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Ok- so I want to be on Team Green but I don't know how. How do/did you NOT give in? Does it come easy for you or are/were you biting your knuckles over it like I am? LOL

I want to be team green more than anything but it's so hard for me to relax and be surprised...

Please help and encourage me. Maybe someone's advice will make something snap in my head. It shouldn't be this hard if it's truly what I want. I just need to get past my level II and then I think I'll be fine.

Thanks!

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Seriously, it has never been a problem for me not knowing (with either pregnancy). My husband said something once and it is sooo true: "it is the best surprise in life". No matter the outcome, it will be great. You will have such joy the moment you find out. I remember when they told me I had a baby boy, I was just so happy and so excited to hold and see him. There is nothing like waiting to hear and the joy you will have.

There is so much to get excited about and prepare for, try not to focus on the sex part. Focus on getting ready for a baby, what you'll need, etc. You can do it - hang in there!!

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Carolyn! You flip-flopper! I thought you said you wanted to know!

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You can do it!
It's such an awesome feeling going in at the end and STILL waiting for that "surprise".
It's fun keeping everyone in suspense too.
I'll admit, with DS, it was hard...Always getting comments "how are you going to plan? Register?" etc. w/out knowing..
I made it easy for everyone and registered..LOL..they just had to look at the list.
There are cute "neutral" nurseries, clothes, etc.
I just can't describe that anxiety..Its a good anxiety. Waiting for the dr (or your DH) to announce "its a ....." is just an amazing feeling.
Once you get the past the 20 week, it gets easier.
For me (like everyone) the most important is that the baby is healthy. I honestly don't care what the sex is. Just want a healthy baby.

ETA: I have never really been a planner, Im a "last minute" person, so, that helps too..LOL

Message edited 3/4/2009 1:37:59 PM.

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For me it is easy.

I just keep picturing my husband comming out of the waiting room to my family and telling everyone what the baby is.

dont let anyone give you crap for being

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Sorry I have no advice, I am the same way! We're having the sono tech write it down and seal it in an envelope at our level II. We WANT to wait until my NY shower to find out with my family, but hopefully we won't rip that envelope open in the car on the way home from the appointment!!!

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I think the surprise is so much fun! I can't imagine not waiting.

Last pregnancy, we did a gender neutral bedding but this time we are just going to wait until the baby is born to buy that stuff & complete the nursery.

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Posted by jms100303

Seriously, it has never been a problem for me not knowing (with either pregnancy). My husband said something once and it is sooo true: "it is the best surprise in life". No matter the outcome, it will be great. You will have such joy the moment you find out. I remember when they told me I had a baby boy, I was just so happy and so excited to hold and see him. There is nothing like waiting to hear and the joy you will have.

There is so much to get excited about and prepare for, try not to focus on the sex part. Focus on getting ready for a baby, what you'll need, etc. You can do it - hang in there!!

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I want to add that I have 3 girls at home. I am not a gender specific person and I'm not pg again b/c we 're trying for a boy. I have no preference and that's my honest answer. With all my girls, I knew their gender. I had the sono tech writie it on a piece of paper. It was perfect but now I want something more-I want the ultimate.

This is my last child and I want it to be extra special....KWIM? It's just so hard b/c my personality is now now now!!! I have no patience. My DH is no help b/c he wants to know and is upset tha I want to wait. He has no choice-if I wait , he waits. I think I know what I'm gonna do- I think I know how I'm gonna handle it.

ETA: this is the REAL reason I want to wait it out. With my 3rd DD (I knew it was a girl) I was induced. I've never been induced, I always labored at home and then to the hospital. Anyway, I hardly got sleep the night before and I had a tough time laboring b/c of it. I was physically exhausted. All I wanted to do was go to sleep. I wasn't even anticapating the birth b/c I as that exhausted. My choice is always to go natural-no meds, so strenght and rest is what's needed. I had neither and to this day I am so upset that I wanted her out so I could close my eyes and rest. I am ashamed of that and I want my last baby to be a different memory. It's still hard to wait. LOL However, I am going to do it!!!

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So just to re-iterate some key things already mentioned - its the best surprise of your life!!! There are so many other things to focus on prior to the baby getting here - why not hold out???

I here it definetly helps you get through those final pushes too...

As a side note - for those of us who really don't want to know - I was told by a friend - make sure you let each sono tech know that you DONT want to know.... more times than not they assume that either you know already or want to know...

Let's go team green!!!

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Posted by Jodee

So just to re-iterate some key things already mentioned - its the best surprise of your life!!! There are so many other things to focus on prior to the baby getting here - why not hold out???

I here it definitely helps you get through those final pushes too...

As a side note - for those of us who really don't want to know - I was told by a friend - make sure you let each sono tech know that you DONT want to know.... more times than not they assume that either you know already or want to know...

Let's go team green!!!

Oh you are definitely right. My purpose of posting this was to remind me and to help me. It's working.

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Posted by PitterPatter

Carolyn! You flip-flopper! I thought you said you wanted to know!

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Thanks everyone this definitely helped!!!

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Posted by BnBdreamin

Posted by PitterPatter

Carolyn! You flip-flopper! I thought you said you wanted to know!

Hey!! You're not staying green so shoo fly shoo!!!! This is a private club here!!!

All the way!

You know how the song goes... It's not easy being !!!

For me it is! I am the youngest of 4 and have 7 nephews (1 niece but from a kinship adoption on BIL's side so none of my siblings have birthed a girl). I love surprises. It's our first baby and we want that moment at delivery. I know people say it's the same excitement/emotion no matter when you find out... just my opinion, no flaming please... I think there's no comparison. My one sis found out for #2 and true it was exciting, but not the same. My other sis found out for #2 accidentally (she says my mom kept asking the sono tech and my mom says the tech slipped ). Again, exciting, just not the same.

I have been on the recieving end of daddy coming out to the waiting room saying "It's a boy!!" 5 out of 7 times and there is no way in a million years that I would ever deny 1. my family that excitement and 2. my husband from experiencing that moment of pure love from a family, that he's not really ever had! Oh but let me tell you if it's a girl and you hear a loud boom in Bay Shore... my family just blew the roof off of Southside Hospital!

Before my dad was killed on 9.11, he'd always tell my mom, in jest, "it would take ten men to replace me" so we wonder if God has a plan.

I'm curious to see where fate leads... play out dad's promise... or make me, the can't do no wrong baby of the family, bring the first !

So you see... there's just too much going on to find out! We're all the way and if a sono tech slips, they'll be out of a job!!!!

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i wish i had the willpower cuz it would be really fun to have that kinda surprise but for one...i have no willpower and i'm too anal-retentive to not be able to plan ahead

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Posted by Myababy

wow where were you when I was having a hard time deciding!!!

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Posted by BnBdreamin

Posted by Myababy

wow where were you when I was having a hard time deciding!!!

Aww! I have to say... as a million percent I don't want to find out... I'm doing it a hair more for DH's waiting room experience! I know, I'm g@y!

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Carolyn i am in your shoes too! when i get PG again i really really really want to be team

i had no problems finding out with DS - i am a very impatient person! but i had a less than ideal delivery experience - it was very "out of body" and when they showed DS to me, since i hadn't gone through labor, he didn't even feel like my baby i remember watching DH hold him in the OR and wishing everyone would just leave me alone. plus i got the shakes really bad about halfway through and for an hour or so afterwards, so i couldn't even hold him.

so for the next time, since i know i will only have scheduled Cs from now on, i want to be team so i have something to look forward to. of course i will always look forward to meeting my new baby but i want something to look forward to during the actual delivery, KWIM?

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Posted by headoverheels

Carolyn i am in your shoes too! when i get PG again i really really really want to be team

i had no problems finding out with DS - i am a very impatient person! but i had a less than ideal delivery experience - it was very "out of body" and when they showed DS to me, since i hadn't gone through labor, he didn't even feel like my baby i remember watching DH hold him in the OR and wishing everyone would just leave me alone. plus i got the shakes really bad about halfway through and for an hour or so afterwards, so i couldn't even hold him.

so for the next time, since i know i will only have scheduled Cs from now on, i want to be team so i have something to look forward to. of course i will always look forward to meeting my new baby but i want something to look forward to during the actual delivery, KWIM?

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For us we think that there are only a few surprises in life and this is one of them. We both have felt the same way for a while and we knew even when we were TTC that we didn't want to find out.

We have also been told by a few of our good friends that that moment when the doctors/nurses announce "It's a _____ " is one of the best moments of your life.

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Posted by WTHBFP

For me it is easy.

I just keep picturing my husband comming out of the waiting room to my family and telling everyone what the baby is.

dont let anyone give you crap for being

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I'm team

I'm looking forward to that moment when the dr. say's it's a or I know it will be so special for both dh and I. I also love how I have my family on the edge of their seats. Everyone is guessing and ready to take bets, it's so exciting.

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I really didn't think it was that hard to wait. I don't mind gender neutral stuff especially for the big ticket items b/c we plan to have more kids. I'm not a huge planner either.

I was induced. The epidural didn't work at first. Once it started working, the dosage of pitocin was increased and I'd be in more pain. I wasn't able to rest at all. Eventually, I started having really painful back labor. I never progressed past 4-5 cm and ended up with a c-section. I think part of what helped me get through everything was the anticipation of finding out whether the baby was a boy or girl. DH was the one who told me we had a boy. It was such an amazing and emotional moment. It was absolutely worth it to be surprised in the delivery room.

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I really have never wavered at all on finding out. My DH really wanted to know but he stuck it out w/ me and is so glad he did. I think that moment in the delivery room is going to be so worth it for me! I also think it's going to be awesome for DH to going out into the waiting room and say "It's a ___ !!!!"
It has also saved me a TON of money! I haven't purchased any clothing for this baby. I'm sure I'll get some gender neutral stuff at the shower and then a ton of stuff when the baby is born.
55 more days and I can't wait!

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Thank you everyone! I feel so confident!!! It's funny b/c today DH had a conversation with a client today and they seemed to convince him to wait it out. Now he is on my page and we're not finding out.

So add me to team
I'm on board for sure!!!!!