Don't know why but I just feel so guilty......

all my attention has been on my DD....she is soo attached to me and I love it! Now, it has hit me that once this baby comes (in Feb)..it will be different for her. My attention is going be on the newborn as well and I don't know how she is going to take it. I just feel so guilty...like I am doing something wrong!

Re: Don't know why but I just feel so guilty......

You are def. not alone. I look at my dd and my heart melts. However, I am on bed rest for the last few weeks and she is spending a lot of time with her grandparents, aunts, and uncles so she is getting used to being away from me. That is making me feel even more guilty! It is such an emotional roller coaster but I know it will work itself out! Hang in there you are def. not alone!

Re: Don't know why but I just feel so guilty......

The guilt I felt towards DD the first 2-3 months of this pregnancy is indescribable. We very much planned this pregnancy BUT I did not plan for the emotional aspect of it. I had no idea how awful I would feel towards DD or how I would feel like I was somehow betraying her. I cried for a very long time. I even went as far as to see a therapist who specializes in "second child guilt" (I never even know such a specialty existed!). It was a very rough time for me.

Over time, and talking to DH and a lot of BTDT mommies I am now so excited to be giving DD a little sibling. I feel like she got two full years of undivided attention from mommy and daddy and that's two more years than any of her siblings will ever have. I do think I will get sad towards the end of my pregnancy again when I realize I only have a few days left alone with her, but I know it will all work out and we will be one happy, crazy, busy family of four.

BELIEVE ME....you are not alone!

Re: Don't know why but I just feel so guilty......

Posted by ko123

The guilt I felt towards DD the first 2-3 months of this pregnancy is indescribable. We very much planned this pregnancy BUT I did not plan for the emotional aspect of it. I had no idea how awful I would feel towards DD or how I would feel like I was somehow betraying her. I cried for a very long time. I even went as far as to see a therapist who specializes in "second child guilt" (I never even know such a specialty existed!). It was a very rough time for me.

Over time, and talking to DH and a lot of BTDT mommies I am now so excited to be giving DD a little sibling. I feel like she got two full years of undivided attention from mommy and daddy and that's two more years than any of her siblings will ever have. I do think I will get sad towards the end of my pregnancy again when I realize I only have a few days left alone with her, but I know it will all work out and we will be one happy, crazy, busy family of four.

BELIEVE ME....you are not alone!