ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

I swear I never learn.

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

I don't know, my MIL hasn't seen my kids since June.

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Last time we tried to include my MIL,

**I** ended up not going so there was room for her

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

For almost 10 years -

1st - B/c I wanted to
2nd - B/c I felt it was the 'right' thing to do
3rd - B/c I felt guilty to do for my Mom and not his
4th - For my DH (even though he could care less)
5th - For my son .........


Now - I'm over it. The days of me doing ANYTHING to even remotely go out of my way for her are over and done with - and after 10 years of trying, I have exhausted all of my guilt !!!

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

GOOD YES ALL THE TIME More occasions than I even care to admit..

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

me me!!! a part of me wants my MIL to get her a$$ involved..then when she shows up and does nothing i get so mad!!!!!!

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Not my MIL but my mother

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

all the time....
I think about 1 out of 10 times it actually turns out ok.

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Posted by Tilde

Last time we tried to include my MIL,

**I** ended up not going so there was room for her

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

8 times out of 10 - YES

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Yes but only b/c my mom is usually there then i have to hear HER ******** about MIL and what she said/did

I try to keep things separate to spare myself the aggravation

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Yep, a bunch of times, so I finally stopped!

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

nope, never. BC I don't ever try to include her.

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Posted by monkeybride

Not my MIL but my mother

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

She likes to try to invite herself places.

But seems to always have an excuse not to do something.

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

I almost ALWAYS end up regretting it!!!!!

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

yes. yes. yes.
FIL too. But I'm learning. In fact, I was going to ask them to come and watch DS's last swimming lesson, to be nice, but then I decided against it bc they always make things more difficult for me.

Re: ugh, do you ever try to include your mil & then regret it?

Well I have to tell this story. I felt sorry for my husbands aunty who has only one son with no wife/kids and her husband died recently. I invited her and her son to Thanksgiving dinner. She yelled at the kids several times for just being kids and to appease her they basically ended up watching tv upstairs. But that is not the worst part. She told me to be quiet at dinner, the dinner that I cooked. I let it go but then when I was in the kitchen cleaning up laughing with my sill, she yelled at me from the other room," M, lower your voice!" I was like ***? IN FACT EVERYONE WAS QUITE STUNNED. She wanted to dominate evereything and believe me I learned my lesson!