spinoff to almost 3.5 year old who isnt sleeping well

So I was talking with my dd's teacher on monday about her emotional outbursts to see if there was any change in school. Well i happened to mention how happy dd is with school she has fun, but she tells me that this 1 little girl is mean to her. Girl was in her class last year and was mean then too. Teacher goes on to tell me off the record that the little girl is an issue. Shes mean to everyone but especially to my dd and 2 other quiet kids. Her and another girl gang up on them in fact (which i knew and brought up 1st but teacher confirmed it) she says i want you to know were aware and working on it.

So lately dd is having sleep issues (as in previous post) every other night shes restless and doesnt sleep well. It happens to be the night before school. Shes been picking her lip and especially when shes restless at night.
Well i now realize shes doing this the night before school.

Monday she kept trying to convince me that this little girl was nice to her but she looked like she wanted to cry. Shes been talking to me less about school, which is not like her.

Then she tells me oo no the little girl loves me she gave me a hug. Then she tells me yesterday mama she WAS mean to me again but then she was nice. My teacher helped me.

My dd is sensitive. And cautious. And emotional. Shes not aggressive. She doesnt play rough or loud. Shes a lil nervous to begin with. She remembers every detail and will replay things at random times. She will bring them up at random times.

Well now my dh is convinced my dd is anxious and scared about school because of this little girl. And he is adamant that i should now talk to the teacher about this little girl. That we want her parents notified. That we want them separated. Or just something to be done. That its not fair to my dd. Or us. We pay good $ for her to enjoy school.not go to get picked on.
Shes scared to go to school, its affecting her sleep.
Im not 100% convinced this is the issue but also not sure maybe hes right. Theres def something going on.

Do i talk to the teacher about this? So i bring it up like ive noticed a pattern with my dd and now im wondering if its connected? Or do i bring it up like i want something done immediately? Like a demand. That im very upset.
Im not sure of how to approach this.

Message edited 10/21/2015 6:34:53 AM.

Re: spinoff to almost 3.5 year old who isnt sleeping well

I would defiantly speak to the teacher and say that your dd is complaining and it seems to be affecting her about how she is being treated by the little girl. Maybe the teacher can give you more insight on what is happening in the classroom. In addition keep a closer eye on it and report back to you. Good Luck school can be so mean