Am i being petty?

My sister is in charge of my baby shower and she said she didnt want me to be a part of planning. I agreed but told her that I really didnt want a surprise bc I want to be prepared and get a dress and make sure I look nice. Well I found out that she is planning a surprise (its in two weeks) and she just sent out invites - via Facebook! For people who dont have FB she sent messages to others asking them to tell that person - tacky? And the locaton is in Maspeth where she lives - close to no one else!

I know I should just be happy and grateful that im having a shower but Im a little annoyed bc I feel like she is doing something half-fast and going against the one thing I asked her not to do (surprise).

I cant say anything to her bc she will want to know how i found out.

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Honestly I don't think I would like that either. I don't understand how you could invite people through facebook for something like this. That is kind of tacky. You are suppose to send invitations. Also to have people tell other people that don't have facebook is not the way to go. That is your sisters job to invite them not the guests.

Message edited 2/13/2011 10:21:42 AM.

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There's not much you can do about the invites now, but I would reemphasize to her, "Remember I really don't want a surprise, I won't enjoy myself if I don't like how I look, you shouldn't surprise a pregnant woman, etc, etc"

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I don't think you're being petty at all. I wouldn't like it if my sister did that either. Maybe you can talk to her, or have a family member talk to her, about sending formal invitations and location. Can she move the date back a few weeks to do it the right way?

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No advice, just lots of and know you're not being petty! I don't like the idea of FB invites either, but your friends and family KNOW it wasn't your idea to do that!

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i don't think youre being petty at all. sorry sweetie.

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I don't think you are being petty! I HATE surprises, and had several arguments/discussions with my mother & sister about how I REALLY do not want to be surprised for my shower, for the same reasons, I want to look good, and be prepared! They finally caved and reluctantly told me the date, but only after I kept insisting that lots of girls KNOW about their shower and just act surprised.

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In one sense I would be less than pleased. So I do agree with being annoyed with those aspects. Especially the invites and the location. i'm sorry.

I've also learned that when other's plan things for you... they like to do it their own way. And it's not always what you would want or what you would think of doing. that's the downside to the planning being in the hands of someone else.