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Blu-ize
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Re: What would you do?
I think it's crap that you felt obligated because she's a drama queen and has no friends.
Not your problem. Everyone has their own lives to live. I hate going to things I don't want to.
Beg out now and simply be honest.
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by lilacwine
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
At the time of the blowup, I told her I'd stop by, but that I wouldn't be staying long because I have an early morning the next day - which is true. I figured after what had just happened, I didn't want a repeat.
Because you said you'd go, either keep your word and go, or tell her -- right now -- that you can't make it.
ITA: I think you should try and make an appearance, because, you already said you would "Stop By".
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| Posted 8/28/07 10:39 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by Christine
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
problem is - i already said yes - so if I'm gonna get out of it, I'm going to have to lie
This is why I would go if I were in your shoes.
I agree...not only did you say yes, but you said it during a conversation about the other events.
Go for an hour - you don't even have to stay for 2-3 hours. Stop in, say hello, have a beer and go home. This is what you said you would do - so do it.
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| Posted 8/28/07 10:50 AM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: What would you do?
she just came by and was telling me stuff about the wedding. I was telling her stuff from our wedding experience and she came back with a rather "offensive" reply.
I am seriously re-thinking going.
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| Posted 8/28/07 10:51 AM |
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leighdvm
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
she just came by and was telling me stuff about the wedding. I was telling her stuff from our wedding experience and she came back with a rather "offensive" reply.
I am seriously re-thinking going.
What did she say?
I was about to tell you that you should go in, have a drink or two, then split.
But, if she was offensive, I would tell you to bail out.....
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:02 AM |
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Waste06
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Re: What would you do?
How will she know if you went or not? Is her FH going to give a detailed play by play of who did what at his bach party? (Sounds like tons-o-fun then).
If you only met this guy twice, will he recognize you and hang out with you?
My vote is don't go.
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:03 AM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
she just came by and was telling me stuff about the wedding. I was telling her stuff from our wedding experience and she came back with a rather "offensive" reply.
I am seriously re-thinking going.
What did she say?
I was about to tell you that you should go in, have a drink or two, then split.
But, if she was offensive, I would tell you to bail out.....
FM
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:07 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: What would you do?
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:12 AM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by nrthshgrl
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
after what she said, i am bailing
f*ck her
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:13 AM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by nrthshgrl
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
after what she said, i am bailing
f*ck her
If it was that bad, I wouldn't consider her a friend and would not worry about her feelings. Is it at all possible that she didn't mean for what she said to be offensive? I had a friend that says some of the most offensive things in the world and she has no idea that she is being so mean.
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:15 AM |
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Ophelia
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by nrthshgrl
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
I agree.
is there a reason, other than your good nature, that you care whether or not she gets upset with you (meaning could you face any repurcussions at work??)
if not, AND she's guilting you AND now being offensive, SKIP SKIP SKIP
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:16 AM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by nrthshgrl
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
I agree.
is there a reason, other than your good nature, that you care whether or not she gets upset with you (meaning could you face any repurcussions at work??)
if not, AND she's guilting you AND now being offensive, SKIP SKIP SKIP
that's the only reason - i'm too nice
but she just f*cked it up - game over
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:17 AM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by shamrock124
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by nrthshgrl
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
after what she said, i am bailing
f*ck her
If it was that bad, I wouldn't consider her a friend and would not worry about her feelings. Is it at all possible that she didn't mean for what she said to be offensive? I had a friend that says some of the most offensive things in the world and she has no idea that she is being so mean.
she knows what she said
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:17 AM |
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june262004
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
she just came by and was telling me stuff about the wedding. I was telling her stuff from our wedding experience and she came back with a rather "offensive" reply.
I am seriously re-thinking going.
What did she say?
I was about to tell you that you should go in, have a drink or two, then split.
But, if she was offensive, I would tell you to bail out.....
FM
UMMMM where is my FM buddy 
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:21 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
problem is - i already said yes - so if I'm gonna get out of it, I'm going to have to lie
IMO, since you already said yes, I would go. And, Queens isn't that far from the city, so it's not too much of a trek. Save $20 for a cab home so you don't have to deal with the train/bus.
If you didn't already give an answer, then it would be different, but since you said yes you are already committed. Who knows, you may end up having a good time.
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:26 AM |
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pmpkn087
Life is good...
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by pmpkn087
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
problem is - i already said yes - so if I'm gonna get out of it, I'm going to have to lie
IMO, since you already said yes, I would go. And, Queens isn't that far from the city, so it's not too much of a trek. Save $20 for a cab home so you don't have to deal with the train/bus.
If you didn't already give an answer, then it would be different, but since you said yes you are already committed. Who knows, you may end up having a good time.
wow, I just read the whole thread. Problem solved. No party and maybe you should re-consider going to the wedding as well.
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:28 AM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by june262004
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
she just came by and was telling me stuff about the wedding. I was telling her stuff from our wedding experience and she came back with a rather "offensive" reply.
I am seriously re-thinking going.
What did she say?
I was about to tell you that you should go in, have a drink or two, then split.
But, if she was offensive, I would tell you to bail out.....
FM
UMMMM where is my FM buddy
um yeahhhhh what she said 
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:50 AM |
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leighla
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by shamrock124
I think you should go to at least the 1st stop...the bar. I only say this because you already said you would "stop by". Go, have a drink or two, stay for an hour or so and go. You don't have to stay for long; just make an appearance.
I agree.
ETA: Just read page 2. Seems the decision was made.
Enjoy your Saturday night.
Message edited 8/28/2007 11:59:06 AM.
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| Posted 8/28/07 11:57 AM |
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TeddyBear922
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by leighdvm
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
she just came by and was telling me stuff about the wedding. I was telling her stuff from our wedding experience and she came back with a rather "offensive" reply.
I am seriously re-thinking going.
What did she say?
I was about to tell you that you should go in, have a drink or two, then split.
But, if she was offensive, I would tell you to bail out.....
FM
No fair.....I want to know too
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| Posted 8/28/07 12:53 PM |
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tourist
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
problem is - i already said yes - so if I'm gonna get out of it, I'm going to have to lie
Don't lie, but don't go.
Just tell her you are sorry to back out a the last minute, but you won't be able to make it.
No need to elaborate.
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| Posted 8/28/07 1:03 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
22 Months?!!!!
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Re: What would you do?
thanks to all
i appreciate all of the insight in helping me make the decision
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| Posted 8/28/07 2:01 PM |
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itkocak
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Re: What would you do?
Message edited 11/10/2011 8:50:53 PM.
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| Posted 8/28/07 2:11 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: What would you do?
Just say you're having "Men problems"... seems to work pretty good for women.... 
Glad to hear it "worked itself out". No need to get caught up in her drama. 
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| Posted 8/28/07 2:44 PM |
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Bluepixie
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Re: What would you do?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by nrthshgrl
Come on - don't let your co-worker badger you into going. This is ridiculous.
Nip it in the bud now before the baby shower, christening, 1st birthday stuff starts.
If she is a good friend, go. If she's a co-worker, skip it.
I agree.
is there a reason, other than your good nature, that you care whether or not she gets upset with you (meaning could you face any repurcussions at work??)
if not, AND she's guilting you AND now being offensive, SKIP SKIP SKIP
that's the only reason - i'm too nice
but she just f*cked it up - game over
Woah, wow! I missed alot since going to lunch!!!
She must have been REALLY nasty!
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| Posted 8/28/07 3:06 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: What would you do?
Your last sentence is my option... go, they have good wings
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