Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

These are truly the kind of things that could and do make mothering an adventure in paranoia That is just horrible, truly, truly tragic

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Message edited 3/18/2009 4:05:03 PM.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

So incredibly sad....So so devestating to that family.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Update to story:

A 2-year-old girl died after she choked while eating a raw baby carrot at a Hicksville day care school, Nassau police said Wednesday.

Olivia Raspanti, of Hicksville, choked at about 10:30 a.m. Tuesday at the Carousel Day School on West Avenue after retrieving a carrot from behind her teacher's desk, Nassau police said at a news conference today.

"At some point Olivia was able to go to an area behind the teacher's desk where the teacher had a bag of raw carrots in a diaper bag or some sort of tote bag," said Det. Sgt. Anthony Repalone, a Nassau police spokesman.

Olivia "was able to retrieve one of those raw carrots, put it in her mouth and she began to choke on that raw carrot," he said.
Olivia would have turned 3 on May 17, police said.

The toddler was in a classroom with about a dozen kids supervised by a teacher and two teacher's aides, police said.

School employees began performing CPR and called 911, police said. Police continued CPR when they arrived on the scene.

The girl was transported to Nassau University Medical Center, where she was pronounced dead at 4:25 p.m., police said.

The medical examiner will determine the exact cause of death, police said Officials at Carousel Day School declined to comment. A woman passed out a statement signed by Gene Formica, who she identified as the owner of the school.

"It is [with] great sadness that we learned that one of our young students passed away at Nassau County Medical Center due to complications from an accident at school," the statement said. "Our CPR-certified staff reacted quickly to help the child and called emergency services immediately. We are shocked and saddened by this tragic loss."

"The health and safety of all our children is our greatest concern at Carousel Day School, and this loss has affected each of us very deeply and personally," the statement continued. "We are providing counseling support for our staff who were with the child and offer our total support, thought and prayers for the child's family."



This is so very very sad.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

What an absolute nightmare for everyone who were touched by that little girl in her very short life. I just don't understand why things like this happen to innocent children.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

OMG, after reading the updated news article I cannot imagine what that teacher is feeling right now knowing that the child went into her bag and got one of her carrots. So terrible and so sad.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

They have taken away the center license. Apparently they don't have a licensed toddler program.

Frome News 12

Toddler dies after choking on carrot at day care

(03/18/09) HICKSVILLE - New York State ordered a Hicksville day care center be shut down Wednesday after a 2-year-old girl died choking on a piece of carrot.
Police say the incident happened Tuesday around 10:30 a.m. at Carousel Day School. Officials say 2-year-old Olivia Respanti got into a teacher’s bag that was behind a desk and took out a carrot to eat. That’s when she started choking.

"Indications are that she may have given the children carrots earlier, so perhaps Olivia knew carrots were in the classroom,” Nassau Detective. Sgt. Anthony Repalone says.

Some parents of children who go to the school told News 12 Long Island they were shocked when they were informed of the situation.

Authorities say those who work in the school did everything they could have done and should have done to save the little girl, including calling 911 and performing CPR.

The New York State Office of Children and Family Services says the facility does not have a license to operate a toddler program at the school and will give a cease and desist order to close it down.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

This story is so sad on so many levels. My heart goes out to all that were involved. I can't even begin to imagine what the parents must be feeling.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by My3girlsMylife

Posted by ABCiverson

I am so sorry,but thank you for sharing your story and now I see the other side and Im sorry I hope I didn't offend you

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Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

OMG...my heart is breaking for that family

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Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Message edited 3/18/2009 7:36:01 PM.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

OMG, this is just horrible.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by ABCiverson

Posted by My3girlsMylife

Posted by ABCiverson

I am so sorry,but thank you for sharing your story and now I see the other side and Im sorry I hope I didn't offend you

no offence taken!

dooodles said it best, it stings a little and makes us feel bad that we were able to move on, almost like we are wrong for being happy.

I know none of you mean that when you say that, but we still feel that way.

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ABCiverson and Dooodles....I had no idea that a comment like that would hurt, I really had no idea. Thanks for bringing that to our attention. I am so sorry for both of your losses.

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Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

That is so scary and so sad. Unimaginable. My prayers go out to that poor family.

Re: So sad !! 3 yr old dies after choking on a carrot

Posted by dooodles

Posted by ABCiverson

that is so sad


I have lost a child. Before I lost him I too said "I would die if I lost a child". But thats just not true for most people, I know some parents never get passed it and never can move on. There are days you feel like you can't get out of bed, but then life happens. What else can you do but 'move on'?

Its been almost 4 years since I lost my son, not a day goes by that I don't think of him, or really even talk to him (yes I am crazy, I talk to him all day long). While I use to feel guilty for even saying this, I am happy. Of course life would be more happy if he were alive but thats not the cards I was dealt.

I know personlly (and for others mothers mourning a child) hearing people say "I would never survive this, they are stronger than I could ever be" actually hurts the mourning parent. It makes us feel gulity that we can actually be happay again I am not trying to start drama, just letting everyone see it from a mourning parents eye

Thank you so much for saying this Amanda, I too as a parent who survived the death of their child four years ago as well (and I too talk to my son everyday as well - so you have company in the crazy group) find that those comments do sting when reading them.

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Posted by Mrs. Patticakes



ABCiverson and Dooodles....I had no idea that a comment like that would hurt, I really had no idea. Thanks for bringing that to our attention. I am so sorry for both of your losses.