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evenedan
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Very bizarre!! I remember after my dog passed away, she was lying in her bed looking so peaceful and I felt tempted to take a picture of her so I could always remember how peaceful she looked in death. But I decided it was too weird and inappropriate and didn't do it.
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preciouslove
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Posted by browneyedgirl
well, if you think about it, they publish pictures of people lying in state in the newspapers whenever someone important dies. and it's all over the tv--people can TIVO it! and no one has a problem with that.
i don't think it's odd, or inappropriate. i, too, think it's cultural and people deal with grief in different ways. if it makes that person feel better by looking at her dead cousin in a picture, then let her be.
i used to go to my grandmother's grave every week because it made me feel better. i didn't care what anyone thought.
and honestly, i thought about taking pictures of both of my grandparents because i have a terrible memory and wanted to remember that last time seeing them. i never did it though.
don't judge if you don't know the reasoning behind something.
I wasn't judging anyone. To each his own. If it brings that person comfort then so be it.
I'm speaking from my OWN personal opinion. I think it's creepy and like I said before if I (knock on wood) ever lost an immediate family member and somone took a picture of that person in a coffin. I still would smash their cameras.
But hey if noone said anything to this guy for taking the pictures then fine let him do it. He did upset someone though and made them cry but hey I guess that was alright because I shouldn't judge the person for doing what they were doing...
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Boobobunny
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
I have heard of this being done in the past...when some of the family lived too far away to attend the funeral. It was done to prove that this person had in fact passed. Morbid, I know.
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LSP2005
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
My DH's best friend's father passed on and he asked me to take photos at the funeral and wake. He asked my DH to video tape the wake and funeral. I will say it was one of the hardest things I had ever had to do. I took the photos and his family was really very appreciative. They put the photos in an album and every time I see his family they thank me for taking the photos. I think this is a cultural thing. In my family we would never do anything like this.
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GioiaMia
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
I know that Italians do this.
There is a picture of my mom with her brothers and sisters standing next to my grandmother's coffin. . . my mother has destroyed her copy but i think there are a few more.
I personally would never do this and was always glad that my family did not carry on this tradition. . . why would anyone want to remember that? Like you could ever forget?
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Posted by bedda26
I wasn't judging anyone. To each his own. If it brings that person comfort then so be it.
sorry...came across wrong...i wasn't saying YOU were judging, i was saying--in general--don't knock a person (literally  ) when you don't know their intentions or reasons for doing something. we all do things that others may think are strange or inappropriate...
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MichelleR
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
My aunt had done that when her mom and sister died. And I thought it was a bit strange. My aunt was super super close with both of them, so maybe she just wanted one last pic. But it was still weird.
She also had a pic of my cousins standing around my aunts (open) casket. Which was also strange.
(and it wasn't a cultural thing)
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november12003
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
My cousin did this at our grandfather's wake. We were ALL creeped out by it.
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jellybean78
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
My family does this...
I don't see the point. I'd rather remember the person alive than dead
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| Posted 7/30/07 2:05 PM |
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stayandjohn
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Posted by nyteacher13
Members of my family have done this. I know only because I came across a picture at my nanny's house years ago - it was very common for them to take pictures of the deceased back then (at least for Italians in my family). Both my parents thought it was creepy, but they chalked it up to something they did back then.
Same here, when my Great Grandmother died and we were cleaning out her house I came across pics of my Grandmother standing next to my Grandfathers grave and I was like WTH?
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| Posted 7/30/07 2:14 PM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
In Victorian times many babies died young, and the parents had nothing to remember them by so very often they would hire a funerary photographer who would come and take these photos, it would be all they had of this child whose time on this planet was so very short.
If you google victorian funerary photos you can find lots them, they are quite morbid, but fascinating.
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USAFmrs
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
IMO-- bizarre
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Gertyrae
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Wow...you learn something new every day...
I would have thought this creepy and gross also, but now I know it's a custom among some families so will look at it differently.
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honeywolf73
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
I think someone might have taken pictures at my grandmother's wake I know I have heard of people doing this, I myself wouldn't because I perfer to rember the person living not deceased. On the otherhand it wouldn't upset me if someone took pictures.
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jennifaaaa
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
My Grandfather took pictures of my mom in the casket during the wake and myaunt and uncles almost had heart failure. My Aunt told my grandfather not to do it and he said okay. But, when the service was over, juts before we went to the church from the funeral home my grand father got up and asked the priest to stand closer to the casket so he could get a picture of him with my mom...I almost fainted and my aunts and uncles were yelling at him... that was 13 years ago..now i look back and laugh at it....
People tried to tell me it was a Polish custom to do this....
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ladybug8
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Posted by racheeeee
In Victorian times many babies died young, and the parents had nothing to remember them by so very often they would hire a funerary photographer who would come and take these photos, it would be all they had of this child whose time on this planet was so very short.
If you google victorian funerary photos you can find lots them, they are quite morbid, but fascinating.
There is a book called Sleeping Beauties. It is filled with pictures of deceased children all dressed up and sometimes sitting up in chairs. 
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MsG
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
DH's relatives from Italy just did this at a wake.
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kmac
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Oh I think it is very odd and a little creepy to take a pic of someone in a coffin...eeek.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
It is creepy. When DH's mother was in the ICU last December, another patient passed away and one of her relatives (I think it was her grandson) took pictures of her body as they rolled it out with the sheet over it along with the board her name was on and the empty room. I dont know what he was going to do with them, but either way, I think it is creepy.
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preciouslove
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
It's just too creepy for me ...
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Where's ValR.... I bet she can tell you tons of stories!!!!
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CathyB
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
I just think people grieve in different ways.
Before I had kids I read a story in People magazine about how parents who lost babies were having their ashes placed inside Build A Bears and putting the bears in the crib. I thought it was creepy at the time, but now that I have kids I can completely understand needing to do that.
ETA: We recently lost my great uncle and my grandmother couldn't attend the wake and asked if anyone took a pic so she could see him. We hadn't, but it kinda made sense to me that she needed that closure.
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CAT215
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
I think it is odd, but then I find the whole open casket thing odd
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MrsS518
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
creppy. I never heard of that before. ODD
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Re: Do you think this is odd?
Posted by Tilde
I know that Italians do this.
There is a picture of my mom with her brothers and sisters standing next to my grandmother's coffin. . . my mother has destroyed her copy but i think there are a few more.
I personally would never do this and was always glad that my family did not carry on this tradition. . . why would anyone want to remember that? Like you could ever forget?
Yes....my entire Italian family does this. I never personally snapped a picture and I do think its creepy but its tradition in my family.
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