"How" do you argue?

If you guys are arguing over something you readily admit in hindesight is stupid... and the other person either hangs up on you or walks away mid-arguement and they DECIDE its a convo that is DONE (in their mind) isnt that so rude to just dismiss the other person like that?? I would never do that to someone, I at least I wanna work it out..I guess some pple need time to "cool off" and thats how they move on, but then I feel like nothing with settled...

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My inlaws I just blow it off
My parents we both just explain how we feel with a pretty open heart and just deal
My husband we get over it real fast and if were both being buttheads then we take it to email and write out everything to each other instead face to face. We were in a LDR for 2 years prior to the wedding and handled many things via email and its just stuck that it works great that way. Even stupid little things we won't let build up well just say it or shoot it in an email were we can have clearer thoughts then just blurting it out.

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Well, I'm usually the one to call it off or decide that it's done so I have to put myself on the other side. Yes, it can be rude depending on how it's done. I try really hard not to hang up on my DH, that is very very rude and not productive in an argument, IMO, and only serves to p!ss the other person off alot more. But sometimes I do need to walk away from the argument to cool off, collect myself, or gain a new perspective. Alot of the times it really helps...especially if *I* need to see that *I* am wrong. It's hard to admit that you are the one who is wrong in the heat of an argument.

But even if and when I do try to walk away from an argument, it's never over until it's resolved. We both try to work it out because we are both like that - we like or need to have a resolution to an argument.

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Well i think it really depends on how the argument is going. If it is a continuous back and forth or yelling then IMO...sometimes walking away for a while is better IMO.

But if it is a discussion that someone feels that they are just done with, without an resolution...IMO that is rude and disrespectful.

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haha my husband and I just had this argument last night. I am the walker away! My husband tends to be a nasty fighter so when I feel he's being unreasonable or nasty and i can't respond in kind I walk away. It drives him nuts and we are kind of at a stalemate concenring this. I told him remain calm and reasonable and I will stay in the room.

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I'm the type of person that usually ends up walking away. I get too worked up when I argue, so a lot of times I need to calm myself down and think things over. Then I'll go back to the person and talk with them when I'm in a calm mindset.