i dont know who to be angry at-update

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yesterday was cd 15 my temp dropped that mornin and im sure that was my O day

guess what didnt happen?

i was nice and funny about reminding him and i got funny responses back.

i cried myself to sleep

this morning i gave him the cold shoulder which he didnt like and got upset. i just started cryin & screaming about all the things that im doin to try to make this happen and how i dont want to be the one to remind him or be a nag of when we need to bd

im sure the 2ww will go fast for me since i already told myself that we missed the window



UPDATE- couldnt wait till tonight to talk. it was really messing up my work day.

he did say he thought it would be easy. wants me to send him all info and video so he can understand how this process really works. that its very important to him because he wants this too.

i do blame myself a little because i feel i didnt do a good enough job explaining things to him.

he wants to do this together and not make me take charge by making the first move all the time.


thanks for letting me vent ladies

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I'm so sorry

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Im sorry. That sucks. My DH and I just had this talk last night. We promised ourselves that we are not going to make it like a chore. Its tough to have to be on a bd schedule but I agree with you 100% that when its time its time and it should not be up to you only to have to be reminding him about it. Im sure he doesnt mean to make you upset, maybe it'll help to sit him down and talk about it in depth tonight?

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Dont stress yourself out to much! You still have time --you will O 12-36 hours after you get your smiley --

Try to tonight

you also BD prior to O and you could have hit the mark then -- the sperm can live for a long time and make it to the egg in time.

Hugs

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I am so sorry Roz!

I responded to another thread and mentioned that Edwin and I hit a bad ponit during the timed bd process. It turned into routine and was not enjoyable. We spoke about it and realized that he felt like all he was doing was to help was supplying the stuff, he felt like he should have done more. It is a guy thing, maybe not for all men, but it was for mine. He'll come around, I promise, you both will move foward and go on to create some babies.

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I went thru the same thing with DH...we had a big blow up last month cause he knew we needed to but he wasnt into it...I cried for hrs and finally we talked and he didnt realize that the timeframe was CRUCIAL...he thought if we were off a couple of days it wouldnt be that big of a deal...we finally worked thru it and I explained how the timing really affects our ability to conceive and ever since then he has been on board...maybe talking to him and explaining what needs to happen might help..Good Luck!!!

P.S. I would tonight anyway cause you never know...

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Try not to stress too much. You did this month though right? It only takes one time. And I am living proof of that. I had months where we did it all the time and all I got were BFN. Then the month I got my BFP we only did it 2x and once was way outside the window.

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I'm havent Oed yet - but i want to start BDing atleast every other night... Monday night DH & I had all intentions to ..but guess who fell asleep at 8! I was a lil annoyed with him.

Then last night we BDed..but he's already feeling the "pressure"...and ummm had a lil trouble Has me a little worried...

Keep your head up. Stay positive!

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thanks ladies

ive tried to tell him when and why we need to bd but maybe now that i blew up the way i did i could try to explain to him agian just without all the angry

funny thing is he has the fever really bad, more than me which is why i dont get his actions

before he left for work he said

im sorry baby. i'm sorry i disappointed you.

he has a dinner meeting tonight
not sure if either of us will be up to after this morning

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Posted by MRsFaTThead

he has a dinner meeting tonight
not sure if either of us will be up to after this morning

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Sorry Roz... when was the last time you

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cd 14. today is cd 16.

we also did cd 8 10 & 12

got my on cd 14

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I'm sorry Roz....

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Posted by MRsFaTThead

cd 14. today is cd 16.

we also did cd 8 10 & 12

got my on cd 14

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Posted by MRsFaTThead


he has a dinner meeting tonight
not sure if either of us will be up to after this morning

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Im sorry. I know this frustration with DH feeling all too well also!

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You should check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. That may ease your mind with regards to the "schedule" and the right time to BD. It's always better to BD before you O because the sperm live longer than the egg, but it takes time for them to get to where they need to be, so it's best to have them waiting KWIM?

It's also a good idea to not tell your DH when you are Oing. I know that's not what everyone wants to hear but luckily my DH was honest with me and said that hearing about my cycle put way too much pressure on him. I stopped talking about it after that and just made sure to "seduce" him or whatever on nights that were important to me in terms of TTC.

Being mad at him isn't fair to him. This is something you are BOTH doing together and you might want to ask him why he didn't want to BD last night instead of yelling at him.

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I'm sorry you're going through this! DH and I had a similar situation this month. He's been really excited about trying to have a baby, for YEARS, way longer than I have been ready. And I know he LOVES with me. But now that we've actually started TTC, it's like too much pressure, or something. It just takes all the romance and spontaneity out it, and makes us both feel like we HAVE to, whether we feel like or not. And of course, I get all anxious thinking we MUST do it at least every other day during my fertile period, when we normally would average around once a week or so The other day I knew we should , but I was hoping for him to initiate, or at least show some sign of interest and/or romance, instead of just sitting in front of the tv...and when I hinted that we should turn the tv off to he basically said something along the lines of how I should have done something to get him in the mood. *****???? He's usually into it whenever no matter what I"m doing, what I look like, just Always. In. The. Mood!!! And now, it's like I have to convince him into it! I really don't understand men. It seems like they always want it, but then once we actually need their swimmers, they could take it or leave it

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So sorry you are going through this!!!!!

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Im in the same boat, I def kept nagging dh to bd every night for the past few days because this was my window, however it didn't get done on some of the days. Dh has been having some issues and couldn't perform on some of the days that we that we should have. I cried myself to sleep and also gave him the cold shoulder too, I mean how am I going to get pregnant if we aren't doing it on the days we should....

If I could inject the sperm into myself I would lol, but it takes two to make this baby. The other girls have reminded me to let dh know this is a journey and to not be so demanding. Ughhh it sucks but I hope we both get our bfps in 2 weeks!

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I am so sorry you are going thru this.. Hopefully tonight you can both make it happen!