there is no such a thing as

"whatever happens happens" lol. I'm realizing it now. When we started this week we said lets start TTC but not stress about it, whatever happens happens, whenever it happens happens.... yeah right, that's not happening, now that I'm 1 day PO I fill like I can't stop thinking about what's to come, am I...? am I not...? will I get my AF in 2 weeks? Anxiety is setting in
It was so much easier with the first, we didn't try , didn't plan, we only without protection on "safe" days and used protection the other days, I was so sure I was not going to get pregnant ....and it really worked for almost a year.... then I was pregnant
Now I know what people go through and I feel bad for all the times I have told my friends "Oh don't worry, less you think and stress about it more of a chance you have of getting pregnant, give it time, just relax and enjoy the process "

Message edited 7/24/2011 2:25:27 PM.

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This is exactly how I feel. So easy with #1, no stress. As soon as we decide to "just see what happens" my cycle gets all screwed up and now we BOTH have anxiety. Good luck to you!

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It's very true. One of my friends told me "there's no casual way to TTC" and I thought, yeah right. I'm laid back, I'm not going to get all stressed about it. WRONG. She was totally right. Thank goodness for this board so I know I'm not alone in feeling this way

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ITA! This was our first month "trying" although we weren't going to stress or track anything and just "see what happens". This month my cycle decides to extend itself from 28 to almost 34 days. I was stressed and anxious and I had a nervous breakdown yesterday after got AF. Then I also find out yesterday my best friend is pregnant. I thought was going to lose it. Thank GOD DH is a very patient man. I am not going to be able to keep it together!

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I agree!! the first time we tried we had the whatever happens, happens mentality, but after we miscarried and have now decided to jump back into TTC it's giving me all kinds of anxiety!! I think it's only natural, hopefully this will be short lived anxiety for all of us and these BFP's start rolling in!

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I did the the whole whatever "happens happens" thing for the 1st 3 months of TTC. (no protection, BD at least 3x a week, idea of when i was O) Then i realized this isnt working now i am on month 9 Sometimes i wish i could go back to that whatever "happens happens" mind set!

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Nope. I swore that I would not be an ocd planner and I completely lied. Im obsessed and when you want to get prggo just let it happen is not working for me.

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Ha! We're all alike! I swore to myself too that I wouldn't be one of those over-planner/temp taking ttc'er....but now I wished that I had been taking my temp or knew better when I ovulated! Oh well, as long as we are able to talk about it here!