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mommy2be716
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by jlm2008
Posted by babyfever24
The fact that she is ok with your parents being alone, at a restaurant in the same area just goes to show how gross of a person she is......terrible.
I wouldn't expect this to change when they move either.....the next thing will be "we live in florida we never get to see her" when they are in town...
But the thing is, the OP is ok with it too, because she is the one who actually told her parents they couldn't come to their daughters house on Christmas Eve and have to be all alone like poor souls without family
Well that's not EXACTLY how my convo went with my parents. They accepted the invite when I asked them to come by, but they aren't exactly the biggest fans of my in-laws either. I have a very close relationship with my mom, and told her what happened and she said she would rather not come because she wants to enjoy her christmas eve. She said she would maybe pop over for dessert, depending on how the night goes. I'm not one to lie and sugarcoat things, so when my MIL behaved that way I told my mom exactly what she said. My mom wasn't offended at all, because she knows she sees my daughter more than my in-laws, and she knows they will be gone for 6 months down south soon.
My parents are now getting together with one of our neighbors too. Her husband passed away last year and they have no kids, and they want to try to get her out of the house and have a nice meal with them on christmas eve. They sound pretty excited about it now.
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Posted 12/13/16 6:42 AM  |
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my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
There would be no way under the sun I would let my inlaws tell me my parents who are alone can not come to my house for a holiday. No way. Seriously the rudest thing ever.
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| Posted 12/13/16 11:14 AM |
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drpepper318
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
I think if this woman was my mil my boot would be in her face. You and your DH let her get away with too much. She needs to be put in her place. I've got no patience for bs and I wouldn't be going out of my way to accommodate someone like that. She will just demand more and more. Sorry you have to deal with that nut.
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| Posted 12/13/16 11:33 AM |
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beachbabe
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my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Who is she to tell you who you can and cannot invite to your own house??? That's balls!!
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| Posted 12/13/16 1:39 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by luvbuffet
the more you give in, the more she will demand from you. pick and choose your battles but from what you're saying, shes being completely selfish. You had to uninvite your PARENTS?!! really?....REALLLY????
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I am not touchy and can take a lot before I get mad but I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER uninvite my parents WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is soooo rude of her
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| Posted 12/13/16 1:50 PM |
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FirstMate
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
If my brother was married I would think you are talking about my mom.  Pain in the ass. She would respect the baby's schedule but I could totally see her doing all the other stuff you said. I feel your pain.
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| Posted 12/13/16 3:13 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
I didn't read any of the other replies, I just had to jump in and say w t f. How is it that other people have the ballz to dictate anything? I feel awful that she is making your family's first christmas the nightmare before christmas
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| Posted 12/13/16 6:26 PM |
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bunnyluck
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my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
If your MIL wants alone time or quality time with her granddaughter tell her to babysit on a Friday night or come over on a random Saturday afternoon. Christmas and Christmas Eve are not the time to exclude your parents because she doesn't see her granddaughter enough.
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| Posted 12/13/16 8:17 PM |
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Disneygirl17
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Yep she's insane... no one you can justify her actions. She's acting like a child.
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| Posted 12/13/16 8:42 PM |
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StarsStripes
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by Naturalmama
I am pretty laid back, I let both sets of grandparents get away with A LOT, and tend to not let much of what they do bother me. But, WHAT?!? They knew your parents would be alone on Christmas Eve and still had the nerve to tell you they didn't want them there? Those are your parents and YOUR house!!
I hate that "I don't want to share" thing that people do. My MIL tried that once, when my oldest was a baby, and I put her right in her place. My son is not a toy or a beverage- we don't share him. He is my child and he is not here solely to entertain the grandparents. Lastly, who dictates what time someone else has dinner at their house?
I'm sorry, but I am livid for you! That is ridiculous
THIS!!! WTF?? I am spending Christmas Eve at my moms and my inkaws are coming as well even ough we will see them the next day at my sister in laws house...it's Christma!!! Your parents are saints lol
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| Posted 12/13/16 9:02 PM |
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MC09
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by bunnyluck
If your MIL wants alone time or quality time with her granddaughter tell her to babysit on a Friday night or come over on a random Saturday afternoon. Christmas and Christmas Eve are not the time to exclude your parents because she doesn't see her granddaughter enough.
Right. What's stopping her from spending more time with her granddaughter? Are you preventing her from seeing her granddaughter? It sounds like you are very accommodating.
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| Posted 12/13/16 9:24 PM |
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gina409
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by MC09
Posted by bunnyluck
If your MIL wants alone time or quality time with her granddaughter tell her to babysit on a Friday night or come over on a random Saturday afternoon. Christmas and Christmas Eve are not the time to exclude your parents because she doesn't see her granddaughter enough.
Right. What's stopping her from spending more time with her granddaughter? Are you preventing her from seeing her granddaughter? It sounds like you are very accommodating.
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| Posted 12/13/16 9:48 PM |
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mommy2be716
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by MC09
Posted by bunnyluck
If your MIL wants alone time or quality time with her granddaughter tell her to babysit on a Friday night or come over on a random Saturday afternoon. Christmas and Christmas Eve are not the time to exclude your parents because she doesn't see her granddaughter enough.
Right. What's stopping her from spending more time with her granddaughter? Are you preventing her from seeing her granddaughter? It sounds like you are very accommodating.
nope not preventing her at all. She babysat for us 5 days ago lol
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| Posted 12/14/16 6:31 AM |
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
I think it just comes down to people, at least certain people, don't like change. And they want their traditions to stay the way they made it so for a period of time.
My MIL is the same way. I can't stand it. I've been with DH for 14 years now and the last 5 (since getting pregnant) have been the hardest and worst with her. It's a constant struggle and source of severe stress. I envy everyone with good relationships with their inlaws. I was never a huge fan on her but I got along with his father and his brother so much but the sad thing is MIL has destroyed that and now all 3 of them have become unbearable due to what she has done to everyone just because she's a selfish person who cannot accept that her little baby boy became an independent man... and wants MY CHILD to replace that for her. sorry but no.
My mom was dying of cancer and she still was sizing up who got more time with my DD and questioning why I wanted my last holidays with my mom to be with her and not them...
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| Posted 12/14/16 8:26 AM |
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JC297
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
what if you stagger the times of when your parents arrive? Thats what my brother does. He invites us over in the morning and then around lunch time his inlaws come over. It gives my parents time with the grandchildren since we live further away and dont see them often.
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| Posted 12/14/16 1:28 PM |
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
I am Jewish...and even *I* know that leaving people to be alone on Xmas eve is wrong.
I have not read the responses but I have to say it sounds like your MIL is dictating your life. Plus, lets face it. The baby is 4.5 months old. It IS her first Xmas, but its not FOR her. She is an infant with no understanding.
I hope your DH can speak to his parents and tell them that its wrong to leave your parents alone on Xmas eve. God FORBID they have to share loving a child.
And you can also speak to your parents and ask that they just let his parents have most of the time with the baby.
But this "we are coming at 5:30" bull$hit?
I agree with one of the PP's. Giving in is making your life miserable. I think you can have a rational convo with them and say "look, we need to compromise. I'm sorry you don't wasn't to share DD but its not right that my parents should go to a restaurant etc etc".
And frankly if she wants to be the martyr and cook, go for it.
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MC09
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Re: my MIL is insane!!!! ugh
Posted by Paramount
God FORBID they have to share loving a child.
I never understood grandparents who get jealous of the other set of grandparents spending time with the grandkid.
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