when is enough, enough?

every1 has their share of problems in life.. some more serious then others..but when u feel like life is giving u more then u can handle and u just feel so disappointed in general and with everything around you how do u push on to get past it?? any1 have a wondeful story of wisdom

Re: when is enough, enough?

Well I can say that I have felt "enough is enough" too many times...BUT when it happens, I try to remember the LAST time and how I made it past it and I will this time too.

DH always says..well it cant get any worse...OR You have to do what you can to MAKE yourself OK, happy, Better, At least SMILE when you feel that way, because the situations in your life CANNOT sometimes be changed, but your feelings towards it can. So you can either be miserable and deal with it, or smile and deal with it...That make sense?

Its harder then it sounds though thats for damn sure.

Re: when is enough, enough?

I think of the best words a friend of mine said to me.

It could be worse. how you ask.

Imagine a world without cheese

Then I start thinking of the problems the world would have without cheese. No pizza, no cheeseburgers, no ham and cheese sandwhiches, no cheese sticks, what would a ceasar or greek salad be like?

Then I wind up laughing and really putting things into order and everything just seems to fall into place.

Re: when is enough, enough?

Posted by HarleyGirlFLA

I think of the best words a friend of mine said to me.

It could be worse. how you ask.

Imagine a world without cheese

Then I start thinking of the problems the world would have without cheese. No pizza, no cheeseburgers, no ham and cheese sandwhiches, no cheese sticks, what would a ceasar or greek salad be like?

Then I wind up laughing and really putting things into order and everything just seems to fall into place.

Re: when is enough, enough?

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by HarleyGirlFLA

I think of the best words a friend of mine said to me.

It could be worse. how you ask.

Imagine a world without cheese

Then I start thinking of the problems the world would have without cheese. No pizza, no cheeseburgers, no ham and cheese sandwhiches, no cheese sticks, what would a ceasar or greek salad be like?

Then I wind up laughing and really putting things into order and everything just seems to fall into place.

The point is GOOD...

I read this email once, Not sure of the exact words, but it said things like
When complaining your car broke down, think of the person who takes the bus every day
When complaining about your job, think of the kids in places who work 13 hour days for 40 cents an hour
When you think you feel lonely think of people who have lost all their family
When you health feel like its going, think of people who have lost their legs...Etc...

Re: when is enough, enough?

I heard this quote that "its not in our Circumstances, but in our Outlook- that determine a situation". i whole heartedly belive in this. You can't control what life throws at you, but you CAN control how you handle it or let it affect you.

i'll give you a quick rundown of the worst year or 2 of my life (but only b/c you asked for it ) it was around my sophomore year of college-
my cousin (on my dads side) 24 at the time started feeling sick. she had always been Tiny (like 110 pounds). She gained 70 pounds, started running a fever over 105º, and died within a month. The autopsy showed that she passed away from some rare form of Leukemia. This came completely out of the blue, and within a month, she was gone.
(all the rest was on my moms side):
One week later, my great uncle passes away from Spinal cancer. a few months after that, my moms brother (31 at the time, and just a few months before his wedding) finds out he has a brain tumor, stage 4, and there's a 4-7% chance of survival. They operate on him, and get some of it, but are still uncertain of how it will turn out. 2 months after that, my grandmother, great aunt and grandfather are in a near fatal car accident, my aunt has both of her legs broken (they didnt think she'd ever walk again, as she was 66 at the time), and my grandmother had a broken leg, something with her hip bone, and a few broken ribs- she was in the nursing home for 5 months after that, and my aunt was in for just under a year. My grandmother got out in December, and then in February, was diagnosed with Breast cancer. While all this was going on, my parents were both on disability, and Lost their home And business. A couple of weeks after my grandmothers surgery, my mom was told (she was 41 at the time), that her Dialysis was not working, and if she didnt get a kidney transplant, that she had less than a year to live.

the main point- it $UCKED! it really felt like we were being tested in every way possible, and there were definitely times where i'm sure we all just wanted to throw in the towel and stop fighting it- but what would that have done?
dont get me wrong- that time period was an emotional roller coaster that i wouldnt wish on anyone, but in the end (sorry to sound cliche) but it really did make us stronger.

my mom ended up getting a kidney transplant a few months later, my uncle Just found out last week that, after almost 4 years, he is Complately cancer free (talk about overcoming odds!!!), my aunt was walking again after about a year, and my grandmother Did beat breast cancer, but unfortunately, was diagnosed with another form of cancer in June '03, and we lost her in June of '04.

I remember talking to one of my "friends" at the time when all of this was going on (she was pretty self absorbed), and she had drama going on and felt like she didnt have any friends at all and actually said that she was jealous that i had so many friends, and eventhough i had 'stuff' going on in my life, that she'd trade spots with me in a second. i SOOO wanted to scream "you wouldnt feel like that if half your family was dying on you".. BUT i didnt want to be mean, and just b/c my troubles seemed worse to me, i didnt want to make her feel like crap. And thats what i mean about the Outlook thing- i actually felt bad for HER b/c she was letting something so small (in the grand scheme of things) affect her SOOOO much, and meanwhile, i felt like i was losing everyone that mattered to me in my life, but i refused to let that Own me.


OK- i could probably go on all night, but as we all see, its not the greatest story for a fun saturday night I'm not sure that i've given too much wisdom, but really, i cant stress enough, it really is how you decide to handle something that determines your level of happiness about it. You cant just HOPE that it will get better- you have to DECIDE that you're going to be okay no matter what.

oh- i also like the quote:
Dont worry about what you can control, b/c you CAN control it. And don't worry about what you can't control, b/c you CAN'T control it anyway.

good luck


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Message edited 7/9/2005 11:17:26 PM.

Re: when is enough, enough?

holy crap that was long! SORRY!

Re: when is enough, enough?

Posted by neeniebean86

I heard this quote that "its not in our Circumstances, but in our Outlook- that determine a situation". i whole heartedly belive in this. You can't control what life throws at you, but you CAN control how you handle it or let it affect you.

i'll give you a quick rundown of the worst year or 2 of my life (but only b/c you asked for it ) it was around my sophomore year of college-
my cousin (on my dads side) 24 at the time started feeling sick. she had always been Tiny (like 110 pounds). She gained 70 pounds, started running a fever over 105º, and died within a month. The autopsy showed that she passed away from some rare form of Leukemia. This came completely out of the blue, and within a month, she was gone.
(all the rest was on my moms side):
One week later, my great uncle passes away from Spinal cancer. a few months after that, my moms brother (31 at the time, and just a few months before his wedding) finds out he has a brain tumor, stage 4, and there's a 4-7% chance of survival. They operate on him, and get some of it, but are still uncertain of how it will turn out. 2 months after that, my grandmother, great aunt and grandfather are in a near fatal car accident, my aunt has both of her legs broken (they didnt think she'd ever walk again, as she was 66 at the time), and my grandmother had a broken leg, something with her hip bone, and a few broken ribs- she was in the nursing home for 5 months after that, and my aunt was in for just under a year. My grandmother got out in December, and then in February, was diagnosed with Breast cancer. While all this was going on, my parents were both on disability, and Lost their home And business. A couple of weeks after my grandmothers surgery, my mom was told (she was 41 at the time), that her Dialysis was not working, and if she didnt get a kidney transplant, that she had less than a year to live.

the main point- it $UCKED! it really felt like we were being tested in every way possible, and there were definitely times where i'm sure we all just wanted to throw in the towel and stop fighting it- but what would that have done?
dont get me wrong- that time period was an emotional roller coaster that i wouldnt wish on anyone, but in the end (sorry to sound cliche) but it really did make us stronger.

my mom ended up getting a kidney transplant a few months later, my uncle Just found out last week that, after almost 4 years, he is Complately cancer free (talk about overcoming odds!!!), my aunt was walking again after about a year, and my grandmother Did beat breast cancer, but unfortunately, was diagnosed with another form of cancer in June '03, and we lost her in June of '04.

I remember talking to one of my "friends" at the time when all of this was going on (she was pretty self absorbed), and she had drama going on and felt like she didnt have any friends at all and actually said that she was jealous that i had so many friends, and eventhough i had 'stuff' going on in my life, that she'd trade spots with me in a second. i SOOO wanted to scream "you wouldnt feel like that if half your family was dying on you".. BUT i didnt want to be mean, and just b/c my troubles seemed worse to me, i didnt want to make her feel like crap. And thats what i mean about the Outlook thing- i actually felt bad for HER b/c she was letting something so small (in the grand scheme of things) affect her SOOOO much, and meanwhile, i felt like i was losing everyone that mattered to me in my life, but i refused to let that Own me.


OK- i could probably go on all night, but as we all see, its not the greatest story for a fun saturday night I'm not sure that i've given too much wisdom, but really, i cant stress enough, it really is how you decide to handle something that determines your level of happiness about it. You cant just HOPE that it will get better- you have to DECIDE that you're going to be okay no matter what.

oh- i also like the quote:
Dont worry about what you can control, b/c you CAN control it. And don't worry about what you can't control, b/c you CAN'T control it anyway.

good luck


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Re: when is enough, enough?

to answer your question, there are times that I say please could anything be worse but then I realize that life is not easy and for all the bad things we experience, there are always 100 more good ones. I just look around in the world and then I say, you know what I'm healthy, I have a wonderful family, I have a roof over my shoulder aqnd all those things bring everything into perspective.

Re: when is enough, enough?

Posted by Aliasmom

to answer your question, there are times that I say please could anything be worse but then I realize that life is not easy and for all the bad things we experience, there are always 100 more good ones. I just look around in the world and then I say, you know what I'm healthy, I have a wonderful family, I have a roof over my shoulder aqnd all those things bring everything into perspective.