I need to vent about my MIL- long, sorry

My MIL and I had a big fight last weekend. Basically, she decided she was not going to attend my baby shower and I finally found out why.

She says she should have had alot more say in who went, where it was, when it was, etc. She doesnt get along with DH's step-mom and is super angry I invited her. My mom and dad are paying for the shower so they picked the place. And its going to be the weekend I come back into town for my niece's christening.

Then, this PSYCHO tells me that she's LIVID because.... my SIL is helping my mom and my DH's sisters werent asked too. Which #1- his older sister is a waste of space and planned a trip out of town knowing when the shower was, #2- his younger sister is 11!!! and #3- who the hell does she think she is to say a damn word about my SIL?? SIL is closer to me than my real sister, and does everything in the world for me and DH.

ANYWAY..... DH had it out with her for yelling at me and hanging up on me. He really stood up for me and I adore him for it. WELL... I guess she realized what she did and now, since yesterday afternoon, she has been calling every hour. I dont want to talk to her,so I just keep ignoring her calls. I'm 5 months pregnant, things have been a little shaky here and there with the pregnancy as is and she had me so upset that I was hysterical crying. Sobbing so hard I couldn't breathe. I couldn't believe that knowing im prego, and hearing me like that, she kept on at it. For 45 minutes!! Then she harrassed me online for an hour. She doesnt get it. I talked to DH last night and he said not to pick up the phone because she's just going to turn it around on me.... its 715am where I live and she has called 6 times already. Who does that?? Shes really making me mad. Should I just answer and tell her to stop calling? Or should I wait for DH to talk to her (who knows when that may be)??

Thanks for letting me rant and rave.... it's too early for me to call anyone, this was my second best option!! Oh and Alicia, because I know you read this , thank you for everything you do for us!!! You win the SIL of the millenium award!!!

Message edited 6/2/2008 8:30:47 AM.

Re: I need to vent about my MIL- long, sorry

I say answer the phone. She is probably calling to apologize. There is no need to drag it out further. You and Dh have said your piece. If she is not calling to apologize, simply say that you dont wish to dicuss the matter further and hang up. You wont know unless you answer. Good luck

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I would answer the phone and see what she has to say.

If she starts yelling at you again, hang up the phone.

Shame on her for yelling at you. I mean, who does she think she is anyway?

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I agree

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Posted by Stefanie

I would answer the phone and see what she has to say.

If she starts yelling at you again, hang up the phone.

Shame on her for yelling at you. I mean, who does she think she is anyway?

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Ok so I finally answered the phone because I felt bad and she yelled again! Telling me I had no right to tell my husband what happened.. mind you, I didnt tell him to tell on her. He called when I was upset and knew something was up and played 20 questions with me to find out. She said I need to learn that some things dont need to be discussed with the men in our lives... umm excuse me, but I tell my husband EVERYTHING. She has a very different, weird relationship with her husband, but my husband and I tell each other everything... so i'm done trying with her. I even gave in and said ' i'm sorry if you feel I shouldnt have told Johnny what we talked about'. I need to stop apologizing. DH barely even talks to her as it is, I was just trying to keep the peace, but hey, i'm no jerk. My mom would never talk to me like that and i'm surely not going to be spoken to like that by her!!! Thanks for your advice girls, I tried.....

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Jo, like I have said, she is SERIOUSLY effed up in the head. She has some set to talk to you like that.

You have tried, but she is never going to see the full picture of what is happening or what she has done.

To make you feel like this makes me FURIOUS!!!


Oh, and thanks for the nice things you have said in your original post. Love you!

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Its ok, I feel better knowing that I tried to do the right thing and now I can put my mind to ease about it. She makes me nuts!

And your welcome.... You're my favorite Dot. (And yes I know another one!) We love you... all three of us! Me, Johnny and your NIECE Giana!!!!

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Ugh!! How obnoxious! To yell at you for 45 minutes and then call back this morning to yell at you again!! I want to punch her out for you! You did all you could... and I would've totally told my hubby everything too! Breathe deep and realize that at least one negative person will be at your shower!!

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Posted by Stefanie

I would answer the phone and see what she has to say.

If she starts yelling at you again, hang up the phone.

Shame on her for yelling at you. I mean, who does she think she is anyway?

Re: I need to vent about my MIL- long, sorry