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adeline27
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Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

The future inlaws of my cousin is throwing an enagment celebration for their daughter and my cousin at their home (future inlaws home), invite came from the future inlaws.

Do I bring something or bring a money gift. If money gift, how much? WWYD

Message edited 1/19/2012 2:37:42 PM.

Posted 1/19/12 2:36 PM
 
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Jennifer
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

I would definitely do $. Depending on how close you are with the cousin, I would do something between $50-100.

Posted 1/19/12 3:16 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by Jennifer

I would definitely do $. Depending on how close you are with the cousin, I would do something between $50-100.



ditto!

Posted 1/19/12 3:35 PM
 

JME78
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Personally I don't give cash for Engagement parties - I give an item off the registry, or another keepsake type item (tiffany frame, etc).

Posted 1/19/12 4:23 PM
 

jilliibabii
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by JME78

Personally I don't give cash for Engagement parties - I give an item off the registry, or another keepsake type item (tiffany frame, etc).



I don't like giving cash for e-parties either. My friend's e-party is next weekend and I've gotten them a $75 gift certificate for a canvas print since I'm sure they'll have tons of pro pics soon enough!

Posted 1/19/12 4:28 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by jilliibabii

Posted by JME78

Personally I don't give cash for Engagement parties - I give an item off the registry, or another keepsake type item (tiffany frame, etc).



I don't like giving cash for e-parties either. My friend's e-party is next weekend and I've gotten them a $75 gift certificate for a canvas print since I'm sure they'll have tons of pro pics soon enough!



See I always give $. I feel like they could better use the cash to help put towards wedding expenses. My eparty paid for my DJ and photographer. It was a huge help.

Posted 1/19/12 5:24 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

i always give money... gifts at least for me are for bridal showers only.

Posted 1/19/12 5:59 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by AJandCJsMommy

i always give money... gifts at least for me are for bridal showers only.



The same for me. Our eparty cash paid for a huge chunk of our honeymoon.

Posted 1/19/12 6:23 PM
 

AidansArmy
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by OrganicMama

Posted by AJandCJsMommy

i always give money... gifts at least for me are for bridal showers only.



The same for me. Our eparty cash paid for a huge chunk of our honeymoon.



Me too. I give cash.

Posted 1/19/12 10:07 PM
 

muffaboo
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by OrganicMama

Posted by AJandCJsMommy

i always give money... gifts at least for me are for bridal showers only.



The same for me. Our eparty cash paid for a huge chunk of our honeymoon.



ditto. I didn't register until after our e-party. Only one person gave us a gift, everyone else was cash/checks.

eta: And to answer the question, I would give around $100, give or take, due to how close we are.

Message edited 1/19/2012 11:42:47 PM.

Posted 1/19/12 11:41 PM
 

gina409
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i always give cashChat Icon

Posted 1/20/12 12:28 AM
 

mbg1007
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

I always give a gift off the registry, only give $ for the wedding. For our engagement party most people gave gifts off the registry, I guess it depends what the norm is with your friends/family.

Posted 1/20/12 9:38 AM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

50- 100

Posted 1/20/12 9:40 AM
 

BayB614
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by jilliibabii

I don't like giving cash for e-parties either. My friend's e-party is next weekend and I've gotten them a $75 gift certificate for a canvas print since I'm sure they'll have tons of pro pics soon enough!



great e. party gift idea!!

Posted 1/20/12 9:49 AM
 

jilliibabii
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by jgl

Posted by jilliibabii

Posted by JME78

Personally I don't give cash for Engagement parties - I give an item off the registry, or another keepsake type item (tiffany frame, etc).



I don't like giving cash for e-parties either. My friend's e-party is next weekend and I've gotten them a $75 gift certificate for a canvas print since I'm sure they'll have tons of pro pics soon enough!



See I always give $. I feel like they could better use the cash to help put towards wedding expenses. My eparty paid for my DJ and photographer. It was a huge help.



And the way I look at it, if you need the money, you shouldn't have spent your cash on an engagement party. I DO look at it differently when someone is throwing it for them, but I find e-parties to be completely unnecessary.

Posted 1/20/12 9:52 AM
 

AngnShaun
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by jgl

Posted by jilliibabii

Posted by JME78

Personally I don't give cash for Engagement parties - I give an item off the registry, or another keepsake type item (tiffany frame, etc).



I don't like giving cash for e-parties either. My friend's e-party is next weekend and I've gotten them a $75 gift certificate for a canvas print since I'm sure they'll have tons of pro pics soon enough!



See I always give $. I feel like they could better use the cash to help put towards wedding expenses. My eparty paid for my DJ and photographer. It was a huge help.



I agree. Cash is a lot more helpful when planning a wedding than a picture frame... And i dont know a lot of people who have their registries done at the time of an eparty...

Posted 1/20/12 10:00 AM
 

JME78
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate


Posted by jilliibabii



And the way I look at it, if you need the money, you shouldn't have spent your cash on an engagement party. I DO look at it differently when someone is throwing it for them, but I find e-parties to be completely unnecessary.



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I hate that engagement parties have basically become a way to help people finance their weddings.

Posted 1/20/12 2:51 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by JME78


Posted by jilliibabii



And the way I look at it, if you need the money, you shouldn't have spent your cash on an engagement party. I DO look at it differently when someone is throwing it for them, but I find e-parties to be completely unnecessary.



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I hate that engagement parties have basically become a way to help people finance their weddings.




I agree.
Not a fan.

Posted 1/20/12 2:59 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by JME78


Posted by jilliibabii



And the way I look at it, if you need the money, you shouldn't have spent your cash on an engagement party. I DO look at it differently when someone is throwing it for them, but I find e-parties to be completely unnecessary.



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I hate that engagement parties have basically become a way to help people finance their weddings.




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What happened to just throwing a party THEN announcing the engagement??

Posted 1/20/12 2:59 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

Posted by JME78


Posted by jilliibabii



And the way I look at it, if you need the money, you shouldn't have spent your cash on an engagement party. I DO look at it differently when someone is throwing it for them, but I find e-parties to be completely unnecessary.



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I hate that engagement parties have basically become a way to help people finance their weddings.




Agreed!!!!!!!

And according to LIF if you don't attend the party, you're rude. If you attend and give a gift or small monetary amount, you're a cheap jerk.

Posted 1/20/12 3:15 PM
 

jennielee15
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

I've only been to one engagement party and since they came to ours we just gave them the same thing they gave us. $100

Posted 1/20/12 3:29 PM
 

MrsA1012
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

I'd give $100.

Posted 1/20/12 3:53 PM
 

caslee11
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I hate that engagement parties have basically become a way to help people finance their weddings.




I totally agree!!

Posted 1/20/12 4:24 PM
 

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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

We didn't have an engagement party, because I am not a huge fan of them. However, people sent us some really nice gifts when we got engaged that I love so much-like a really nice frame, toasting flutes to use at the wedding, a nice platter, etc.

I am not from LI originally, and apparently there are tons of rules and regulations about wedding-related gift-giving that I am unaware of, but I think a small gift is perfectly appropriate for an engagement party.

Posted 1/20/12 6:48 PM
 

helenmoore
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Re: Engagement Gift, what's appropriate

I wouldn’t have given a money gift in an engagement, and other gift ideas depends on your proximity with the person.

Posted 1/23/12 7:45 AM
 
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