Sooo, time for me to fess up..Ahhhh *Update* I spoke to her ***Another UPDATE**** bottom pg 4..he chose one of my options..

I have a confession, i haven't been around much, and I know i've missed a ton!

Not sure if any of you head over to the relationship board much, but I'm "He-cheated".

It's been 9 months (yesterday was 9 months) since i found out about the emotional affair and things have been just stagnant. He still continues to contact her, the most recent being last week, prior to that 2 weeks before.

At 11am i will be talking to this wife, mother to her own daughter who my husband put all his energy into. I cannot WAIT to see what she has in store for me!!!! I just want to talk to her woman to woman, mom to mom.

I am tired of the rollercoaster, i am so sick of the lies, the anger, the mistrust, and the constant agitation he has towards me. I live with a robot, no show of emotions, no affection, no attention and he NEVER was like this. Every human being on the face of this PLANET needs physical touch, closeness with someone, we are programmed for it. Now he's been getting short with my girls and I've HAD it!

Last week he stopped going to couples counseling and individual cause he felt like he was getting picked on and REFUSES to believe he is the one who needs to change.

I've been working on myself and trying desperatly to save my marriage, but it has been for nothing..He's a lying, selfish, self centered, immature, POS and I'm so done, i'm burned!

What's that old saying..you can bring a horse to water....

Sooo, here's how i've stimulated the economy
-brand new 350 coach bag
-Clothes for me and my girls
-Traded in my diamond studs he gave me years ago and upgraded to 3/4 carat ones
-And the big one, my brand new love of my life-My Canon XSI digital rebel with the 430x ii flash, a diffuser, filters, and a cordless remote.

He wants to separate but still live under the same roof with me..not going to happen!!
I gave him 2 options
-2 weeks of his own space, just being roomies, then he starts working or he's out
-He doesn't want to work he doesn't get to live with us and he needs to be out by sunday night by the time i return from LI with my girls.

Sooooo, that's been me.

Next up..selling my gold from my engagement ring, making the diamond into a pendant, and the ring of lies aka wedding band and getting the money for the gold and diamonds.

*Update*
I spoke to her...she chickened out and decided to email me instead of calling like she said she would.

Email she sent
"Hi, Got to work am being pulled into an afternoon of hell. Have a bunch of issues that need to be resolved this am. Sorry!

I am just going to let you know I apologize for speaking to Frank but sincerely I never knew you didn’t know I existed.

He was a great friend… I know you believed it to have been too emotional and it makes sense as I was kept from you. However, I can assure you on my side it was nothing more than a great friend with similar interests, and kids.

I don’t ever see/talk to him and then got that random txt from you the other week which is only confusing and made me terribly annoyed. I keep trying to get out of both of your lives and you aren’t allowing me to fully be out. Really want that for everyone.

Please anything you need from me please let me know.

Thanks, Amanda"

2nd email

.... and I talked about everything under the sun with the girls. We talked about friends briefly more me than him but never talked families (I am real weird about that stuff)… I am an open book about 90% but feel like my coworker friend doesn’t need to know about my family and vice versa. So I know nothing about you two (except from LI, met thru a cousin and other generic high level stuff)… I didn’t know you were depressed. It’s a long road once you get on the meds and I am sure this **** doesn’t help! I had post partum after Sofia so I know what it is like and how it can impact everyone in your life (family & friends).
Not sure when he sent it but I never got it… Tuesday of this week? I barley remember this morning but would def remember a text from him especially now! I am so sorry you have no reason to believe me (or him frankly) but I really have not received anything. Even after you texted me (last week? Not sure again dates/times no good for me) I didn’t reach out to him/tell him /talk to him / or reach out for an explanation- just left it alone.

I am sorry for our friendship caused so much hurt/distrust with you guys. I am sorry that I was the cause of that part.

Feel free to let me know if you need anything/have more questions. I am here."

I had asked her about an email i found on Dh's ipod either this week or last week,,,when he TOLD ME AGAIN he wasn't in contact with her. I don't believe a word she says...
And i must tell you, Dh is quite the un happy nervous camper that i spoke with her.

Message edited 3/20/2009 8:38:31 AM.

Re: Sooo, time for me to fess up..Ahhhh

I'm so sorry.

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I know we spoke a bit already behind the scenes but I am so sorry for what you are going through

You did what you could to save your marriage....please know that

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You should feel proud of yourself that you tried your best to make the marriage work. But you can't do it on your own. And since your DH isn't on board to work things out, it seems like you have a good plan of action in place. I can't wait to hear how the "meeting" goes. I hope it can offer you some answers and closure to this aweful time in your life.

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I am so sorry you have to deal with this !!!! We are here for you if you need anything, even if it's a shoulder to cry on

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If you need anything, anything at all...let me know.

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Oh my gosh sweetie!

I had a feeling something was going on, but I didn't want to push it on you if you weren't ready.

I am here if you need anything

And good for you, I love all of the things that you got

I am so sorry you are going through this

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I'm so sorry!!! No one should be treated like this.

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Im so sorry

many many

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I am so sorry you are going through this-you seem so strong

I've heard more and more of this type of stuff going on and it is horrible

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it seems like YOU did everything that you could to try to save your marriage.

I am so sorry you are going through this

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I am so sorry

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Posted by DeniseMarie

it seems like YOU did everything that you could to try to save your marriage.

I am so sorry you are going through this

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I am so sorry it has come to this, but you know you did everything you could to save your marriage. Now you have to let it go. You will be a stronger and better person!



I'm here if you need me.

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Im so sorry that it has come to this...

I was really hoping he'd be able to see the light...

Im still planning on that trip north...

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I'm sooo sorry you're going through this!!!!

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I am so sorry to hear what you've been going through. It sounds like your mind knows what is best for you and your girls, which is the most important thing ultimately I think you are very brave for posting this-- your girls should be very proud of what a STRONG mommy they have

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I am so sorry you are going through this.

It's after 11am and I am thinking of you and hoping you are getting the answers you need.

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I'm so sorry....

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I'm sorry you have to deal with this!

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I'm so sorry for all that you have gone through. I'm glad you're staying strong for your girls.



Sometimes it's hard to see the light but always know, it will get better.

Please, please, please take care of yourself.

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I am really sorry

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Michele, I have been thinking about you.

you my friend, have balls of STEEL

I wish you the best.

you still have my number.

good luck with the woman.

I wish you and your girls the best.

and I will still kick your husband's *** for you. he needs one. BADLY.

nice job on the shopping by the way...though I might have added a pair of Louboutains to the mix before kicking him (with the heel!!) to the curb!