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BananaJacks
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What do you think?
Help me settle a debate. DH & I don't agree. We were at a friend's last weekend and one of the wives (good friend of ours for years) was talking about how she and her DH drink together every night once the kids are in bed. Mostly everyone said they do the same, have a few beers or wine at night but she continued to say that they often finish 2 or more bottles of wine. The conversation then went on to something else and that was that. Until we got home and DH and I started talking about this. One of us feels like it's no big deal, our friend and her husband drink and hang out together after long, often stressful days. The other feels (strongly) that these two are completely irresponsible parents who clearly have problems with alcohol because if god forbid something happened to one of their children in the middle of the night they would be too drunk to act appropriately or couldn't/shouldn't drive or worse, have CPS called if they showed up to dr or hospital with 4 children and alcohol on their breath. The original conversation with our friends was lighthearted and we all joked and laughed about how we all drink too, that's what gets us through the crazy days as parents, etc. but the discussion DH and I had later got heated and obviously came out that we both feel very differently about this subject. What do you think?
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shadows
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What do you think?
DH and I drink wine pretty much every night - but not two bottles, and we don't have kids. I'm not normally one to judge people's drinking habits, but I do think that's a bit excessive.
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| Posted 2/22/17 7:22 PM |
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MrsG823
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What do you think?
Two bottles of wine or more a night every night is definitely a sign of a problem. I don't think it makes them irresponsible parents per se- if one of their children were sick and they need to go to the hospital they could
Call 911. My guess is they are both pretty functional alcoholics if they are having 4+ drinks per night each every night.
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| Posted 2/22/17 7:31 PM |
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BananaJacks
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Re: What do you think?
Posted by MrsG823
Two bottles of wine or more a night every night is definitely a sign of a problem. I don't think it makes them irresponsible parents per se- if one of their children were sick and they need to go to the hospital they could
Call 911. My guess is they are both pretty functional alcoholics if they are having 4+ drinks per night each every night.
This came up with DH and I to call 911 but was countered with the Drs at the hospital would call CPS on them
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| Posted 2/22/17 7:33 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: What do you think?
2 full bottles of wine every night = functional alcoholic
They may feel fine, but that is excessive. If they had an emergency I hope they would call an ambulance and not drive.
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ChilisWife
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In my opinion, both parents sharing 2 bottles of wine each night with young kids in the house is irresponsible. Sorry. Once in awhile I could see, or if there was another adult present maybe. But if there was some kind of emergency where G-d forbid they passed out and couldn't hear the kid choking or the fire alarm going off or someone breaking in.....and the kids couldn't easily wake them.....ugh the thought scares me.
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| Posted 2/22/17 7:46 PM |
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LuckyStar
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DH and I will frequently have a beer or glass of wine at night. One, 2 tops. 2 bottles of wine is excessive and IMO, irresponsible.
I agree about being too drunk to appropriately handle an emergency, though I don't think the hospital would call CPS if there were an emergency and one of the children arrived by ambulance. They would have to be pretty drunk/nonfunctional to raise enough flags for a BAC.
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stinger
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Re: What do you think?
Is that one bottle each or is one of them drinking most of the 2 bottles by themselves. Curious if one drinks more than the other.
I would be drunk if i had an entire bottle of wine in a matter of a couple of hours (after a long day and assuming by the time kids are in bed not more than 2-3 hours before they are in bed). Drunk every night = no bueno
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| Posted 2/22/17 8:13 PM |
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stinger
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Re: What do you think?
Posted by BananaJacks
Posted by MrsG823
Two bottles of wine or more a night every night is definitely a sign of a problem. I don't think it makes them irresponsible parents per se- if one of their children were sick and they need to go to the hospital they could
Call 911. My guess is they are both pretty functional alcoholics if they are having 4+ drinks per night each every night.
This came up with DH and I to call 911 but was countered with the Drs at the hospital would call CPS on them
I saw this after I responded. Not condoning their drinking excessively but i would NOT call CPS for this reason alone
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MsSissy
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Re: What do you think?
Yeah I think that's a problem. And I'm probably in the minority since I rarely drink at home. But to me it's a problem.
I know someone who was in this situation. She actually got hurt and neither of them were in shape to take her to the hospital.
Thankfully it wasn't bad and she recovered without seeing a dr. But it opened her eyes big time. Because they did have 2 kids about 10 & 12 at the time. And she realized one of them needs to be sober incase something happened in the future.
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| Posted 2/22/17 8:26 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Growing up with an alcoholic and being related to numerous alcoholics that behavior screams issues with me but it could be from my background and the fact that dh and I never drink together. It's always one or the other because god forbid something happened to dd we always want there to be a fully functioning adult.
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Peainapod
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Re: What do you think?
two or more bottles a night..i would say they have a problem and may be on the road to functioning alcoholism.
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| Posted 2/22/17 8:55 PM |
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MrsM429
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That just doesn't sit well with me. A glass of wine is one thing- an entire bottle per person is not normal imo.
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gina409
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Re: What do you think?
Posted by LSP2005
2 full bottles of wine every night = functional alcoholic
They may feel fine, but that is excessive. If they had an emergency I hope they would call an ambulance and not drive.
This
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StarsStripes
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2 glasses ok..2 bottles no way
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drpepper318
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I'm assuming they'd be very drunk from this. If I have a glass I am tipsy, forget about a whole bottle.
This is really really bad news if they're home alone with their kids and are fully responsible for the kids' wellbeing overnight but they're both piss drunk. Knowing what's going on, I'd feel incredibly guilty if I did nothing about this and then something happened to those kids. Not just irresponsible of them but downright negligent and dangerous. Are they hung over every morning?! This sounds crazy to me. If they're going to drink like this, one of them needs to stay fully sober each night to care for the kids if the need arises.
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FirstMate
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Re: What do you think?
Over the course of how long? If they get home around 6 let's say and each have 3 glasses of wine until they go to bed around say 11, I don't think it's a big deal. There's plenty of time to digest and process. However, 3 glasses of wine in an hour would give a real nice buzz and to do that every night would seem problematic.
Regardless, I don't think it makes them irresponsible parents.
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chilltocam
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2+ bottles of wine for 2 people, on a regular basis is a LOT! I love a glass of wine, but I would never be able to function at work the next day if I drank an entire bottle the night before. I don't know that CPS would be called if god forbid they had to call 911, but would they be able to even realize if 911 was needed or if there was a fire or something else going on? Scary, IMHO
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Hofstra26
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Re: What do you think?
I feel like when you have kids, at least one parent needs to be coherent and capable at ALL times. I don't have an issue with someone drinking a glass or two of wine at night, even every night, but to kill TWO bottles a night (or more) means BOTH parents are legally intoxicated. God forbid something happens neither one will be able to drive or take care of the kids in an emergency. I do think that is completely irresponsible and selfish. When you're a parent, it's not just about you anymore..............you ALWAYS have to think about your kids first.
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NervousNell
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Re: What do you think?
2 bottles of wine is 8 glasses.
So 4 glasses each.
Depending on your tolerance, what you eat, and over the course of how long- that is a lot.
For me, I'd be very sick if I drank 4 glasses over the course of a night. But I don't handle booze well.
I know people who would be ok and functioning with that much. (Obviously over the legal limit for driving, but not passing out or getting sick like I would be)
Regardless- that is a lot to drink EVERY night.
And I am one who LOVES my booze
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Summergrl14
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Re: What do you think?
Posted by FirstMate
Over the course of how long? If they get home around 6 let's say and each have 3 glasses of wine until they go to bed around say 11, I don't think it's a big deal. There's plenty of time to digest and process. However, 3 glasses of wine in an hour would give a real nice buzz and to do that every night would seem problematic.
Regardless, I don't think it makes them irresponsible parents.
This is exactly my thought. I think the issue is that it's happening every night. DH and I usually open a bottle on a Friday or Saturday night. However, in the summer when we start the night early and are having apps and drinks before dinner we have been known to open a bottle of Rose and then another bottle hours later with dinner. It's the frequency of that much alcohol that would have me concerned.
Do they both work? If I have 2 glasses of wine on a weeknight I have the worst headache in the morning and feel awful.
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Posted by Hofstra26
I feel like when you have kids, at least one parent needs to be coherent and capable at ALL times. I don't have an issue with someone drinking a glass or two of wine at night, even every night, but to kill TWO bottles a night (or more) means BOTH parents are legally intoxicated. God forbid something happens neither one will be able to drive or take care of the kids in an emergency. I do think that is completely irresponsible and selfish. When you're a parent, it's not just about you anymore..............you ALWAYS have to think about your kids first.
Yep. This is why I have only been really tipsy a couple times since my daughter was born. I feel like even if DH is there and can drive, I'm the mother and want to make sure I'm coherent. Two bottles a night is a lot.
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| Posted 2/23/17 10:31 AM |
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Momma2015
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Re: What do you think?
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2 full bottles of wine every night = functional alcoholic
They may feel fine, but that is excessive. If they had an emergency I hope they would call an ambulance and not drive.
Agreed. I'm sure they have a very high tolerance and probably barely even feel it, but they'd still be over the legal limit.
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| Posted 2/23/17 10:35 AM |
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shadows
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Re: What do you think?
Posted by Summergrl14
Do they both work? If I have 2 glasses of wine on a weeknight I have the worst headache in the morning and feel awful.
I was going to say this too. I love my wine - but I would be unable to function or work the next day if DH and I were drinking two bottles!
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NYCGirl80
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Re: What do you think?
Posted by NervousNell
2 bottles of wine is 8 glasses.
So 4 glasses each.
Depending on your tolerance, what you eat, and over the course of how long- that is a lot.
For me, I'd be very sick if I drank 4 glasses over the course of a night. But I don't handle booze well.
I know people who would be ok and functioning with that much. (Obviously over the legal limit for driving, but not passing out or getting sick like I would be)
Regardless- that is a lot to drink EVERY night.
And I am one who LOVES my booze
Actually, a serving of wine is considered 5oz. Each bottle of wine has about 25 oz, so that's 5 glasses each. Either way, 4 or 5 glasses in a night is excessive. That's a bottle per person per night.
It's irresponsible with children. When DH is not home, I will never drink more than 1 glass of wine. He doesn't drink, so when he is home, it's not an issue, but I still rarely have more than 2 glasses in a single night.
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