Where to announce BFP?

We spend so much time on this board TTC, shouldn't we announce here that we are moving on to the PG board.

Or should we just move over w/o an explanation. Sure I too amjealous of all the BFP's, but I still like to hear when people have good news. Wantedto see what the majority thought.

And no I have no news

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I agree..especially like myself that have asked you ladies 8 million questions...I would totally announce it here first!!!

Edited to say here FIRST :)

Message edited 12/11/2007 1:47:50 PM.

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I agree with you that the first announcemen should be made here bc you are always on this board. I posted mine here and I hope I did not upset anyone but I wanted to share with all the girls who have given me baby dust for the last 6 months.

So I agree - the firstpost should be here

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TTC and Pregnancy


ETA: For me it gets difficult when it seems like there is one after another after another. But that doesn't mean BFPs shouldn't be posted here IMO

Message edited 12/11/2007 1:51:06 PM.

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I was wondering the same thing. I feel sort of conflicted when I see many BFPs. Part of me is really excited because I think that maybe I might join in on the luck; while part of me feels very jealous that it's not me.

I feel like we are all experiencing this together, especially us who came over from LIW newlyweds/07 boards... and I like to hear when one of the people who have been trying at the same time as me gets their BFP.

The whole topic makes me feel a little uncomfortable, because ... and this is just IMO... it's almost like my happiness and my heartbreaks are invalid only because I have not been trying as long as other people have.

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Since we are on here so much I guess its only natural to announce here where we're all know each other.

Sure I get mixed feelings when I read the announcements. I am happy for the ladies because we are TTC sisters. We are all here together learning and leaning on each other. Offering support and giving (the best ) advice.

I also get a bit jealous but it only last a few minutes then I am back to staying postive for as long as I can.

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I aree! Post your BFP news!!! I love to hear great news. After sharing so much with each other, I think we owe it to one another and to give a thanks for the support as we were TTC.

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I'm going to be brutally honest. I love the BFPs announced here from the regular/frequent posters.

I however, feel kinda when lurkers/people who don't actively contribute to the TTC board post here. Why not just announce it on Pregancy?

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Posted by Porrruss

I'm going to be brutally honest. I love the BFPs announced here from the regular/frequent posters.

I however, feel kinda when lurkers/people who don't actively contribute to the TTC board post here. Why not just announce it on Pregancy?

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Posted by pickles16

Posted by Porrruss

I'm going to be brutally honest. I love the BFPs announced here from the regular/frequent posters.

I however, feel kinda when lurkers/people who don't actively contribute to the TTC board post here. Why not just announce it on Pregancy?

I agree with that, it strikes me as being strange and a little cold, and I hope I don't get reamed out for saying that...

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Posted by pickles16

Posted by Porrruss

I'm going to be brutally honest. I love the BFPs announced here from the regular/frequent posters.

I however, feel kinda when lurkers/people who don't actively contribute to the TTC board post here. Why not just announce it on Pregancy?

I agree with that, it strikes me as being strange and a little cold, and I hope I don't get reamed out for saying that...

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I like to see people graduate regardless of my own circumstances. I could feasibly announce in one of 4 places because I post frequently on 4 boards. I venture to say that most of post here on TTC, we read the pregnancy boards posting there a little bit less and some lurk/post on the IF board on occasion. Perhaps you have a diagnosed issue in which case you might post on IF regularly.

In my case, I would be inclined to post a BFP on the IF board because my method of conception is typically an IF procedure and I see an RE with great frequency. When it is my turn to announce, it will be when DH and I feel comfortable and safe and not a minute sooner than that.

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Look- it's an opinion. I feel that if someone has almost NO posts on TTC, then they should not be posting about their BFP on this board. What's the purpose of doing it? They don't have relationships with anyone on here, and it could make some people feel bad. Why not just bypass that and go straight to Pregnancy where everyone will be thrilled for you?

Thats my opinion and I'm sticking to it.

Message edited 12/11/2007 2:43:01 PM.

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I think it's fine to announce a BFP on this board. I've been on this board a long time and was a really active poster in the beginning. Some can relate to what my situation is and others can't. however, I will say that I've received a lot of FMs from people who are not comfortable posting and I would love to read that they got their BFP on TTC. I guess what I am trying to say is that for me, it doesn't matter how many TTC posts a person has. I feel they should be able to post it on here.

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There is no reason why we shouldnt share our news with our fellow TTCers...I would be happy for each and every one of you and would want you to share the wonderful news...

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Please don't get me wrong- I'm thrilled for ALL BFPs, regulars and lurkers alike. But, considering some people might feel bad about it, like the long timeTTCers, I just feel that announcing BFPs on this board should be reserved for those who have developed relationships with other TTCers on this board.

For those who don't post on here, and have no relationships with the other TTC board members, why choose to announce HERE rather than on Pregnancy?

I guess I just remember having this same debate over on LIW years ago when there were only a TTC board and a Parenting board. I remember that TTCers had asked for a PG board so that newcomers had a place to announce.

Again, JMO....

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Ultimately it's entirely up to the poster where they choose to announce their BFP. It's a personal decision that needs to be respected. I am genuinely happy for all that are blessed with a BFP regardless of how long it took them to conceive. Am I a little more excited for someone that has been TTC for a year rather than someone that has been TTC for a month? Sure.

As for me, I have not been TTC very long so maybe I'm not entitled to have an opnion on this but what the hey.... if I get a BFP in the near future it is very doubtful that I will post it in here. I just feel that it's a little insensitive when someone that has been TTC for a month or has never even posted in here posts their BFP. I realize that this is a TTC board, not an IF board but this forum is made up mostly of women that have been TTC for months and years. I want to be mindful of that when it's my time. Some people see a BFP and it gives them hope but I KNOW many see and it's just a kick in the gut. There are other boards I can post a BFP in where I won't have to worry about making someone feel defeated.

JMO

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I don't know if anyone else feels this way but jealousy or not without the BFP posts this would be an awful sad board to hang out on. We are all together on this journey and when we get a BFP we should be able to announce it here. I too feel the jealousy and sadness when everyone around me gets pg and it sticks.. but you know what we also need to see the postive stories so we can feel encouraged.

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I was thinking about this last night (hey, work was slow!). I absolutely agree that this seems like the natural first place to post about your BFP, especially if you've been a regular poster around here through the whole process. I got a little jealous of all the BFPs too (and we're not TTC until this month!), but that didn't change the fact that I was 100% happy for each one of those girls. I love seeing someone get a BFP. I like being able to feel happy & excited for whoever it is.

I've been on here for a couple of months just to gather information before we officially started TTC & I definately feel like when I get my BFP, I will want to share it here. There are several girls who joined around the same time I did & I really want to see their announcements too!

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I am not a frequent poster on TTC but I try to add things when I can...I post a lot on the Infertility board so when I get my BFP I will announce there. I might do a cross-post though, I'm not sure.

I don't think that you ladies should feel weird about posting your BFPs here at all. You are all going through it together, whether it takes 2 months or 12+...I do agree that lurkers posting BFPs here is insensitive and a little weird but for those who have made relationships on this board you should not feel bad. Jealousy is natural and will happen no matter where you post your BFP. Those that value your input on this board will be happy for you. And everyone who has admitted to being jealous of BFPs in the same breath states how happy they are for the poster.

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Posted by Brittny817

Ultimately it's entirely up to the poster where they choose to announce their BFP. It's a personal decision that needs to be respected. I am genuinely happy for all that are blessed with a BFP regardless of how long it took them to conceive. Am I a little more excited for someone that has been TTC for a year rather than someone that has been TTC for a month? Sure.

As for me, I have not been TTC very long so maybe I'm not entitled to have an opnion on this but what the hey.... if I get a BFP in the near future it is very doubtful that I will post it in here. I just feel that it's a little insensitive when someone that has been TTC for a month or has never even posted in here posts their BFP. I realize that this is a TTC board, not an IF board but this forum is made up mostly of women that have been TTC for months and years. I want to be mindful of that when it's my time. Some people see a BFP and it gives them hope but I KNOW many see and it's just a kick in the gut. There are other boards I can post a BFP in where I won't have to worry about making someone feel defeated.

JMO

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IF people want to announce here, thats fine. NOt sure what I will do when its my turn, I will probably post on IF since that is where I post more.

I have to admit I to get a bit annoyed when someone who has never posted here before posts about their BFP, I do think thats a bit insensitive.

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Posted by Porrruss

I'm going to be brutally honest. I love the BFPs announced here from the regular/frequent posters.

I however, feel kinda when lurkers/people who don't actively contribute to the TTC board post here. Why not just announce it on Pregancy?

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Posted by pickles16

Posted by Brittny817

Ultimately it's entirely up to the poster where they choose to announce their BFP. It's a personal decision that needs to be respected. I am genuinely happy for all that are blessed with a BFP regardless of how long it took them to conceive. Am I a little more excited for someone that has been TTC for a year rather than someone that has been TTC for a month? Sure.

As for me, I have not been TTC very long so maybe I'm not entitled to have an opnion on this but what the hey.... if I get a BFP in the near future it is very doubtful that I will post it in here. I just feel that it's a little insensitive when someone that has been TTC for a month or has never even posted in here posts their BFP. I realize that this is a TTC board, not an IF board but this forum is made up mostly of women that have been TTC for months and years. I want to be mindful of that when it's my time. Some people see a BFP and it gives them hope but I KNOW many see and it's just a kick in the gut. There are other boards I can post a BFP in where I won't have to worry about making someone feel defeated.

JMO

I don't feel jealous or defeated and didn't mean it that way at all. I do think that a lot of people on this board, whether they've been trying for one month or one year or five years should all post. I honestly don't get jealous. What I meant, at least personally meant by saying random posters, is I've seen random people that literally have one post to their name come on and post not under a fake name or anything saying they got their BFP. I truly get excited for people when they get their BFP . I will take all the hope I can get and that brings me hope!
What does make me think is when these random people do come on with the one or two posts to their names, I get excited for them, but I feel like who are you at first..that's all....
I too am only in my second month of TTC so believe me there are many girls on here that have been posting for way longer than I have....