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TTC-Again
LIF Infant
Member since 4/09 84 total posts
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Krista
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Just an upset vent
I feel like EVERYONE around me is getting pregnant and to top it off about 5 of the people I know who are pregnant DIDNT want to be! 2 of my friends were on birth control!
I broke down last night, I have PCOS, Endometriosis, elevated beta-glyca-whatever, possible thyroid crap, and something else having to do with implantation  and I'm not even 26!!
How can getting pregnant be SO EASY for some women while others like us have to struggle
I'm so lucky to have each and every one of you because without you guys I don't know what I would do, you help to give me strength, information and support when I need it most.
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MetsGirl07
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Re: Just an upset vent
i feel the same way lately. just everyone around me is getting pregnant ( which i am very happy for) but i feel like i am standing still... moving nowhere. its a constant struggle for me.
i am in such a funk right now and i just want to get out of it! 
just know that you are nowhere near alone in this!
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:01 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Just an upset vent
I know how that feels
I also have PCOS, Endometriosis, Hypothyroidism and MTHFR. Not easy to deal with. To give you hope- I am now 31 weeks pregnant with my first child.
It can and WILL happen for you. 
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:15 AM |
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tj2008
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Re: Just an upset vent
I feel like that too and everywhere I look I see a pregnant person, it's tough but I try to be positive and think that I'll be there one day, our turn will come
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:21 AM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Just an upset vent
uugggghhh I know exactly how you feel and to top it all off I feel like this has made me a little bitter....and I HATE feeling like that. I've been harping on why its so easy for some and so hard for me......but I HAVE to snap out of it.
You're so NOT alone in feeling like this
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:40 AM |
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karenk71
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Re: Just an upset vent
IF is a constant struggle.
Hang in there.
It will happen for you.
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| Posted 7/2/09 11:47 AM |
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shiv
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Re: Just an upset vent
I always say I have had to work hard for everythig I have in life, why should a baby be any different
I just pray this will be the most difficult thing DH and I have to go through. Those who get pregnant easily, may be divorced in a few years- you never know where life will take you. And this has all made us stronger women!
Message edited 7/2/2009 1:28:20 PM.
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| Posted 7/2/09 1:28 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: Just an upset vent
Once upon a time I was one of those people who got pregnant right away....now 3 yrs later I am fighting the fight of my life to try and have another baby. I also have a laundry list of things "wrong" with me and it keeps growing. I don't know why its easy for some and not so for others, but I do know I have made some great friends here....life long friends who help me with both the IF battle and the battle within myself to try not to let the jealousy and bitterness get the best of me. I try to be positive, but it is so hard especially with so many other people being pregnant. Its like a cnstant reminder of what you are desperately trying to obtain. You will get there and in the meantime you have all these wonderful ladies to support you and have hope for you when you can't be hopeful for yourself.
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| Posted 7/2/09 2:06 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Just an upset vent
Posted by MaMaTeenie
Once upon a time I was one of those people who got pregnant right away....now 3 yrs later I am fighting the fight of my life to try and have another baby. I also have a laundry list of things "wrong" with me and it keeps growing. I don't know why its easy for some and not so for others, but I do know I have made some great friends here....life long friends who help me with both the IF battle and the battle within myself to try not to let the jealousy and bitterness get the best of me. I try to be positive, but it is so hard especially with so many other people being pregnant. Its like a cnstant reminder of what you are desperately trying to obtain. You will get there and in the meantime you have all these wonderful ladies to support you and have hope for you when you can't be hopeful for yourself.
very well said 
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| Posted 7/2/09 2:57 PM |
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JavaJunkie
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Re: Just an upset vent
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Re: Just an upset vent
Posted by shiv
I always say I have had to work hard for everythig I have in life, why should a baby be any different
I just pray this will be the most difficult thing DH and I have to go through. Those who get pregnant easily, may be divorced in a few years- you never know where life will take you. And this has all made us stronger women!
This is sooooo very true and so well said!   
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| Posted 7/2/09 3:21 PM |
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skinny
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Re: Just an upset vent
Posted by shiv
I always say I have had to work hard for everythig I have in life, why should a baby be any different
I just pray this will be the most difficult thing DH and I have to go through. Those who get pregnant easily, may be divorced in a few years- you never know where life will take you. And this has all made us stronger women!
Well said!
It's hard not to be angry, bitter, jealous, annoyed, etc....I hate feeling this way but I think it's natural to feel this way when deadline w/ IF).
You're def not alone in your feelings!!!
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| Posted 7/2/09 3:27 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Just an upset vent
Posted by shiv
I always say I have had to work hard for everythig I have in life, why should a baby be any different
I just pray this will be the most difficult thing DH and I have to go through. Those who get pregnant easily, may be divorced in a few years- you never know where life will take you. And this has all made us stronger women!
amen!!
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| Posted 7/2/09 3:54 PM |
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Sneezy
Thankful for my miracle!
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Re: Just an upset vent
The following helped me more than once. Read on:
What do I think God meant when he gave me infertility?
I think he meant for my husband and I to grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. I think God meant for us to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think God meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, and create procedures and protocols. I think God meant for us to find a cure for infertility.
No, God never meant for me not to have children. That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on. I've been placed on the road less traveled, and, like it or not, I'm a better person for it. Clearly, God meant for me to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let Him down.
Frankly, if the truth be known, I think God has singled me out for a special treatment. I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.
While I would never choose infertility, I can not deny that a fertile woman could never know the joy that awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice I'll say, "Don't tell me what God meant when he handed me infertility. I already know."
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| Posted 7/2/09 5:14 PM |
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TTC-Again
LIF Infant
Member since 4/09 84 total posts
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Krista
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Re: Just an upset vent
Posted by Sneezy
The following helped me more than once. Read on:
What do I think God meant when he gave me infertility?
I think he meant for my husband and I to grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. I think God meant for us to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think God meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, and create procedures and protocols. I think God meant for us to find a cure for infertility.
No, God never meant for me not to have children. That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on. I've been placed on the road less traveled, and, like it or not, I'm a better person for it. Clearly, God meant for me to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let Him down.
Frankly, if the truth be known, I think God has singled me out for a special treatment. I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.
While I would never choose infertility, I can not deny that a fertile woman could never know the joy that awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice I'll say, "Don't tell me what God meant when he handed me infertility. I already know."
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
 This is beautiful I'll be printing it out to show DH.
And thank you to everyone for their responses. I love you girls!
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jerseygirl
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Re: Just an upset vent
I know exactly how you feel. Just think that when it does happen to you, it will be so much better because you wanted it so badly!
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missingbunn
LIF Infant
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Re: Just an upset vent
It's one of those daily struggles... but everyday we are one day closer to our babies!
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