Re: Suri Cruise

Posted by Sash

Posted by stickydust

Posted by mrskparetta

Posted by Sash

Am I only one that cringes with the term "you dont know what its like to reason with a toddler, or they are stubborn"

I do know whats its like, and I still see them as the child and me as the adult. I guess this was isntilled in me. Cause my mother gave me the eye and I ran

this was my point. set the rules for the child, they learn it early, they LEARN it

Let me know how that works out for you

My sister is doing it and it is working out very fine thank you!! And it will with my kids.

ETA: see its these personal snyde comments that turn the thread from people posting and debating there opinions to drama. I could easily have said:

"Good luck with controlling your kids as teens" - but i know how to debate without taking it personal.

I said over and over that its two different parentign skills and I dont think anyone is wrong for parentign the way they want.

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I do not have children yet.


but this is an asine argument/debate/drama....

I work with kids and from experience what makes a good parent has little to do with what a parent allows their child to wear during dress up.

Either way I think it is so out of line to judge another persons parenting style.

These things are trivial and do not in any way effect the big picture of a childs life.

Re: Suri Cruise

FTR I saw this picture in a mag today and it said she was going to a Halloween party. So it isn't an everyday outfit!

Re: Suri Cruise

Posted by KateDevine

Posted by mrskparetta

Posted by Sash

Am I only one that cringes with the term "you dont know what its like to reason with a toddler, or they are stubborn"

I do know whats its like, and I still see them as the child and me as the adult. I guess this was isntilled in me. Cause my mother gave me the eye and I ran

this was my point. set the rules for the child, they learn it early, they LEARN it

I'm going to save this for you and repost it in 2.5 years

Yes, you make your rules, but some days fighting the battle isn't worth it.

Maybe five days out of seven, Suri is in sneaks or flats, but the two she has on these heels, she is photographed.

And no matter what, no matter how strict the parents are, there are days where you give into your kids

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You know, one thing always strikes me as odd...why does anyone care what someone else does with their kid? I mean, abuse and neglect aside, why is it anyone else's business what shoes this kid is wearing? I mean, yes, she's a celeb's kid, so obviously it's a topic of conversation, but what I do with my kid or what someone else does with their kid doesn't matter. We all parent from our own experiences and in a way that works for us and our kids. While in some respects, I honestly can say you DON'T know until you have your own kids, I can also equally say you DO know. I always knew I would be a no nonsense parent because that is how I feel my children should be raised. That hasn't changed one bit. But of course there are plenty of things I thought I knew, but definitely didn't have a clue about.
So, really, no one should be personally attacking anyone else's parenting style or intended parenting style because we all do what's best for us and our kids. Sorry to preach, but I just don't get why people feel the need to force their parenting styles on others. And on the other hand, no one should have to defend their method of parenting either.

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It all comes down to picking and choosing your battles IMO. Negotiating with a toddler can be the most trying thing ever and sometimes it's not worth the fight.

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Um, yeah, I've bought a few pairs of heels for Alex. As much as I dreaded the thought of having a "girly-girl", somehow I ended up with one. I never fathomed for a moment that her play cinderella heels would qualify me as a bad parent who lets her child rule the roost! And truthfully, spend a moment in my home and you will realize that is SO far from the reality of our household. The difference being that I really don't see a pair of heels for a preschooler who likes to play dress up as a big deal - for god's sake, it's time we just let our kids be kids and have some fun with whatever and wherever their imagination leads them! And if that means that as much as I wanted a tomboy, I have to suck it up and realize that my girl is more interested in girly things and that I should encourage her to explore herself, her interests and her creativity, without added judgement.

As long as she's loved, nurtured, but also firmly disciplined, I don't see any harm in allowing her to explore those things that she finds interesting.

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She's adorable. She's not my kid. HER MOTHER can dress her however she sees fit.

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Re: Suri Cruise

Posted by Tilde

Posted by Sash

Posted by stickydust

Posted by mrskparetta

Posted by Sash

Am I only one that cringes with the term "you dont know what its like to reason with a toddler, or they are stubborn"

I do know whats its like, and I still see them as the child and me as the adult. I guess this was isntilled in me. Cause my mother gave me the eye and I ran

this was my point. set the rules for the child, they learn it early, they LEARN it

Let me know how that works out for you

My sister is doing it and it is working out very fine thank you!! And it will with my kids.

ETA: see its these personal snyde comments that turn the thread from people posting and debating there opinions to drama. I could easily have said:

"Good luck with controlling your kids as teens" - but i know how to debate without taking it personal.

I said over and over that its two different parentign skills and I dont think anyone is wrong for parentign the way they want.

I can't even tell you my HATRED for comments like this - so I completely understand.

I actually brought this thread up today when I was talking to my brother and sister - they are raising children ages one to ten right now and they 100% agree with my feelings on parenting that I expressed here. Sometimes I wish they posted here so I could have some backup against the "wait until you have kids" comments.

Re: Suri Cruise

Posted by Tilde

Posted by Sash

Posted by stickydust

Posted by mrskparetta

Posted by Sash

Am I only one that cringes with the term "you dont know what its like to reason with a toddler, or they are stubborn"

I do know whats its like, and I still see them as the child and me as the adult. I guess this was isntilled in me. Cause my mother gave me the eye and I ran

this was my point. set the rules for the child, they learn it early, they LEARN it

Let me know how that works out for you

My sister is doing it and it is working out very fine thank you!! And it will with my kids.

ETA: see its these personal snyde comments that turn the thread from people posting and debating there opinions to drama. I could easily have said:

"Good luck with controlling your kids as teens" - but i know how to debate without taking it personal.

I said over and over that its two different parentign skills and I dont think anyone is wrong for parentign the way they want.

I can't even tell you my HATRED for comments like this - so I completely understand.

I actually brought this thread up today when I was talking to my brother and sister - they are raising children ages one to ten right now and they 100% agree with my feelings on parenting that I expressed here. Sometimes I wish they posted here so I could have some backup against the "wait until you have kids" comments.

Re: Suri Cruise

lol... this is hilarious and you're all a bunch o' hens...

Re: Suri Cruise

Posted by mrskparetta

Posted by Palebride

Posted by imthekevinofcindyandkevin

Posted by Palebride


It has nothing to do with not saying "no" to your child....it's all about picking your battles.

believe me my daughter was little once too and i understand what you are saying, talk to me about picking battles when she 12 going on 20. i personally think she looks cute but...

scientologists do not say no to there kids, they just don't so in addition to suri being a typical toddler she will by all estimations test a little more due to her parents beliefs.

I understand what you're saying....but the way it was said made me feel that you were implying she is allowed to wear heels/go out with messy hair because the parents don't say "no" to her....and that it's bad parenting.
My daughter is known to do both of those things, so it hit a nerve.

i dont have a child yet but will in may and believe me, if its a girl, she will not be walking around in 1.5-2inch heels at 3(ish?) and i remember being a child and my mother telling me (when I would scream as she brushed my hair) if i dont brush it, we cut it ALL off. You BET it was combed and well kept and not in my face and i was NOT an easy child to deal with. As a parent, you make the rules and the child should learn that from an early age. It is for their well being and they will thank you later in life as I thank my mom 25 years later. Of course, JMHO!

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I think it's cute she wants to be just like her daddy and borrowed his heels for the day.

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Re: Suri Cruise

Posted by Sash

Posted by Tilde

Posted by Sash

Posted by stickydust

Posted by mrskparetta

Posted by Sash

Am I only one that cringes with the term "you dont know what its like to reason with a toddler, or they are stubborn"

I do know whats its like, and I still see them as the child and me as the adult. I guess this was isntilled in me. Cause my mother gave me the eye and I ran

this was my point. set the rules for the child, they learn it early, they LEARN it

Let me know how that works out for you

My sister is doing it and it is working out very fine thank you!! And it will with my kids.

ETA: see its these personal snyde comments that turn the thread from people posting and debating there opinions to drama. I could easily have said:

"Good luck with controlling your kids as teens" - but i know how to debate without taking it personal.

I said over and over that its two different parentign skills and I dont think anyone is wrong for parentign the way they want.

I can't even tell you my HATRED for comments like this - so I completely understand.

I actually brought this thread up today when I was talking to my brother and sister - they are raising children ages one to ten right now and they 100% agree with my feelings on parenting that I expressed here. Sometimes I wish they posted here so I could have some backup against the "wait until you have kids" comments.

Exactly, I feel this way:

Please dont assume I dont know what its like to parent a child cause i never pushed a one out of my who ha.

Not only did I help raise my ex boyfriends daughter for 4 years, but I am also a step parent to a child. I am also very very active in my neices lives.

So I dont need anyone saving threads for me, or telling me to wait and see cause I have lived it and I saw it. Because I know whats its like.

And once again cause it seems the NON nay sayers are seeing the fact that ppl are saying there is nothing wrong with letting your child wear heels. You choose to pick your battle and think its not worth telling the child say NO, The Nay sayers choose to pick this battle and enforce No is No. I am sure there are other battles I would let go and you would enforce.

No one judged Katie Holmes, and said she was a horrible mother. ppl just said I dont know about those heels for a toddler. What the big friggin deal

Message edited 11/3/2009 12:13:35 PM.

Re: Suri Cruise

LOL there dress up shoes!! I'm sure she doesnt wear them with every outfit she owns! She looks adorable!