sometimes calling home while I am at work hurts more than it helps

I have been working late and one weekend day for the past few weeks...going in at 7 and geting home at 7:30...cutting our weekend time short.

dh told me that while I was at work yesterday he didn't even ask for me.

and now I just called and he sounds so cute...telling me that I went 'bye bye" and that he's eating his "momida" of "tiya" and "queto" (cominda/tortilla/queso). he gave me a big kiss and that was it.

he's going to dh for so much now that he used to come for me for. and with the changes...I mean I completely weaned him and started working these hours within the last few weeks...

I honestly for the first time feel like I maybe did something wrong.

but I NEED to be here. and even though it is limited, I even get some of these OT hours in PAY, and if you work for the Fed, you know how rare that is these days.

but at what expense.

I am just hoping that this is 'normal' swing of affection from parent to parent....b/c if it isn't, and I am 'giving up' something more than I think by working so much, I might just die.

thanks for the cry break. this is major stinky.

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sorry!!! working stinks!!

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DH started working from home a couple days of week about a year ago, and the bond between him and DS is amazing, but he goes to DH for everything. On the weekends when I am home, he always goes to DH, cries if he goes out, holds his arms up to him, etc. I'm hoping one day it will turn back to me, but for now, it seems like he's chosen his favorite.

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I have to go to CO at the end of the week for a week...alone...DH and DD will be here...we have such a tight bond I feel like it'll be so hard when I get back Sucks being a working parent sometimes

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I know exactly how you feel. DS has been the same since he's been in daycare in DH's building. DH does drop off, pick up, and visits during lunch.

He used to be a total momma's boy but now he's all daddy.

BUT, when weekends come around when DH works, he is right back to all mommy.

It's totally just a normal swing of affections and will change back and forth a zillion times over before he is 5.

I wouldn't worry at all about it. Once things settle down at work and you spend more time with him, he will be all mommy again.

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DH spends a lot of time with DS during the week while I'm at work.

DS was all about DH recently but, he went away for the weekend and he barely looked at him yesterday. He only wanted me.

So basically, although it's this way now, it can change rather quickly.

I hope you don't have to work long hours for much longer!!! I'm about to hit my busy time and I have two business trips coming up and I'm

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It is normal.

It sucks worse than just about anything I can think of, but it is totally normal. My DD did it at about Luce's age - and she could even vocalize her preference. It killed me..

After working a lot of OT DS started to reach for DH over me too. I hate it. I hate if I don't get to put him to bed and I hate when he sleeps late and I don't get to cuddle with him in the morning before his breakfast.

It's not forever though. It's just for now. There's only 1 mommy and he knows that deep down.