if you do go on or before you EDD- you'll be able to go physically...
However- I wouldnt of wanted to be away from my baby...
BUT ive got some seperation issues...
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| Posted 4/14/06 7:30 PM |
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Faithx2
All good things in 2016!!
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by pnm1654
I think it can be done. I felt great physically at 2 weeks post partum. However, the thing that would've really bothered me would have been finding something to wear. I would not have feel comfortable dressing up so soon after giving birth. I didn't feel comforable in my "new" body. It also depends on how your delivery goes. For example, like a previous poster said, if you have a Csection, you may not feel up to it.
This is exact what I thought.....I'm 4 weeks PP and let me tell you I would not want to put a dress on right now.........
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| Posted 4/14/06 7:38 PM |
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nymommy2be
I love the summer
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Re: How realistic am I?
I'm going through the same thing. I'm due 6/6 and my best friends wedding is on 6/23. I plan on going,nothing could stop me.
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| Posted 4/14/06 11:55 PM |
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LAMGAJ28
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Re: How realistic am I?
It sounds pretty close to the date and you might not feel up to it. You should answer yes and you can always call the couple and cancel. Usually they give couples 48 hours before the wedding to make some cancellations but speak to the couple and let them know that this might be a possibility.
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| Posted 4/16/06 9:35 PM |
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turkeybaby
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Jodi
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Re: How realistic am I?
I was scheduled for a c-section on 11/15 and was a bridesmaid in a wedding on 11/11.
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| Posted 4/17/06 7:59 AM |
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sunny
Life is good!
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by MrsFresca
It sounds pretty close to the date and you might not feel up to it. You should answer yes and you can always call the couple and cancel. Usually they give couples 48 hours before the wedding to make some cancellations but speak to the couple and let them know that this might be a possibility.
I agree. I was cut very badly and had a horrible recovery, but by 2 weeks I was finally starting to feel a little better. Also, by then you will probably be feeling like you need to get out of the house for a few hours.
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| Posted 4/17/06 8:30 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: How realistic am I?
Okay here's the deal.
You are due 6/3...it's your first so chances are you will go late. Chances are they won't let you go past one week until they induce. So let's say they induce on 6/10. Let's say you end up with a c/s on 6/10...a week later...sure, you can hobble to the wedding...that is, if someone drives you because you can't drive with a c/s for 2 - 3 wks depending on your Dr. 1 week post c/s...you aren't going to feel too hot. You will be recovering from major surgery.
Let's say you go on 6/10 vaginal. Then it's looking more possible. You might feel great at 1 week pp from a vaginal birth. But ask yourself this - will you go alone and leave DH with the baby, or will you get a sitter? Will you want to leave the baby at 1 wk old?
If you go to both the church and the reception, will you have time to run home and nurse in between (if you decide to BF)? Can't be gone more than 2 hrs if you're nursing unless you pump and leave a bottle. But at that point, you will still be trying to get the hang of nursing and might not want to offer a bottle because of possible nipple confusion. If you do not plan to BF, feeding is not much of an issue.
And then there's how you'll feel looks-wise. I know that if it's the wedding of a close friend, you don't care what you look like, but I'm telling you in advance, you might be feeling exhausted (and look it), weepy, and will have a hard time finding anything to wear. Your weight will be at an awkard in-between stage and your belly will be not completely deflated yet. Oh, and you'll be bleeding like a running faucet.
At 1 week pp, you might be ready to get out of the house for a little while, yes. Or you might not want to leave your newborn at all.
That's all. I'm not telling you what to do one way or the other (although I voted "you're nuts" ), just laying it all out there, you decide.
I will say that I think it's a good idea to tell the bride to count you out (RSVP No) but ask if she can accomodate you if you feel up to it and decide to show.
Good luck!
Message edited 4/17/2006 9:39:19 AM.
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| Posted 4/17/06 9:38 AM |
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Lichi
what what!?
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Lissette
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by BabyAvocado
Okay here's the deal.
You are due 6/3...it's your first so chances are you will go late. Chances are they won't let you go past one week until they induce. So let's say they induce on 6/10. Let's say you end up with a c/s on 6/10...a week later...sure, you can hobble to the wedding...that is, if someone drives you because you can't drive with a c/s for 2 - 3 wks depending on your Dr. 1 week post c/s...you aren't going to feel too hot. You will be recovering from major surgery.
Let's say you go on 6/10 vaginal. Then it's looking more possible. You might feel great at 1 week pp from a vaginal birth. But ask yourself this - will you go alone and leave DH with the baby, or will you get a sitter? Will you want to leave the baby at 1 wk old?
If you go to both the church and the reception, will you have time to run home and nurse in between (if you decide to BF)? Can't be gone more than 2 hrs if you're nursing unless you pump and leave a bottle. But at that point, you will still be trying to get the hang of nursing and might not want to offer a bottle because of possible nipple confusion. If you do not plan to BF, feeding is not much of an issue.
And then there's how you'll feel looks-wise. I know that if it's the wedding of a close friend, you don't care what you look like, but I'm telling you in advance, you might be feeling exhausted (and look it), weepy, and will have a hard time finding anything to wear. Your weight will be at an awkard in-between stage and your belly will be not completely deflated yet. Oh, and you'll be bleeding like a running faucet.
At 1 week pp, you might be ready to get out of the house for a little while, yes. Or you might not want to leave your newborn at all.
That's all. I'm not telling you what to do one way or the other (although I voted "you're nuts" ), just laying it all out there, you decide.
I will say that I think it's a good idea to tell the bride to count you out (RSVP No) but ask if she can accomodate you if you feel up to it and decide to show.
Good luck!
Wow, girl, you completely laid it all out, huh?
Thanks for the info! I already know that if I go after my EDD, that it's going to be difficult to say whether I will attend or not. I was HOPING to go earlier, and at this point, everything is a guessing game.. when the baby will show, how will I recoup, will I want to leave the baby (DH is going to the wedding as well - would leave the baby with mom or his mom), what will I wear, etc, etc, etc? It ***** to play it by ear, but that's all I have for now. I have already spoken to the Bride-to-be, and am hoping for the best.
Thanks all for weighing in! I must be nuts for trying!
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| Posted 4/17/06 9:50 AM |
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ckdk
My girls
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by sarahsmommy
We had a wedding 2 weeks after Sarah was born. We'd responded that only Dh would go, and I was glad we did. I was not ready emotionally to leave her with anyone else. In fact, my hormones were still a little wacky and I laid into DH for staying for the whole reception, meanwhile he'd called and checked on us a few times. 
That's more along the lines of what I was thinking... you won't want to leave your baby at that early age... I went to a wedding 5 weeks after I gave birth and I missed DS terribly!
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| Posted 4/17/06 9:54 AM |
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Stacey1403
Where it all began....
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Re: How realistic am I?
Posted by BabyAvocado
Okay here's the deal.
You are due 6/3...it's your first so chances are you will go late. Chances are they won't let you go past one week until they induce. So let's say they induce on 6/10. Let's say you end up with a c/s on 6/10...a week later...sure, you can hobble to the wedding...that is, if someone drives you because you can't drive with a c/s for 2 - 3 wks depending on your Dr. 1 week post c/s...you aren't going to feel too hot. You will be recovering from major surgery.
Let's say you go on 6/10 vaginal. Then it's looking more possible. You might feel great at 1 week pp from a vaginal birth. But ask yourself this - will you go alone and leave DH with the baby, or will you get a sitter? Will you want to leave the baby at 1 wk old?
If you go to both the church and the reception, will you have time to run home and nurse in between (if you decide to BF)? Can't be gone more than 2 hrs if you're nursing unless you pump and leave a bottle. But at that point, you will still be trying to get the hang of nursing and might not want to offer a bottle because of possible nipple confusion. If you do not plan to BF, feeding is not much of an issue.
And then there's how you'll feel looks-wise. I know that if it's the wedding of a close friend, you don't care what you look like, but I'm telling you in advance, you might be feeling exhausted (and look it), weepy, and will have a hard time finding anything to wear. Your weight will be at an awkard in-between stage and your belly will be not completely deflated yet. Oh, and you'll be bleeding like a running faucet.
At 1 week pp, you might be ready to get out of the house for a little while, yes. Or you might not want to leave your newborn at all.
That's all. I'm not telling you what to do one way or the other (although I voted "you're nuts" ), just laying it all out there, you decide.
I will say that I think it's a good idea to tell the bride to count you out (RSVP No) but ask if she can accomodate you if you feel up to it and decide to show.
Good luck!
This pretty much nails it right on the head
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| Posted 4/17/06 11:21 AM |
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Sharon
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Re: How realistic am I?
I have a similar problem. I'll be 35 weeks with twins when my brother gets married in July. I just keep praying that they hold on until after then.
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| Posted 4/17/06 11:48 AM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: How realistic am I?
Hmm, nut? Nah! 
We got the save the date for a friend's wedding the Saturday after I am due. We already tolde them we will be replying "tentative!" They COMPLETELY understand. Maybe you could go that route?
A grilfriend of mine was at my wedding 3 weeks after she gave birth. She is totally not the norm as she wore a tight red strapless dress and looked a he!! of a lot better than most people I know!
It really depends on how you feel, KWIM?
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