Do You and DH Argue More Now?

Just wondering, do you find that DH and you argue more now that you are pregnant?

We very rarely did before, but I am finding that we do more now. It's hard to say it's just the pregnancy though, I think we're both overtired and stressed from that, our new house, work, etc.

I'm a little concerned that it's only going to get worse when our is here.

Thanks!

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Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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We dont argue more. I am definetly a bigger b*tch now and try to pick fights on purpose but he just lets it roll of his shoulders. Sometimes that gets me even more mad!

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Posted by mrsv1015

Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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Posted by mrsv1015

Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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Honestly, from what I hear - if you fought a lot before you slow down, and if you didn't fight before you pick up. The law of the opposites. I'm not a psychologist, but that is what seems to have happend with my friends and people around me.

I think pregnancy is a very hormonal, strange time. Sometimes, because of all the changes, and the different ways that people deal with the changes - tensions can arise.

So, I don't think its abnormal to fight more, especially when issues are dealt with differently.

Once the baby is born, you may fight more too - I think its very common that families do. But, you will also love each other so much more because of the little bundle that you made together. Once the waves pass, you will probably settle into your routine and things will be back to what they were.

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Posted by niikki-8-18-06

We dont argue more. I am definetly a bigger b*tch now and try to pick fights on purpose but he just lets it roll of his shoulders. Sometimes that gets me even more mad!

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Posted by mrsv1015

Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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In the beginning we had a couple of HUUUUGE blowouts. He was having trouble dealing with the idea of becoming a father, I think. Since then, things have calmed down a lot and we're back to normal.

I do worry about how it will be when the baby comes because I know I get very snappish when I'm tired and overworked, and he gets very sensitive and takes things personally when he shouldn't. We've been talking about it a lot though, so hopefully we'll be able to keep the bickering to a minimum.

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We had some arguments when we first found out that I was pregnant. I think the reality that this was finally happening scared the crap out of both of us and we went into panic mode. Now I feel a hundred times closer to DH then I ever have and he says he feels the same.

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Posted by mrsv1015

Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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I think going through this has brought us closer in a lot of ways. We don't really fight and the pregnancy hasn't changed that. If anything, I appreciate him much more because he has to do more things around the house as I become unable to.

We are a little more distant physically, though. Now that I am in the third trimester, I am uncomfortable a lot of the time and don't always want to be touched. I am snoring and getting up a lot to pee at night, so we have had nights where we don't sleep in the same bed, which never happened before.

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Thanks for the replies! I'm guessing we have too much going on now. At the beginning of the pregnancy, things were fine, and DH did a lot for me. But ever since we bought the house, started to do work on it, and moved, it seems as if we fight a lot more.

I can't say I've been a b*tch either, as some others have said, I think I'm more balanced most of the time, though I do cry much more easily. I think we're just doing a lot, plus we really haven't done many fun things together lately. We haven't taken any vacation this year (except to move), so maybe we're both just cranky.

We also used to do more projects together. Now, he's doing most of the house stuff himself (a lot of it I just can't do anymore), and since he's wrapped up with that, I'm doing the baby stuff by myself.

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We argue more now, but I know its just a temporary thing. We just have a lot going on. We didnt expect to get our bfp last month...it was our last try without medical intervention. We are moving from LI to NC 1 week from tomorrow. We knew we were moving, but thought it was going to be mid Nov, we thought we had a few more weeks. We have nothing packed, and I am no help because I am so sick all day.

We are just taking on a lot at once..and it sounds to me like you did too. Once the boxes are all empty, I am sure things will be back to normal.

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Posted by mrsv1015

Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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All the time, my mood swings are out of control, its even worse now that its my 2nd pregnancy.

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Honestly its the opposite... we argue less. I think hes afraid to upset me because of baby.

However... you sound like you have a lot OF NEW STRESSFUL things going on in your life. Anew home is very stressful in itself. Try to stay calm and focus on the most important thing right now... BABY. Im sure things will settle down.

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No, it seems we argue less. I mean, we still have our disagreements but no huge blow-ups or anything.

He's my rock though. He's better than I thought he was going to be. He's been very supportive.

Oh yeah, he's in Atlantic City right now having a guys weekend! I'm in my pj's and I'm going to watch chix flix all night!

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Posted by mrsv1015

Actually I feel quite the opposite, we are getting along much better than before and are more attentive to each other. Weird how everyone's home is different during this time.

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initially, we did - it was rough in the beginning w/hormones and aversions to foods, i was exhausted and he felt i wasn't doing my share in the house...but then, as i grew bigger, he became more sympathetic and now he is really really nice to me since we only have a few weeks left. any major change in our relationship is always stressful, so i chalk it up to that - it will get better

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He has been picking fights with me latelly.

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I'm 17 weeks now.

We've never been big fighters. We have somewhat of a pattern. About once or twice a year we have a BLOWOUT, for whatever reason. Other than that, we really don't fight too much.

When we got the BFP, for a while things were great. I think we both felt similar things. We were surprised (even though we knew full well what we were doing a couple weeks earlier!). I think we both felt a little overwhelmed, but excited.

After a while, we started fighting. I felt like he wasn't understandingn that I was having a hard time, not feeling well, etc. He felt like i was nagging a lot. I think i started to see things in a different way... like, now it's not going to be just the two of us. And maybe there are some things about how we do things that i won't like when there are move people involved (ie. babies!). There's also been some tension because of the lack of "fun" we've been having. I"'m just NOT in the mood, most of the time.

Anyway, it passed. I think that you'll probably go through different stages, too. You're both going through a huge change! I found it helpful to just try to talk about things. As simple as that sounds, it took me a while to realize how big a help that is during this time.

Good luck. Things will be ok.

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I'm 11 weeks and DH and I definitely argue less, in fact he has been AWSOME! And our lives are definitely stressful with work and all, but he has been doing a lot of reading on Pregnancy on the Web and when I start crying for no reason or throwing things in a temper tantrum (yeah, that sounded very emotionally stable), he lets me be and trys to give me what I need. He's told me that he's read on how the hormones can be lethal during PG. He's been a huge support, could not be doing this without him. Gives me lots of hugs, always asks if I need anything, tells me I look beautiful (even when I feel like a fat-a**), tells me to put my feet up on the couch and relax, etc.