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randella
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I am really starting to develop a complex...
A couple of points to make, rather than make separate posts. Feel free to comment on whichever one.
I went to Mimi today, because after trying to get dressed again this morning, I thought to myself that I should check out the jeans, and see if I should get a pair just to have on hand... I mean, I AM 20 weeks-- so, about time for some maternity clothes, right?
To be honest, I really think that most of the reason why some of my clothes don't fit is due to the weight I have gained elsewhere on my body. 
So, I tell the girl how far along I am-- and I guess she didn't hear me. She said, what are you, 3 months?? Lady, I am like almost 6 months, 20 freaking weeks.
Point #1
I honestly don't know if it's good or bad that I don't look prego-- but, all I know is that I cannot fully wrap my head around this pregnancy til I feel and look pregnant. I am just having a hard time. I wonder, what if the baby stopped growing, what if it's a hysterical pregnancy. I am seriously contemplating POAS right now.
I also HATE when I tell people I am prego, and they IMMEDIATELY look at my belly and there is nothing, nada, zilch.
Point #2
Second, I am so not into the way maternity pants fit-- am I the only one? I feel like most of them were pretty unflattering-- especially on the arse. Also, I am 5'7" and I felt that they were cutting in close in length.
Point #3
What the frick is up with Mimi's return policy-- 10 days and store credit only. That is really horrible.
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
I have the opposite problem, people think I am 9 months and I am only 19 weeks. I am embarrassed to tell people.
I love the way maternity clothes fit so no help there.
But the reason they have those return policy's is that someone can buy the clothes and then just return them after they give birth. I feel bad though for people that buy them and then miscarry and can't return them
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| Posted 9/12/08 4:19 PM |
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Posted by randella
Point #1
I honestly don't know if it's good or bad that I don't look prego-- but, all I know is that I cannot fully wrap my head around this pregnancy til I feel and look pregnant. I am just having a hard time. I wonder, what if the baby stopped growing, what if it's a hysterical pregnancy. I am seriously contemplating POAS right now.
I also HATE when I tell people I am prego, and they IMMEDIATELY look at my belly and there is nothing, nada, zilch.
Point #2
Second, I am so not into the way maternity pants fit-- am I the only one? I feel like most of them were pretty unflattering-- especially on the arse. Also, I am 5'7" and I felt that they were cutting in close in length.
Point #3
What the frick is up with Mimi's return policy-- 10 days and store credit only. That is really horrible.
1.) If you look at my profile I have an album of my pg's and with my son I didn't really look pg at all at 20 weeks so I understand your frustration. I didn't pop until 25 weeks (I was looking at pictures today).
2 &3) They will never fit the same unless you get seven jeans (they fit the same as regular sevens). I also think though, once you start to show more and really pop things will fit better for you. I ha the best luck at Gap and their return policy is 90 days. I agree that Mimi and motherhood is ridiculous for their return policy. I never really bought anything there because of it.
Also, I gained 45lbs with #1. I was up about 26lbs by 28 weeks!
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kerrycec03
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Ok:
Point #1: I'm sorry, but you have to realize, you started off very skinny. You're 20 weeks and you are still exercising & following a diet routine, what do you expect? Also, I know you'll disagree, but you really haven't gained much. Based off that, of course you're not gonna look the same as everyone else. For like the 3rd time, go out and start wearing some maternity tops so you'll feel more preggo. Who cares if their not fun and trendy. You're preggos.
Point #2: I love how maternity pants fit. I'm pretty sure nobody is checking out arses of pregnant woman anyway. Again, don't worry so much
Point #3: return policies bite. Stick with target, old navy & gap if you're concerned about it.
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eroxgirl
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Point #1:
If you haven't felt that baby yet, you should be feeling him/her very soon. Like in the next few weeks or so. I carried a pregnancy test in my pocketbook to remind me. For the entire 9 months.  Do what you need to do to make yourself feel better.
Point #2:
Maternity pants fit like ish. And they're too fricken short.
I almost knocked the girl in Mimi unconscious when she tried to tell me they had long lengths. I'm 5'9". I know from long lengths. My girlfriend who was with me had to tell her to STFU. But she said it nicer than that - I'm not even preggo anymore and I get hostile thinking about it.
Is this the Mimi/motherhood/pea in the pod on 57th & Madison in the city? Because that's the one I shopped in last year.
Point #3:
The return policy sucks.
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| Posted 9/12/08 4:31 PM |
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bonitachyc
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
you're being hard on yourself. your body is the way it is. yes, many women have a tummy by now, but some don't show until almost the end. i learned really early on that sometimes we can be the exception to the general rule.
take me for instance: i didn't have any morning sickness, i didn't get bigger boobies, no mood changes, energy level changes, nada! i was rather disappointed in that, but who can i blame? what can be done? the answer: nobody. nothing. i just learned to accept it and move on. yes i have a tummy, but that's mostly because i eat whatever i want whenever i want (read: it's all FAT!)
people will be jerks, there's nothing you can do about that! just ignore them and concentrate on your happiness!
as for the maternity pants, all the extra inches that should've been added onto my boobs are in my butt and thighs so those maternity pants are God sent!
just take it one day at a time, don't stress and before you know it you will be enormous wishing you weren't so big  jk but try to cheer up! 
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randella
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
thanks everyone...
I actually put on a maternity shirt today and it's too big-- it doesn't look right. So, I can't really wear that stuff until I got something to fill the area.
I just thought by now, I would FEEL more pregnant.
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| Posted 9/12/08 5:01 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
if people were telling you OMG you look HUGE you would be upset too. I really don't think it's that big of a deal that you are not showing yet.
and maternity clothes, well they are maternity clothes, and you won't be wearing them for long, so does it really matter?
Mimi's policy stinks, so I never shopped there.
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| Posted 9/12/08 5:03 PM |
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
check out my album. i wasn't showing too much at 23 weeks and wasnt showing at all until about 19/20 weeks. I'm 28 and a few days now and there is a big difference. People still say I'm not that big for 28 weeks, but believe me, I feel grateful now because I know I'm just going to get bigger and bigger.
As for maternity pants, sorry, I love them. I find them super comfy. My butt has gotten huge though, so I don't know how that affects them.
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Lucky09
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
I feel the same way you do. At 16 weeks I have gained weight, but honestly, I can't get my pre-pregnancy jeans up over my thighs and arse, so it's not my "belly" that is making them too tight
I haven't told very many people yet because I am very self conscious about my appearance. I went out and bought regular clothes in larger sizes because I don't like ANYTHING that comes in maternity. I live upstate, and they don't have Mimi nearby. The selections in Target and Old Navy are small and picked over. I went to motherhood and bought a pair of jeans, but like you, I am not thrilled about the fit. I ordered some stuff from Gap online weeks ago and it's still sitting in a box somewhere, waiting to be tried on.
Mimi's / Motherhood's return policy SUX! I have a rather large gift card there and I am not going to buy anything until I am much bigger so I can be sure I am getting the right size.
I agree with the PP who said you were really tiny to begin with, and that is why it is probably taking you longer than most to "pop".
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Bridex100
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
You should feel blessed. You probably have strong ab muscles. I remember asking my doctor prior to TTC when you start showing and she said it depended on your stomach muscles. Try not to feel bad!
My one friend "popped" at 25 weeks. You really couldn't tell before that.
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| Posted 9/12/08 6:11 PM |
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Don't worry you'll start showing soon. I was the same way at 20 I didn't look pregnant at all than at about 24 weeks boom I was a pregnant looking girl. It will happen. Try buying some empire waste shirts, those really helped me out in the inbetween stage.
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sarahbelle
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
I totally felt the same way...that I was gaining weight, but not getting a baby belly. And I constantly compared myself to a coworker who was three weeks ahead of me and was showing very early. When I told my dr how I felt, she said to realize that if I was showing early, I'd probably be unhappy about that too. She is probably right.
I really don't think I "popped" until 27 weeks or so. I totally felt like a fraud telling people that I was pregnant when I just didn't look it...so I understand your unhappiness. But you will show...believe me, at 36 weeks, I feel huge and am pretty glad I haven't felt this way through the entire pregnancy.
And I agree, maternity pants look saggy in the butt and the return policy at Motherhood is ridiculous!
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| Posted 9/12/08 6:21 PM |
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Posted by 5ofClubs
I have the opposite problem, people think I am 9 months and I am only 19 weeks. I am embarrassed to tell people.
I love the way maternity clothes fit so no help there.
But the reason they have those return policy's is that someone can buy the clothes and then just return them after they give birth. I feel bad though for people that buy them and then miscarry and can't return them
i'm in the same boat. at 2 months i look 6 months and could not hide it at all. the kicker, now at 29 weeks i have only gained 4 pounds (hopefully a bit more as i have an appointment scheduled next week)! with DD#1 i was up 20 or so by this point.
everyone carries differently, and after DD#1 my body was not the same. things just switch around on you and there is nothing you can do about it. my favorite line of clothing did not fit anymore after DD#1, who knows what will happen after DD#2...
i find the return policies absurd as well. i mean if you have the tags still on, why is it any different than returning regular clothes to a store?
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Posted by randella
A couple of points to make, rather than make separate posts. Feel free to comment on whichever one.
I went to Mimi today, because after trying to get dressed again this morning, I thought to myself that I should check out the jeans, and see if I should get a pair just to have on hand... I mean, I AM 20 weeks-- so, about time for some maternity clothes, right?
To be honest, I really think that most of the reason why some of my clothes don't fit is due to the weight I have gained elsewhere on my body.
So, I tell the girl how far along I am-- and I guess she didn't hear me. She said, what are you, 3 months?? Lady, I am like almost 6 months, 20 freaking weeks.
Point #1
I honestly don't know if it's good or bad that I don't look prego-- but, all I know is that I cannot fully wrap my head around this pregnancy til I feel and look pregnant. I am just having a hard time. I wonder, what if the baby stopped growing, what if it's a hysterical pregnancy. I am seriously contemplating POAS right now.
I also HATE when I tell people I am prego, and they IMMEDIATELY look at my belly and there is nothing, nada, zilch.
Point #2
Second, I am so not into the way maternity pants fit-- am I the only one? I feel like most of them were pretty unflattering-- especially on the arse. Also, I am 5'7" and I felt that they were cutting in close in length.
Point #3
What the frick is up with Mimi's return policy-- 10 days and store credit only. That is really horrible.
I can see where you're coming from. I am sure it feels surreal to be carrying on the small side and to have people looking at you weird when you tell them you're pregnant. Hang in there. I havd a friend of mine not show until 6 months because of the way she was built. I knew another person who was 8 months PG and had the tiniest bump on the planet (she is a very slim girl) Sooner or later your bump will come!!
Maternity stores return policy are TERRIBLE!!!!! Motherhood isn't better. you don't get money back if you return just a store credit or exchange. And many items are not returnable!
XOXOXO
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| Posted 9/12/08 6:28 PM |
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randella
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
thanks everyone... really what bothers me the most is that I don't feel pregnant. It's just such a big life change, which I feel like I am having a lot of trouble absorbing... I think being bothered by the lack of a belly is a by-product of this feeling.
I just worry also that something is wrong.
I know the belly will get here eventually, if everything is normal.
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| Posted 9/12/08 6:38 PM |
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Posted by randella
thanks everyone...
I actually put on a maternity shirt today and it's too big-- it doesn't look right. So, I can't really wear that stuff until I got something to fill the area.
I just thought by now, I would FEEL more pregnant.
I would suggest more fitted shirts-I got cute ones at Target and Kohls. BTW I am nowhere near as thin as you and I HATE the way maternity clothes fit me. I was always very curvy so if I get clothes that fit my azz and thighs the maternity panel falls down. The only ones I have found comfy were stretchy ones-all the jeans I have suk. I would also suggest buying some of the empire waisted shirts in a size larger and wearing those. Half of my shirts are still regular non maternity shirts at this point(25 weeks)
As far as not looking pregnant check out Liza's pics-she really didn't look PG until her 3rd tri
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
At my 20 week level II, I did not look anywhere near as PG as the some of the ladies in the waiting room for their Level II's I'm also 5'7 and we seem to be built similarly...literally a week or two later I literally popped and now there is no denying it, it literally happened over night!!!! I HATE maternity pants, but I'm also not a pants girl, I am in LOVE with maternity leggings (even though I still fit into regular large leggings) maternity leggings are really comfy...Ive been sticking to leggins and big tops and dresses for work.....I have a few pair of maternity black pants that I'll probably wear later on just when it gets cold and dresses aren't going to cut it....
I also got a pair of maternity jeans at pea in the pod and the length was pretty good
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Kris516
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
Posted by randella
thanks everyone... really what bothers me the most is that I don't feel pregnant. It's just such a big life change, which I feel like I am having a lot of trouble absorbing... I think being bothered by the lack of a belly is a by-product of this feeling.
I just worry also that something is wrong.
I know the belly will get here eventually, if everything is normal.
When was your last dr visit? You would know if something was wrong. I tend to freak out when there has been too much time btwn appts. I had one today, and of course, all is well. In 3 weeks, I'll wind up self diagnosing myself or the baby b/c I sneezed too hard. Hang in there, you're going to pop...soon.
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| Posted 9/12/08 10:37 PM |
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Kris516
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
PS - I'm not having luck with maternity clothes fitting either. More b/c the tops are sooo long. It's like I'm pregnant, not 6'2 (I'm only 5' tall). I've been wearing my bella band, and have bought XL tops at Target - "puffier" shirts that have a band at the bottom or empire waist Ts and such.
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
1. You look fantastic and if people wanna look at their belly, theyre just ANNOYING
2. I havent had the pleasure to try on maternity pants but from the many pregnant women ive worked w/, they are NOT attractive in the least
3. Money hungry bastards!!
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| Posted 9/12/08 10:47 PM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
People put on weight differently. You will start to look more pregnant soon. I had a belly pretty early on, but IMO, I just looked fat. Strangers didn't start noticing I was pregnant until 20-21 weeks. Now, at 25 weeks, there's no mistaking I'm pregnant. Have you felt any flutters or kicks yet? If not, you'll start to feel them soon. Don't worry about something being wrong.
I'm 5'4" so I actually have to get most of the pants shortened. I didn't have a problem with the pants fitting b/c as I said, I had a belly (whether bloat or baby) pretty quickly. I've always had larger hips and a butt so I did have trouble filling out the pants. I personally find the secret fit belly pants very comfortable.
Maternity clothes sizes are tough b/c they're just S,M,L,XL instead of regular clothes sizes. They have to guess where most people are going to gain weight and how most people are built. People who gain weight differently will have a tough time finding clothes that fit well.
Maternity store policies, particularly the ones at Mimi and Motherhood, suck. I spent a long time in the dressing room making sure things fit right. I also used the pillow to make sure the clothes would last throughout my pregnancy.
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SweetTooth
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
I have the opposite problem - I started showing really early. I'm not really thrilled with the fit of maternity clothes either - the pants all fall down on me, the crotch always winds up a few inches below where it should be. As for shirts, I started off buying smalls,which is my regular non-pregnant size, and now I am barely fitting into them. My belly is the same size as my friend who is 34 weeks... and I'm 22 weeks!
I don't know if any of this makes you feel any better.... I dont' feel pregnant either. I think even with a belly its not a "real" feeling, KWIM? When you start feeling your baby move, that will be more reassuring for you.
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| Posted 9/13/08 8:34 AM |
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GreenGirl05
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
I stayed at the awkward chubby looking phase for AWHILE!!! It was rough for the ego....but I got over it!! I totally popped during the early 20's weeks!!! You'll get there! It's hard, but don't dwell on it!!!
I HATE MATERNITY PANTS!!!!!!!! I'm still wearing regular pants w/ my bella band and will continue to do so for as long as I can!! I know no one is checking out my arse.....but if I know it looks frumpy, I feel like c r a p!!! lol!!
Hang in there!! 
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| Posted 9/13/08 8:49 AM |
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randella
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Re: I am really starting to develop a complex...
thanks everyone for your insight, etc.
I guess the thing is, that I keep setting these milestones in my head, oh-- by then I will look like this, or by then I will feel the baby, by then I can go maternity shopping, by then I will feel more secure about everything and stop worrying, etc. But, then I have to keep pushing back that milestone because I am not experiencing the things that I thought I would feel.
I actually think I MIGHT have felt the baby last night when I was in bed reading.... It's the same feelings that I have been having and suspecting were the baby, just a bit stronger. Almost like little hands kneading at me from the inside. I don't know what else I could chalk that up to? 
When I feel these things, it does literally feel like something is moving inside of me-- maybe I have just in denial?? Maybe I should talk to a therapist!!
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