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maybebaby
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Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
..It's been upsetting me since I left.
I KNOW it will be good for him. I am OK with it and he'll get all the help and attention he needs there that I can't provide for him. I am excited about having a little breathing room and possibly working outside the home a little..
SO the father of the children that I babysit for says to me "23 hours/week is way too long for a 2 year old to be away from his mom".
I reply "well its a special needs program..he will get OT/speech and I really think he'll do great".
He goes "well when Carly started school at 2, she did 3 morning/week and it took her 3 months to adjust. Every picture they sent us of the class she was either crying or sad looking b/c she missed her parents".
After insisting that he'll be ok, and that I was ok with it, he just went on and on and on about how babies need their parents and not a school to look after them for that length of time.
Did i mention this guy is a jerk? If i didn't like the mom and kids so much i wouldn't have done the job. I quit today, saying I would do the rest of august and that was that.
Sorry just needed to vent. It's hard enough to know that a kid who has been home with me for 2 years will be gone for half the week now. I KNOW its fine and I have zero problem with schools or daycare, believe me. It just hurt to hear him talk like that...like I'll damage johnny. And he knows the issues I've been going through and how hard Johnny has been working with therapists and us...
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
What an insensitive jerk!
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| Posted 7/30/08 6:59 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
Wait, the father of the kid you BABYSIT told you that you should be home with your child? Isn;t that overstepping a little? Where is this child's mother that she needs you to babysit for them? Doesn't she work?
I really don't understand what planet people think we live on that gives them the right to interfere with other people's lives like this!
I am so sorry that you have to ever deal with this person. He is completely insensitive and a real jerk for even suggesting that he knows anything about anything
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| Posted 7/30/08 7:05 PM |
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curliegirl
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
I hate when other parents try to tell you what's best for YOUR child.
If I was quitting and I really didn't like him I woulda said something like, "I guess if you weren't such a wuss and likely passed it onto your daughter, she's be fine with 23 hours a week."
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| Posted 7/30/08 7:10 PM |
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amarto
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
So insensitive! Don't listen! It's your child, you know what's best for him.
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| Posted 7/30/08 7:23 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
Posted by FelAndJon
Wait, the father of the kid you BABYSIT told you that you should be home with your child? Isn;t that overstepping a little? Where is this child's mother that she needs you to babysit for them? Doesn't she work?
I really don't understand what planet people think we live on that gives them the right to interfere with other people's lives like this!
I am so sorry that you have to ever deal with this person. He is completely insensitive and a real jerk for even suggesting that he knows anything about anything
Yes, thats the thing...I only watch them 1x/week so she can work. He then comes home to take over.
However the 4 year old has been to preschool since she's 2..she goes 3x/week for a few hours each time.
I honestly didn't understand what part he didn't "get". He KNOWS my son has been in EI for months now..he KNOWS the struggles/heartache we've gone through...I had plans to quit anyway, once Johnny is in school I can't watch their kids anymore...but after he was done ranting I told him I can't watch them. It was funny actually, b/c he seemed really upset. He said if I "change my mind about preschool for johnny let them know..".
NOPE. It's a done deal and I am ok with that. My problem in life is that I let others get to me waaay too much.
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| Posted 7/30/08 7:23 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
He's an idiot.
You know what's best for your DC not this azzhole
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| Posted 7/30/08 7:27 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
Posted by maybebaby
I had plans to quit anyway, once Johnny is in school I can't watch their kids anymore...but after he was done ranting I told him I can't watch them. It was funny actually, b/c he seemed really upset. He said if I "change my mind about preschool for johnny let them know..".
Honestly, I think this is the reason he is so upset! He knows they are now in a bind and trying to make you change your mind so you can continue to watch their DC. He is not only a jerk but completely selfish as well!
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| Posted 7/30/08 8:00 PM |
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annie
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
grrrr! I'm ****** off for you! What a jerk. You are doing a great thing for your son by sending him to this school.
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| Posted 7/30/08 9:00 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
ignore that a ss! is this the same jerk who tries to pay you down to the minute and stiff you?
people need to keep their mouths shut. you are doing the BEST thing for johnny and yourself. this guy doesn't know what's best for your family---only YOU and JOHN do!
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| Posted 7/30/08 9:01 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
What a jerk
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| Posted 7/30/08 9:02 PM |
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tiki03
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
What a jackass
You're doing what you know is right for your son. What the hell does this guy know about anything? Puhleez.
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| Posted 7/30/08 9:40 PM |
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
A**hole!!!
Who the EFF asked for his opinion??? He has NO right doing that to you!!!!
I wish people kept their goddam comments to themselves.... WHY do the stupid ones think they are the ones people want to hear from?????
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| Posted 7/30/08 9:43 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
This guy has no idea what he's talking about. My brother has autism and started pre-school at age 2, and he only cried the first day and it did WONDERS for him. He loved school after that first day. You are a wonderful mom and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise!
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| Posted 7/30/08 9:53 PM |
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michele31
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
this guy is a jerk and has no clue.
You are doing what is best for your child. period. it is none of his business.
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| Posted 7/30/08 10:25 PM |
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
That guy is a jerk, but more than that he is WRONG. You could never "damage Johnny." You are a great mom who will always know and do what is best for your son.
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| Posted 7/30/08 11:04 PM |
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Melbernai
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
You are being so self-less and thinking about your SON FIRST by sending him to school. You know that he needs EI and that EI is so sucessful in helping children overcome difficulties so that when they enter the regular school program they can be as sucessful as possible. You know that it is the right thing and this guy has no right telling you otherwise.
Not to mention ---- my DD was at a babysitter's house over 40 hours a week during the school years. That dosen't mean that I have harmed her, or that she doesn't know that I am her mommy and that we don't have a good relationship.
We are SO close with eachother. I seriously feel like she is my best friend at times. However she was exposed to so much through her babysitter that I just wouldn't have been able to do, or didn't know about yet as a first time mom. She GREW socially, made friends, and has a great level of independence.
You are doing the right thing. I know you've thought this thru and you came to a point where you were comfortable and confident about it. I think that guy just sux BIG TIME to try and make you think otherwise!
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| Posted 7/30/08 11:09 PM |
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
Posted by maybebaby
Did i mention this guy is a jerk?
You did not even have to come out and say it. It's obvious he is a jerk.
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| Posted 7/31/08 12:49 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
this guy sounds like a class-A pr1ck
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| Posted 7/31/08 6:25 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
Actually, it's against our nature to have a DC alone with just mom. The saying "It takes a village to raise a child." comes from the fact that humans have developed over centuries to be raised in a group-type environment. It is more natural to have DC in a school of some type than just home with you.
Besides the fact that the guy is an idiot, and how dare HE tell YOU how to raise YOUR child!
You're definitely doing the right thing.... All the parents here know about parenting and agree with you. This one guy doesn't know anything about parenting, and he disagrees. I would take that as a good thing, actually.... the opposite of what he says MUST be the right thing.... 
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| Posted 7/31/08 7:09 AM |
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Shelly
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
What an idiot!!
Jordana just started daycare at 2 last week. It took her 3 DAYS to adjust. She was fine. Her biggest issue came at drop off and naptime. Drop off crying ended in 1 week and she adjusted to napping within 3 days!!!!
Not to mention the numerous studies that say that children in preschool succeed.
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| Posted 7/31/08 7:27 AM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
People are jerks! Just bc his child had that experience doesn't mean yours will. Just more of that judgement and "I know better bc I've been a parent longer" mentality that can be really annoying.
Don't second guess yourself (not that you sound like you are) you know your child and you are doing right by him. That's all we can do as parents is do what we think is best. 
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| Posted 7/31/08 9:24 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
I'm so sorry - what he said was incredibly mean and incredibly insensitive. The fact is MANY of us grew up with daycare starting at 2 years old, and we're all perfectly well-adjusted, aren't we?
My daughter has been in daycare full-time since she was 3 months old, and I've seen just beautiful, incredible results. There are pros and cons to every situation, and as long as you choose the situation that most benefits your family and your child, that's all that matters.
I'll tell you this, the first week I went back to work and Alex was at school full-time, I ran into one of the dumbarse partners while I was waiting to get my lunch. He asked what I was doing with Alex and I told him, and he said the same thing - actually he ranted for 30 minutes about how it's a mother's place to be with her child, and that his daughter stays at home with her newborn and would never dream of putting him in daycare.
I guess it's no suprise that I left that within a year 
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| Posted 7/31/08 9:28 AM |
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mrsej
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Re: Someone said something upsetting to me about DS going to preschool...
Wow - i feel bad for his kid being left with him!! his child is probably much better off the more time she spends in daycare rather than with him! He sounds like he is uncomfortable with his decision and therefore is trying to make you uncomfortable with yours. Also his daughter might have had a hard time adjusting b/c she was only in daycare for 3 days a week and going back and forth b/w home and daycare got confusing. who knows - he is an idiot.
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