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Re: sorry if this starts real drama

i have to say, i am one of the anons on the relationship board, and personally by the time I went there I was looking to find support/advice from people who have already been there. I dont really have friends who have been in my situation and I knew that one here there are people that HAVE been there.

Posted 12/28/07 5:37 PM

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Re: sorry if this starts real drama

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i have to say, i am one of the anons on the relationship board, and personally by the time I went there I was looking to find support/advice from people who have already been there. I dont really have friends who have been in my situation and I knew that one here there are people that HAVE been there.

i saw your post on there - i wasn't referring to anyone in particular. especially, in your situation, it seems like you tried to work things out and it just didn't work. i am sorry for all you are going thru Chat Icon

Posted 12/28/07 6:56 PM

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thank you, i didnt think you were talking about me, and yes, i was actually also surprised at the amount of ppl on the relationship board that are in the same boat i am!!

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Posted 12/29/07 12:31 AM

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Re: sorry if this starts real drama

I wondered many times why people could complain about their SO so much.

But in the end I feel so sorry people feel the need to come here and ask for advice or just vent. They must feel so sad in their life. So I can understand.

I personally would never post about DH. Mostly because I don't have any issues with him and I am very happy in my marriage.

Posted 12/29/07 9:19 AM

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Posted by Ophelia

I couldn't post anything really serious about my dh b/c I just couldn't stand to have it out there...in the air, for him not to be able to defend himself.

you would only see my one-sided angry/hurt perspective and it's unfair.

so many things in relationships are based on the dynamic you have as a couple...the way you act and react with each other.

I cannot tell you how many times I've misunderstood something he's said or done by my mind reacting to quickly to what I PERCEIVED him to be doing/meaning...and only after I let it sink in does it become clear.

and sometimes I am wrong. and he is wrongfully accused. It's bad enough I do it....I can't have other people condemning him too.

and even when I am right to be hurt..I could not hold him up to public scrutiny...b/c I believe there is a little fault in all of us...even when we are wronged...we are in too close proximity...too close to each other to be so clean...so free of guilt....

so I tend to not comment... I tend not to write about how last Tuesday he made me sad...b/c I equally do not comment on last Thursday, just being with him made me so happy, I could have died then a fulfilled woman.

those agonies and ecstacies are ours. and a few friends who keep my confidences.

but that's just the way I am...and I know he'd be hurt or embarrassed to see his name...his life up in lights.

but others may not care. my dh is not like yours and yours is not like mine as we are not alike.

whatever gets the poison out...whatever method works...use it. be it here with us, or in your home with your SO. I would not fault anyone for airing out their guts. we all need to do it on occassion.