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Without a doubt, one if not both of them are functioning alcoholics. I'm going to lean towards one parent drinking more than the other.

I'm sure they would still be able to function perfectly fine in case of an emergency. If this is their every day behavior, they are not feeling the effects the way those of us who don't drink regularly or excessively do. If I drank that much today, I'd be sick and crippled the next day, but there was a time 10 years ago where I'd just have to take a tylenol and eat a big breakfast the next day and I'd be good to go. For those who are counting, my oldest is 9.

It's highly unlikely that CPS would be called in the event of an emergency just because they smelled alcohol on the parents' breath. It's not illegal to drink and parent, especially in your own home, and if they have the wherewithall to call 911 in an emergency, then they're not actually endangering their child.

I'm in no way condoning this behavior, but I don't view it as grossly negligent either.

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Posted by eroxgirl

Without a doubt, one if not both of them are functioning alcoholics. I'm going to lean towards one parent drinking more than the other.

I'm sure they would still be able to function perfectly fine in case of an emergency. If this is their every day behavior, they are not feeling the effects the way those of us who don't drink regularly or excessively do. If I drank that much today, I'd be sick and crippled the next day, but there was a time 10 years ago where I'd just have to take a tylenol and eat a big breakfast the next day and I'd be good to go. For those who are counting, my oldest is 9.

It's highly unlikely that CPS would be called in the event of an emergency just because they smelled alcohol on the parents' breath. It's not illegal to drink and parent, especially in your own home, and if they have the wherewithall to call 911 in an emergency, then they're not actually endangering their child.

I'm in no way condoning this behavior, but I don't view it as grossly negligent either.

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What do you think?

But is it happening every night that they drink 2 bottles? If one out of 7 nights they drink 2 bottles and the rest of the time they only drink 1 is it the same problem?

I don't drink so I don't know how it would affect me. Also how old are the kids? I personally think that has a lot to do with it as well. All kids 5 and older I don't know that I would have a problem with it. But all kids under 5 I would. There is definitely a difference.

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I actually had an old co-worker who said the exact same thing.. I think it's weird... but that comes from my childhood. My father ALWAYS drank with dinner, not usually excessively - a glass of wine or two. One time, he happened to drink pretty excessively and my teenage older brother had a car accident the same night. Adding to the stress of the situation was that my father was drunk and could not drive to the scene. I always think of that so... I feel like it's kind of irresponsible to do it every single night. Then again, to each their own.

ETA- I drink a glass after a hard day and I do drink on the weekends, so it's not like I don't drink at all. LOL.

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Irresponsible. If their kids were spending the night out at grandma's or a friend's house & all the adults in the house drank this much once their kid went to bed, would that be ok with them? I really wonder.

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Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by eroxgirl

Without a doubt, one if not both of them are functioning alcoholics. I'm going to lean towards one parent drinking more than the other.

I'm sure they would still be able to function perfectly fine in case of an emergency. If this is their every day behavior, they are not feeling the effects the way those of us who don't drink regularly or excessively do. If I drank that much today, I'd be sick and crippled the next day, but there was a time 10 years ago where I'd just have to take a tylenol and eat a big breakfast the next day and I'd be good to go. For those who are counting, my oldest is 9.

It's highly unlikely that CPS would be called in the event of an emergency just because they smelled alcohol on the parents' breath. It's not illegal to drink and parent, especially in your own home, and if they have the wherewithall to call 911 in an emergency, then they're not actually endangering their child.

I'm in no way condoning this behavior, but I don't view it as grossly negligent either.

Just because they can "handle" their liquor doesn't mean they aren't still legally intoxicated. What if, because they think they can handle their liquor and they are "fine", they get in a car and drive in an emergency??

Sorry but two drunk a$$ parents, IMO, is completely irresponsible. A drink or two is fine, killing two or more bottles of wine EVERY night is a problem.

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Posted by NervousNell

Posted by NYCGirl80

Posted by NervousNell

2 bottles of wine is 8 glasses.
So 4 glasses each.
Depending on your tolerance, what you eat, and over the course of how long- that is a lot.
For me, I'd be very sick if I drank 4 glasses over the course of a night. But I don't handle booze well.
I know people who would be ok and functioning with that much. (Obviously over the legal limit for driving, but not passing out or getting sick like I would be)

Regardless- that is a lot to drink EVERY night.
And I am one who LOVES my booze

Actually, a serving of wine is considered 5oz. Each bottle of wine has about 25 oz, so that's 5 glasses each. Either way, 4 or 5 glasses in a night is excessive. That's a bottle per person per night.

It's irresponsible with children. When DH is not home, I will never drink more than 1 glass of wine. He doesn't drink, so when he is home, it's not an issue, but I still rarely have more than 2 glasses in a single night.

Yes, but when I pour a glass it's always more than 5 oz. When I have a bottle I get 4 glasses out of it- even in a restaurant when they pour for me.
Maybe that is why I can't handle more than 3 glasses of wine!

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Posted by eroxgirl

Posted by Hofstra26

Posted by eroxgirl

Without a doubt, one if not both of them are functioning alcoholics. I'm going to lean towards one parent drinking more than the other.

I'm sure they would still be able to function perfectly fine in case of an emergency. If this is their every day behavior, they are not feeling the effects the way those of us who don't drink regularly or excessively do. If I drank that much today, I'd be sick and crippled the next day, but there was a time 10 years ago where I'd just have to take a tylenol and eat a big breakfast the next day and I'd be good to go. For those who are counting, my oldest is 9.

It's highly unlikely that CPS would be called in the event of an emergency just because they smelled alcohol on the parents' breath. It's not illegal to drink and parent, especially in your own home, and if they have the wherewithall to call 911 in an emergency, then they're not actually endangering their child.

I'm in no way condoning this behavior, but I don't view it as grossly negligent either.

Just because they can "handle" their liquor doesn't mean they aren't still legally intoxicated. What if, because they think they can handle their liquor and they are "fine", they get in a car and drive in an emergency??

Sorry but two drunk a$$ parents, IMO, is completely irresponsible. A drink or two is fine, killing two or more bottles of wine EVERY night is a problem.

I was speaking more to the people who were saying they'd be down for the count and just saying that if this is their regular behavior they're functional. I never said sober.

I also said functional ALCOHOLICS. I think calling people alcoholics MORE than implies they have a problem, no? I never said they didn't.

I also said a doctor in an ER wouldn't call CPS on them based on a one-time emergency situation where they may or may not smell alcohol on their breath. Because they wouldn't unless they were rolling into the ER drunk with a sick child rather frequently. The doctor would have no way of knowing whether it was a one-off or a regular occurrence. You don't ruin people's lives because of something you see once.

I also said if they CALL 911. I never said drive. I would hope to God they don't drive in an emergency.

Before you scold me, please make sure you've read my post clearly. I never said it was okay. They take a risk that most of us wouldn't every day. I have more first hand experience with alcoholics than I care to talk about. It goes beyond irresponsibilty. In my case, my alcoholic parent was far and away the more responsible one.

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Posted by eroxgirl

Without a doubt, one if not both of them are functioning alcoholics. I'm going to lean towards one parent drinking more than the other.

I'm sure they would still be able to function perfectly fine in case of an emergency. If this is their every day behavior, they are not feeling the effects the way those of us who don't drink regularly or excessively do. If I drank that much today, I'd be sick and crippled the next day, but there was a time 10 years ago where I'd just have to take a tylenol and eat a big breakfast the next day and I'd be good to go. For those who are counting, my oldest is 9.

It's highly unlikely that CPS would be called in the event of an emergency just because they smelled alcohol on the parents' breath. It's not illegal to drink and parent, especially in your own home, and if they have the wherewithall to call 911 in an emergency, then they're not actually endangering their child.

I'm in no way condoning this behavior, but I don't view it as grossly negligent either.

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Posted by nferrandi

Posted by eroxgirl

Without a doubt, one if not both of them are functioning alcoholics. I'm going to lean towards one parent drinking more than the other.

I'm sure they would still be able to function perfectly fine in case of an emergency. If this is their every day behavior, they are not feeling the effects the way those of us who don't drink regularly or excessively do. If I drank that much today, I'd be sick and crippled the next day, but there was a time 10 years ago where I'd just have to take a tylenol and eat a big breakfast the next day and I'd be good to go. For those who are counting, my oldest is 9.

It's highly unlikely that CPS would be called in the event of an emergency just because they smelled alcohol on the parents' breath. It's not illegal to drink and parent, especially in your own home, and if they have the wherewithall to call 911 in an emergency, then they're not actually endangering their child.

I'm in no way condoning this behavior, but I don't view it as grossly negligent either.

I'm more of this thinking as well. 2 bottles is not an every night occurrence around here, but we have definitely had 2 bottles. And no, I'm not bombed after 4 glasses of wine. Especially over dinner and then sitting on our deck hanging out for the night. If there was an emergency I would function just fine and would have no concerns of the hospital calling CPS on me.

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Ok so I'm glad that I'm not in the minority. I feel like 2 bottles of wine is excessive and not the norm for every night. My DH disagrees and feels that our friend was probably exaggerating when she said that but I don't know. It just makes me worried for them and their kids if god forbid something did happen and they were too drunk to deal with it. I've never seen either of them completely wasted- whenever we get together it's usually a group of us and we all enjoy a few drinks either at a bar or someone's house. But I keep thinking about what a lot of you said. Maybe they are functioning alcoholics and that is the norm for them. DH and I talked about it again over the weekend and I realized that maybe I was wrong about the CPS thing but we both agreed that we would not feel comfortable leaving our kids with them. Their kids are older than ours- 11, (twins), 9, & 6 but they have offered to babysit for our kids before. I just don't think I'd ever feel comfortable with that.