How realistic am I?

I'm due 6/3, and have a wedding on 6/17... I haven't gotten the invitation yet, but I know it's coming, and I plan on answering that I will attend (I don't want to miss it).

Giving that I don't know how labor is going to be, or when it will happen, am I being realistic in replying that I will attend, potentially two weeks after the baby is to be born?

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That's pretty tough. you could go 1-2 weeks before or 1-2 weeks AFTER your EDD and if you do go let's say 1-2 weeks before, who knows what you'll feel like afterwards, you know?

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What if you go late?

i wouldn't chance it, plus you still might be recouping from the birth just days or a week prior.

that's tough one!

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We have a wedding to attend on July 4th and I am due June 25th, I am definatly going to have to say no. As for yours, its risky but I would just plan on sending a gift to cover your plate if you can't make it. There is a lot to consider though, emotions and all. jmo

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hmm, are you nuts?

I think that's a bit too close, even if you give birth on that day, you will still be recovering.

I would probably say no, i'm sure they will understand.

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The couple would MOST DEFINITELY understand, but it doesn't take away from the fact that I really want to go!

I think, subconciously, I know that I'm being unrealistic, BUT, I'm hoping that the baby picks up on the vibe, and ends up coming early for momma!

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Posted by Lichi

The couple would MOST DEFINITELY understand, but it doesn't take away from the fact that I really want to go!

I think, subconciously, I know that I'm being unrealistic, BUT, I'm hoping that the baby picks up on the vibe, and ends up coming early for momma!

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If you end up with a c-section you Definitely won't want to go.

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Depends on who this person is and how important they are to you. My mother is getting remarried 6 weeks after my due date (4 hours away) and I'm her MOH!!! I think I'm nuts some days!!

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I don't think that 6 weeks is unrealistic at all! I think that is def doable!

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Well, if you are close with this person, maybe you can let them know closer to the date. Tell them to not include you in the final count. It's always better for them to add at the the end than have to lose money.

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I would talk to the bride & groom, let them know that if you are able to attend, you would like to, but there is a chance that you wont make it; then play it by ear.

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I think it can be done. I felt great physically at 2 weeks post partum. However, the thing that would've really bothered me would have been finding something to wear. I would not have feel comfortable dressing up so soon after giving birth. I didn't feel comforable in my "new" body. It also depends on how your delivery goes. For example, like a previous poster said, if you have a Csection, you may not feel up to it.

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If you're nuts, then I'm insane

I'm due 6/15 - we have a wedding 6/17. I was thinking if I'm still preggo, maybe we can make the wedding, or if I go early...

I was planning on telling the bride & groom to count us out, but we may be able to make it last minute (if they can accomodate that).

I also have a wedding 5/20 but its in Oregon. I'm sad to miss it, but I don't want to be in labor in the plane...

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I have a friend who delivered via c/s on a wed and that following sat (10 days later) she went to a wedding and had a great time...good luck!

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You could definitely potentially go...I would try too...
Good Luck...

I probably would have been able to handle a few hours out a week or two after I had the baby...

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We have a wedding 7/1 and I am due 7/24 does that mean that I am being unrealistic too? What if I go early? I will prob say yes. I think you can manage it.

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i am due the same date you are and have been invited to a wedding on 6/24. my mom says i'll be itching to get out of the house and will want to go, but i have no idea how i'll feel. i was told i can respond no later than 2 weeks before and they would understand if i can't make it.

totally playing it by ear...

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We had a wedding 2 weeks after Sarah was born. We'd responded that only Dh would go, and I was glad we did. I was not ready emotionally to leave her with anyone else. In fact, my hormones were still a little wacky and I laid into DH for staying for the whole reception, meanwhile he'd called and checked on us a few times.

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My aunt gave birth on 9/11 and attended my 9/23 wedding and was up dancing and had a great time...ME on the other hand, i don't know if that would happen, lol...just saying its possible you'll be great!!

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I think you will probably be able to attend the wedding. Like others said, I would talk to the bride and groom, tell them you really want to be there, but you don't want them to get stuck paying for you, should you not be able to go. I'm sure they can pay for you the day of- they can just say that you're a rude guest who never replied and then just showed up!

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I am in the same dilemma - I am due 5/28 and I have a wedding 6/10. I was supposed to be a BM, but had to back out, due to not knowing when I was going to actually give birth. I plan on talking to her again and telling her to not count us, but use us as maybes. I think she said her hall was fine with that, but I want to make sure

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Posted by Lichi

Posted by -Lisa-
I'm due 6/15 - we have a wedding 6/17.

Hey, maybe we're going to the same wedding? lol