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Reese1106
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Re: Apparently I am rude
You're not rude. That person is an idiot. We did the same thing with Benjamin and plan on doing the same with this baby. I guess I'm rude, by the idiot's definition at least. 
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headoverheels
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Re: Apparently I am rude
seriously hollie you should know better by now than to actually have your OWN opinion about your OWN pregnancy and your OWN way of doing things.  
we kept our DS's name a secret until the end too, and even though we got a ton of flack for it, it was totally worth it!
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| Posted 10/6/08 6:33 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Well then we are rude too. Some people should just NEVER speak.
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| Posted 10/6/08 6:50 PM |
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puppylove
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Although I am not a fan of people keeping the name a secret until the baby is born, I would never consider people rude for not sharing the name right away. Personally I don't really get the point of keeping it a secret, just as the mommy and daddy having a name for their baby makes it that much more real, I think the same goes for those around you, knowing a name is really fun and people love to hear what the baby will be called so they can begin to address the baby by name also. I couldn't keep it a secret and had to tell everyone! I think that most people are so excited with baby news and hearing what the name will be is so much fun, it's fair for people to be disappointed that they have to wait nine months to be let in on the secret, but considering it rude, no way!
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| Posted 10/6/08 6:58 PM |
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maryb
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Mary
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Re: Apparently I am rude
oh good lord...
no you are not.. and if you are - SO AM I!!!! haha
i had a good friend do the same thing and was actually ****** that i wasnt sharing...
they need to get over it..
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| Posted 10/6/08 7:06 PM |
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nrvbrd
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Re: Apparently I am rude
I want to say this pregnancy has really made a change in me. I use to have so many different opinions about mothers and pregnancy. The saying you really need to walk a mile in a person's shoes really applies.
Ok I say all that to say, that people need to MIND THEIR BUSINESS
This is YOUR pregnancy, YOUR choices and they should be respected. People have alot of nerve and they really need to be put in their place. We are just too much of lady to do it, but honestly we should get down and dirty with people and TELL THEM OFF
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| Posted 10/6/08 8:26 PM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by headoverheels
seriously hollie you should know better by now than to actually have your OWN opinion about your OWN pregnancy and your OWN way of doing things.
I know... who would have thought that I have a brain and opinion? Just because I am bitchy doesn't mean I don't have a brain.
Message edited 10/6/2008 10:01:18 PM.
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Phyl
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Next time you're asked just tell them his name is Ron Jeremy! 
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| Posted 10/6/08 10:04 PM |
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Pooka
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Well, then I am rude right along with you! And, according to my MIL, we are "ridiculous" as well. Gimme a break!
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| Posted 10/6/08 11:22 PM |
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Angel321
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Re: Apparently I am rude
i have to say - being on the other side of this - i see both your point and the other point as well. In no way do I think you are being rude - you are entitled to your privacy!!!!
my situation was that my best friend of 21 years wasn't telling anyone her baby name. Fine...i asked why and she said - 'i don't want to be judged for it by anyone'. Fine.
What hurt me is that she felt that me, her BEST FRIEND OF 21 YEARS would judge her or the name she chose for her most special person EVER.
I will be honest, had she have said it ANY other way - i wouldn't have minded...but that way of putting it hurt and still stings a little...
You will all eventually get to know me - but i'm the least judgemental person EVER...so it hurt me....(as it turns out - it was just one of the many things she did to hurt me over the last year - but that's another story)...
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Re: Apparently I am rude
People hinted at that with us, but I saw it as a heads up to how they will be with many aspects of my parenting and child rearing.....
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by puppylove
Although I am not a fan of people keeping the name a secret until the baby is born, I would never consider people rude for not sharing the name right away. Personally I don't really get the point of keeping it a secret, just as the mommy and daddy having a name for their baby makes it that much more real, I think the same goes for those around you, knowing a name is really fun and people love to hear what the baby will be called so they can begin to address the baby by name also. I couldn't keep it a secret and had to tell everyone! I think that most people are so excited with baby news and hearing what the name will be is so much fun, it's fair for people to be disappointed that they have to wait nine months to be let in on the secret, but considering it rude, no way!
See, thats why we did not share it. The name to us is sacred and I didn't want it to be used and thrown around until he was here, and it was addressed to him. Also, I didn't want to deal with the misprununciations, and why Cailen questions, and people tellng me they didnt like the name, which they would do before he was born....
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| Posted 10/7/08 5:57 AM |
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Goobster
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by puppylove
Although I am not a fan of people keeping the name a secret until the baby is born, I would never consider people rude for not sharing the name right away. Personally I don't really get the point of keeping it a secret, just as the mommy and daddy having a name for their baby makes it that much more real, I think the same goes for those around you, knowing a name is really fun and people love to hear what the baby will be called so they can begin to address the baby by name also. I couldn't keep it a secret and had to tell everyone! I think that most people are so excited with baby news and hearing what the name will be is so much fun, it's fair for people to be disappointed that they have to wait nine months to be let in on the secret, but considering it rude, no way!
See, thats why we did not share it. The name to us is sacred and I didn't want it to be used and thrown around until he was here, and it was addressed to him. Also, I didn't want to deal with the misprununciations, and why Cailen questions, and people tellng me they didnt like the name, which they would do before he was born....
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I feel until baby is here, it's private and personal. I could change my mind, I could see her and think she doesn't look like a "name" and change last minute. So many reasons that there is no reason to share. My gut just says it's only for DH and I to know until baby is HERE for others to actually physically meet.
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| Posted 10/7/08 6:43 AM |
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StressedNoMore
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by MrsPornStar
I was speaking with some acquaintances this weekend and the subject of baby names came up. I told everyone that we weren't sharing his name until he is born. One of the people I was speaking to said, "Well, that's rude of you. I don't see what the big deal is about sharing his name." I was FURIOUS and explained that we wanted to announce it once he is born and that is OUR preference. This person just wouldn't get it. So, now I am rude.
You are not rude.... I wish I would have kept my mouth shut to my family and friends... When my sis in law was having her kids and I was having my son she asked me what name i was thinking of and all I had at the time was girls names and I told her and she took both of them and named her girls that now if I have a girl this time around I dont have a name and have to start all over.
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MrsPornStar
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by Goobster
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by puppylove
Although I am not a fan of people keeping the name a secret until the baby is born, I would never consider people rude for not sharing the name right away. Personally I don't really get the point of keeping it a secret, just as the mommy and daddy having a name for their baby makes it that much more real, I think the same goes for those around you, knowing a name is really fun and people love to hear what the baby will be called so they can begin to address the baby by name also. I couldn't keep it a secret and had to tell everyone! I think that most people are so excited with baby news and hearing what the name will be is so much fun, it's fair for people to be disappointed that they have to wait nine months to be let in on the secret, but considering it rude, no way!
See, thats why we did not share it. The name to us is sacred and I didn't want it to be used and thrown around until he was here, and it was addressed to him. Also, I didn't want to deal with the misprununciations, and why Cailen questions, and people tellng me they didnt like the name, which they would do before he was born....
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I feel until baby is here, it's private and personal. I could change my mind, I could see her and think she doesn't look like a "name" and change last minute. So many reasons that there is no reason to share. My gut just says it's only for DH and I to know until baby is HERE for others to actually physically meet.
This is EXACTLY why we don't want to share his name. I want to see him and make sure the name fits him.
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MsMBV
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by MrsPornStar
This is EXACTLY why we don't want to share his name. I want to see him and make sure the name fits him.
I think we are doing that this time. Although G now fits his name....honestly he did not for a while. I guess we are lucky he grew into it
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Apparently I am rude
THAT person is rude!! I won't even share the names I am seriously considering because, like that person, people always have "opinions" that I don't necessarily want to hear.
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| Posted 10/7/08 9:33 AM |
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debsey75
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Hollie it isnt rude. It is your choice. Now when you have the baby make that person the last person to call to tell the name too. 
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| Posted 10/7/08 9:35 AM |
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puppylove
LIF Adolescent
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Summer
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Posted by MrsPornStar
Posted by Goobster
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by puppylove
Although I am not a fan of people keeping the name a secret until the baby is born, I would never consider people rude for not sharing the name right away. Personally I don't really get the point of keeping it a secret, just as the mommy and daddy having a name for their baby makes it that much more real, I think the same goes for those around you, knowing a name is really fun and people love to hear what the baby will be called so they can begin to address the baby by name also. I couldn't keep it a secret and had to tell everyone! I think that most people are so excited with baby news and hearing what the name will be is so much fun, it's fair for people to be disappointed that they have to wait nine months to be let in on the secret, but considering it rude, no way!
See, thats why we did not share it. The name to us is sacred and I didn't want it to be used and thrown around until he was here, and it was addressed to him. Also, I didn't want to deal with the misprununciations, and why Cailen questions, and people tellng me they didnt like the name, which they would do before he was born....
ITA
I feel until baby is here, it's private and personal. I could change my mind, I could see her and think she doesn't look like a "name" and change last minute. So many reasons that there is no reason to share. My gut just says it's only for DH and I to know until baby is HERE for others to actually physically meet.
This is EXACTLY why we don't want to share his name. I want to see him and make sure the name fits him.
Wanted to restate that although I am not into keeping the babies name a secret, I do not think it's rude for parents to keep the name secret. I understand the reasons why parents would make that choice, really I do. It is a private choice between you as parents and no one should make you feel as if you are rude for making that choice.
Personally, I figure that if people don't like the name they are going to turn their nose up at it whether you tell them before or after the birth. As for everyone "throwing" the name around prior to birth, to me it is nice to hear our families addresses our new addition with a name, rather than "the baby", or "the peanut" or "the little guy", or "it". It makes it more real for everyone involved to have a name. And if it is a tough name, mispronunciation will be a way of life for the child throughout life no only before birth. Also I don't think that by sharing the name before birth means that it is written in stone and can't be changed should she or he not look like a name.
Personally,I'm simply not into keeping such exciting news in, but that's me. You as parents are all free to make your own choices. Your choice to keep the name secret is not hurting anyone and no one should make you feel bad about it, so don't let them make you feel bad. To be honest people who make you feel bad probably don't deserve to know for a while anyway and they deserve to have to wait for giving a pregnant lady a hard time.
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Apparently I am rude
Just , and say WHATEVER to them--lol People are so rude!
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| Posted 10/7/08 11:35 PM |
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juju
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Re: Apparently I am rude
You're dam n if you do and you're dam n if you don't.
We decided to share some of our names and my own mother didn't like one of the names we chose for our DD. She mentioned "old lady" sounding. And when we thought we were have a boy, we were going to name him Benjamin. Someone else in the family said, "They might say BENdover?" W T F
You are better off waiting to til the baby is born. That way, you will not get the rude remarks. Although, some people tend to be rude anyways.
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bklyngirl
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Re: Apparently I am rude
you're far from rude. you have every right not to tell people your child's name until its born
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