Not sure what to do...

I am an attorney and have a deposition scheduled in albany for in 2 weeks. I've never had to travel for a deposition before. I'll be 33 weeks and my dr said it's fine. Last pregnancy i had major complications and was on bedrest by 32 weeks. So far, I've been ok this time. I think Albany is about 3 hours with NO traffic, so I'd have to leave around 5-6 am and I'd probably be returning home around 11. I'd make a lot of money if I go, which is nice, and I told my boss that my dr ok-ed it, but now I am having second thoughts and DH said no way. WWYD? IT's not just the travel, but it's traveling alone and somewhere i've never been, and it will be a long day. Would you go? If it's a bad idea i'll have to tell my boss that my dr changed his mind or something


eta: I can't bring anyone with me. The client won't pay for 2 people to go. DH can't come with me and hang out in ALbany, it would defeat the purpose of me making the money b/c he'd be taking off work, and we have a young DC at home. I know i told my boss it's ok, but i don't want to risk anything because of something i said and my health would still come first. Overall i feel ok, but there are days when i feel like i could fall asleep any second, especially when driving.

Message edited 3/17/2012 12:35:04 PM.

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Can you bring someone with you? You already told your boss it was fine so I'd probably plan on going unless something changed and you began not feeling well.

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Can your DH take time off and go with you? Or maybe spend the night in a hotel so it's not such a long day?

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IDK thats a rough one! You have to go with your gut on this one. The dr said it was ok but I dont know how comfortable I would be going so far by myself either...some days I would say go for it and others I cant go anywhere so...gl

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If you're dr. is ok with it then I would probably go. As long as you have been feeling fine overall I dont see a reason that I wouldn't go. But you have to do what you feel is best for you, and only you know how you feel.

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I think you need to do what you feel most comfortable with... If you cant do it with a clear head then I would say dont. Thats just my opinion. I understand your dr said its ok but YOU have to feel ok with it...

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Maybe tell your boss you might not be able to and feel out his/her reaction? That way if you don't feel right or comfortable, you have an out.

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If DH can't come maybe a friend instead?

If you get tired you can pull to a rest stop take a 15 min snap ( short nap) set your phone to wake you. But ultimately you know. I ad to fly to Chicago for 4 days and really didn't want to go tried to get out of it but it was ok . Or can your job provide you car service? Then you would be ok.

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I'd probably go. I'm an attorney and had quite a few long days and late nights with my first pregnancy. The late nights this time were early on. The furthest I traveled during my last pregnancy was about 1.5 hours each way, but there were nights that I didn't get home until 11-1. I even had much later night scheduled at 36 or 37 weeks, but ended up being put on bedrest shortly before that.

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Have you thought about taking Megabus or Amtrak? They both drop you off in Rensselaer (about a 3 minute cab ride from Albany). With the times you are traveling, there would probably be no traffic. I frequently travel from Albany to Levittown and the drive takes 2 hours 45 minutes with no traffic.

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so i guess the consensus is that everyone would go... i don't know why i'm so hesitant, maybe it's just fear of getting lost or my car breaking down

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I would follow your gut ~ I am not sure if I would go ~ even with your dr ok ~ just based on your history. (you just never know) Good Luck in your decision.

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See I'm different - I personally wouldn't go at 35 weeks. I delivered my first at 31w6d and I'm personally not comfortable being that far from home in case of anything.

But I'm a worrier. If your doctor ok'd it and you're feeling well, it will more than likely be ok. The good thing is that it's a one day thing so more than likely it will be fine