when can you start telling people?

I'm not pregnant yet, but I've been wondering about this lately. A lot of people at work have just become pregnant or are having babies soon. My friend who had a baby last year said you should wait 3 months to tell people. But there are two women at work who have told people much sooner...one was only 5 weeks and the other 11 weeks.

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Personally, when/if I get pg, I will tell my parents, inlaws, our siblings and close friends right away. I couldn't hold it in. If there was some sort of problem or godforbid we lost the baby, I would need their support for sure. As for work, I will probably wait until 3 months. They don't need to know right away.

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I'm 5w today and the only people who know are my best friend and DH's best friend ... and a good friend on this board

After our first appointment when we see a heartbeat and hear from the doctor's mouth that everything's ok, we will tell our parents and siblings.

After that we'll probably tell some close friends around 10 weeks or so and the rest after our 12 week appointment when I'm out of my first trimester.

As for work, I'm hoping to hold out until mid-September, putting me at about 16 weeks. I'm little though so I don't know if I'll be forced to tell them earlier considering 2 pounds on my frame is noticeable. We'll see.

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When I get PG, I will of course tell DH and my mom, ( she is spooky and will probably know before me)But for other family and friends I plan on waiting until I show or 3-4 months. I would however tell you ladies . Im sort of strange in that respect where I feel like Im going to jinx myslef.

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we told our immediate family at 6 weeks, then everyone else at 9 weeks. yes, we shoud have waited but it's very hard to keep in.

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This is a personal preference. I had a m/c very early on the first time I got pg and I was so glad that only my dh knew. I later told some friends what happenend.
However when I got pg again, this made me cautious...we didn't really tell any close family or friends until we saw a heartbeat, and I even held off longer than that for some family. I am a teacher, so I didn't want to tell my job right away...however some people figured out. So I told my boss around 11 weeks, most family and friends knew between 10-12 weeks. Some even later. It was so hard to wait.

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I have a huge mouth and cannot keep a secret. Nothing about me is secret so I know I will tell everyone right away. If i get PG this summer I will not tell my boss because I get tenure at the begining of sept. I don't know why but I don't want to tell him until that is set in stone.

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I think it is a personal decision. I have told my DH that I don't want to spill the beans to the entire family until 8 weeks or we have seen the heartbeat. At the same time, my close friends, parents & siblings will know as soon as we do...Just in case we need some support, we want to know we have it

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It's a personl decision. We've been going through IF issues this past year. And because of that, should we be blessed enough to get pg, I would want to wait until we are in the clear to tell anyone because I'm so terrifiied of m/c. But at the same time, I'd want to tell our immediate family (parents) just for the support factor.

This is how I feel now, who knows how I'll feel if we get pregnant.

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It's a personal decision, whatever you and DH agree on.

We told our families early on with the first and second at/around 7 weeks. With the first I told work (had to due to my field- only told the bosses) around 10 weeks (then the rest of the company after 12 weeks).

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You should tell when you're ready and you'll know. We had only told my best friend when we were pregnant. We had trips planned to visit and tell our parents in person. Then we M/C. I ended up telling our close family and friends because we needed their support. Now I know that the next time I'm pregnant I'll tell all of those that supported us through the M/C because if anything happened I'd need them again. And if they help during the bad times, they should be part of the good times too.

But that is a personal choice. As for work, I still have not told them what I went through. I will do my best to hold off for 12 weeks before telling them.

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The first time I got pregnant, I just told two friends who where also PG at the time, and DH told some of his friends and family. Unfortunately I m/c at 5 weeks, and I had DH tell everyone we told what happened because it made me cry to talk about. I told other people a few months later that we were trying and I had a m/c. I am now pg again (4 weeks) and no one knows except DH my DR and dentist because I had an appt today. This weekend I am sure more people will find out because we are going up to NY for the weekend, and if I am not drinking, that is going to be a big clue for everyone. If I had it my way, I don't think I would tell anyone this time until at least we went to the DR and had a sonogram.