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mrswask
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
I really think at this point you should tell your sister - especially after how they acted yesterday - absolutely disgusting that grown women would act this way and I think she needs to know some things about the character of people she calls her friends!
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lvdolphins
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
I would Definitley tell your sister about this. She needs knew friends. These girls are azzes and I am sorry you went through this!
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| Posted 7/15/07 9:13 AM |
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BigB
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Sometimes you just have to let things go. It isn't really worth it to get into anything with these ladies. Most likely your sister's feelings will get hurt and yet, she most likely will still talk to these people anyway.
If you were willing from the beginning to pay for the entire thing, then you did just that.
I know it has been hard for you! Beleive me, I have BTDT many times over, but soon, it will be your neice/nephew that is born not theirs!
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| Posted 7/15/07 9:14 AM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
OH...MY...GOD.
Do you have it anywhere in writing/emails what they'd pay?
If so, I'd take them both to Judge Judy and embarrass the **** out of them on national television. 
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| Posted 7/15/07 9:18 AM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
wow...that's terrible!
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| Posted 7/15/07 11:40 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
OMG Michelle! some "friends" they are! 
and I would make SURE your sister finds out at some point. they are pieces of crap!
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| Posted 7/15/07 11:43 AM |
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Kate07
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by MrsRbk
I was not going to say anything to my sister about this, but I feel soooo incredibly disrespected by the way these girls treated me yesterday. And she should really know what kind of friends she has.
I would definitely say something if I were you. Just be careful how you say it since these are supposedly your sisters friends (some friends!). But I think she should definitely know this. I mean if it were the reverse case I'm sure your sister would spend the money on a shower for either of them.
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| Posted 7/15/07 11:55 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by BigB
Sometimes you just have to let things go. It isn't really worth it to get into anything with these ladies. Most likely your sister's feelings will get hurt and yet, she most likely will still talk to these people anyway.
If you were willing from the beginning to pay for the entire thing, then you did just that.
I know it has been hard for you! Beleive me, I have BTDT many times over, but soon, it will be your neice/nephew that is born not theirs!
as much as it pains me, I agree with this. What would be the benefit of telling your sister. You might put a wedge in between you two with that info. In enough time your sister will see her "friends" true colors. It will come out eventually.
Take the high road. You did a great thing for your sister and that's all that matters. When the baby comes it will be special for you because you are the AUNT! Not them. Phooey on them.
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| Posted 7/15/07 11:58 AM |
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2girlsforme
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by BigB
Sometimes you just have to let things go. It isn't really worth it to get into anything with these ladies. Most likely your sister's feelings will get hurt and yet, she most likely will still talk to these people anyway.
If you were willing from the beginning to pay for the entire thing, then you did just that.
I know it has been hard for you! Believe me, I have BTDT many times over, but soon, it will be your niece/nephew that is born not theirs!
as much as it pains me, I agree with this. What would be the benefit of telling your sister. You might put a wedge in between you two with that info. In enough time your sister will see her "friends" true colors. It will come out eventually.
Take the high road. You did a great thing for your sister and that's all that matters. When the baby comes it will be special for you because you are the AUNT! Not them. Poe on them.
I also agree. I have a sister who I am very close to and while I would have great difficulty keeping my mouth shut, I think its the best long term plan. I also wonder if she won't hear it from someone else or maybe even "their" version from them. AT that point you have carte blanche to clear up any "misunderstanding."
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| Posted 7/15/07 1:46 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by 2girlsforme
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by BigB
Sometimes you just have to let things go. It isn't really worth it to get into anything with these ladies. Most likely your sister's feelings will get hurt and yet, she most likely will still talk to these people anyway.
If you were willing from the beginning to pay for the entire thing, then you did just that.
I know it has been hard for you! Believe me, I have BTDT many times over, but soon, it will be your niece/nephew that is born not theirs!
as much as it pains me, I agree with this. What would be the benefit of telling your sister. You might put a wedge in between you two with that info. In enough time your sister will see her "friends" true colors. It will come out eventually.
Take the high road. You did a great thing for your sister and that's all that matters. When the baby comes it will be special for you because you are the AUNT! Not them. Poe on them.
I also agree. I have a sister who I am very close to and while I would have great difficulty keeping my mouth shut, I think its the best long term plan. I also wonder if she won't hear it from someone else or maybe even "their" version from them. AT that point you have carte blanche to clear up any "misunderstanding."
Actually, my husband had a long talk with my BIL about this yesterday while they were over. He's not upset about the $$ so much as he's totally pizzed off at the way I was treated by these girls on Saturday. In addition, I received an email yesterday morning (which sent me waaaaaaaay over the edge) telling me that I was rude and inappropriate to expect them to help with the cost. But what really pushed me over the edge was her comment in the email basically saying that I since she is my sister, I should have done this out of the good will of my heart and not have expected anything in return. Which of course, I do not ever expect anything in return from any of my family memebers. We are an extremly close family. But when she questioned my sincerity towards my family, that was going way over the line. I did fire back a lengthy email to these girls last night, because I felt I had to. It's not about the $$, it really isn't. It's about their total disregard for the family of someone they consider a friend, and to treat her family the way they did was completely dispictable.
I will not be talking to my sister about this because I do not want her to have this over her head anytime she thinks about how wonderful a time she had at her baby shower. I will most definately take the high road here, and let her have just a happy memory of her day.
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| Posted 7/16/07 10:02 AM |
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Bri2
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by 2girlsforme
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by BigB
Sometimes you just have to let things go. It isn't really worth it to get into anything with these ladies. Most likely your sister's feelings will get hurt and yet, she most likely will still talk to these people anyway.
If you were willing from the beginning to pay for the entire thing, then you did just that.
I know it has been hard for you! Believe me, I have BTDT many times over, but soon, it will be your niece/nephew that is born not theirs!
as much as it pains me, I agree with this. What would be the benefit of telling your sister. You might put a wedge in between you two with that info. In enough time your sister will see her "friends" true colors. It will come out eventually.
Take the high road. You did a great thing for your sister and that's all that matters. When the baby comes it will be special for you because you are the AUNT! Not them. Poe on them.
I also agree. I have a sister who I am very close to and while I would have great difficulty keeping my mouth shut, I think its the best long term plan. I also wonder if she won't hear it from someone else or maybe even "their" version from them. AT that point you have carte blanche to clear up any "misunderstanding."
Actually, my husband had a long talk with my BIL about this yesterday while they were over. He's not upset about the $$ so much as he's totally pizzed off at the way I was treated by these girls on Saturday. In addition, I received an email yesterday morning (which sent me waaaaaaaay over the edge) telling me that I was rude and inappropriate to expect them to help with the cost. But what really pushed me over the edge was her comment in the email basically saying that I since she is my sister, I should have done this out of the good will of my heart and not have expected anything in return. Which of course, I do not ever expect anything in return from any of my family memebers. We are an extremly close family. But when she questioned my sincerity towards my family, that was going way over the line. I did fire back a lengthy email to these girls last night, because I felt I had to. It's not about the $$, it really isn't. It's about their total disregard for the family of someone they consider a friend, and to treat her family the way they did was completely dispictable.
I will not be talking to my sister about this because I do not want her to have this over her head anytime she thinks about how wonderful a time she had at her baby shower. I will most definately take the high road here, and let her have just a happy memory of her day.
I am sorry this happened-
They nosed their way into this all on their own and now have the nerve to turn it around on you? BALLSY. I guess they wanted the glory of being hosts without the need to chip in. They are 100% in the wrong here. Having made such a big deal to co-host, they should have already had in mind that they would have some sort of financial responsibility. (If I remember correctly, didn't one of these friends actually come to you to ask if you would like to coordinate with her as if SHE was doing the shower throwing?)
I think you are handling it the right way. I would just be prepared for them not to be as loving as you and somewhere down the line telling your sister what happened and playing it like you were the bad guy. They seem to be this way . . . .
Keep us posted . . . What a bunch of morons . . . .
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| Posted 7/16/07 10:53 AM |
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LiPo
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Yeah I would tell your sister..how do people feel good acting like that?
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| Posted 7/16/07 11:11 AM |
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Katie111806
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by Bri
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by 2girlsforme
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by BigB
Sometimes you just have to let things go. It isn't really worth it to get into anything with these ladies. Most likely your sister's feelings will get hurt and yet, she most likely will still talk to these people anyway.
If you were willing from the beginning to pay for the entire thing, then you did just that.
I know it has been hard for you! Believe me, I have BTDT many times over, but soon, it will be your niece/nephew that is born not theirs!
as much as it pains me, I agree with this. What would be the benefit of telling your sister. You might put a wedge in between you two with that info. In enough time your sister will see her "friends" true colors. It will come out eventually.
Take the high road. You did a great thing for your sister and that's all that matters. When the baby comes it will be special for you because you are the AUNT! Not them. Poe on them.
I also agree. I have a sister who I am very close to and while I would have great difficulty keeping my mouth shut, I think its the best long term plan. I also wonder if she won't hear it from someone else or maybe even "their" version from them. AT that point you have carte blanche to clear up any "misunderstanding."
Actually, my husband had a long talk with my BIL about this yesterday while they were over. He's not upset about the $$ so much as he's totally pizzed off at the way I was treated by these girls on Saturday. In addition, I received an email yesterday morning (which sent me waaaaaaaay over the edge) telling me that I was rude and inappropriate to expect them to help with the cost. But what really pushed me over the edge was her comment in the email basically saying that I since she is my sister, I should have done this out of the good will of my heart and not have expected anything in return. Which of course, I do not ever expect anything in return from any of my family memebers. We are an extremly close family. But when she questioned my sincerity towards my family, that was going way over the line. I did fire back a lengthy email to these girls last night, because I felt I had to. It's not about the $$, it really isn't. It's about their total disregard for the family of someone they consider a friend, and to treat her family the way they did was completely dispictable.
I will not be talking to my sister about this because I do not want her to have this over her head anytime she thinks about how wonderful a time she had at her baby shower. I will most definately take the high road here, and let her have just a happy memory of her day.
I am sorry this happened-
They nosed their way into this all on their own and now have the nerve to turn it around on you? BALLSY. I guess they wanted the glory of being hosts without the need to chip in. They are 100% in the wrong here. Having made such a big deal to co-host, they should have already had in mind that they would have some sort of financial responsibility. (If I remember correctly, didn't one of these friends actually come to you to ask if you would like to coordinate with her as if SHE was doing the shower throwing?)
I think you are handling it the right way. I would just be prepared for them not to be as loving as you and somewhere down the line telling your sister what happened and playing it like you were the bad guy. They seem to be this way . . . .
Keep us posted . . . What a bunch of morons . . . .
I totally agree with the PP. What a bunch of useless trash, and I'm so sorry you are going through this. I applaud you for taking the high road and not upsetting your sister, you are one amazing woman. If these women ever somehow turn it on you I will personally kick their azzes. 
You don't need this, and I'm sorry! 
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saraH
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
I also think that this will get back to your sister, one way or the other. I commend you for not "running" to her and starting drama, but I know that her friends will talk about how rude you were for asking them for money. kwim?
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| Posted 7/16/07 12:27 PM |
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leighdvm
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
You are a much better person than me....I would have not only told their cheap azzes off (out of earshot of my sister), but definitey told my sister about it.....
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| Posted 7/16/07 12:35 PM |
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lmnscc
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Firstly your sister needs to know about this. I would be triple ****** at my sister if she didn't tell me about a friend or two of mine being like this. Family first. They disrespected you and your sister by pretending to host an event like they did.
Secondly, keep all the e-mails and bills/receipts. You need to go to small claims court. You have the proof in the e-mail. I would tell your sister about it and what you intend to do. Next tell these two girls about going to court to give them the opportunity to pay. If they don't, follow through, regardless of how much the money is.
She could have gone about this totally diff. She could have said I'll give you $25 a week until my portion is paid off, but she was a b!tch. She deserves to learn what commitement means. GL.
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| Posted 7/16/07 12:52 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
What was the outcome of your DH's conversation with your BIL? Was he going to say anything to your sister?
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| Posted 7/16/07 1:11 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Wow these chicks are really something else. I give you alot of credit for taking the high road here. But I think you handled it well - because you at least fired back at her pathetic E-mail about you being inappropriate. I hope you said that she should have mentioned all this when she wanted her name as a "hostess" on the invite.
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| Posted 7/16/07 1:14 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
Posted by mrswask
What was the outcome of your DH's conversation with your BIL? Was he going to say anything to your sister?
Thanks everyone for your support! Sometimes I second guess myself, but I know in this instance I am 100% in the right.
Right now my BIL really just wants my sister to enjoy the high she's on after her shower. And I totally agree. I have no doubt that these girls will say something to her first and if or when they do, I will most definately then talk to my sister about it. She's just starting her 9th month of pregnancy, and I just want her to enjoy this time in her life right now. When the time is right, I'll have a conversation with her about it.
Thanks again everyone!
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SuzyQ
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Re: UPDATE AT BOTTOM: Soooooooooooo Livid
That sounds like a good idea. You should tell her down the road someday. She needs to know what kind of "friends" she has, although I have a feeling they will probably show their true colors to your sister someday if they haven't already. You're a great sister. It sounds like you threw her a beautiful shower.
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