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YEP,

All I want was the consideration to include me and inform me of my sons day...

And my mom knowing how "anal" I am would never do this!

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You know what....

She dosent respect me as a person, as her sons wife, and def not as her grandsons MOTHER...so this is just adding fuel to the flame.......

Also- I struggle with not being able to be a sahm mom... and envy the ones who is spending time with my child!

I cant help the way I feel

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No ground rules... but I did send her an email today... attempting to set some....

ETA: one of which was to let me know in advance (if she can.....obviously she cant help unexpected visitors) when Ryan will be having visitors or will be visiting others homes...

Message edited 1/12/2006 3:27:51 PM.

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I have read a lot of your posts about this lady and granted she has done some f-ed up things. BUT, I think you are a little rough on her. Also when someone gets to be into their 50's and 60's there is not a lot you are going to do to change them. I agree with many of the other girls. Have him stay with your Mom. Its like you don't want to be unfair and not let her watch your son but then you nitpick at everything she does. She did raise a child on her own so she must be OK at it at least. I would say either make the decision to not have her watch him and deal with the consequences or give him up for those few hours to her caretaking. Good Luck

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I think everything built up...the money, her lack of respect, EVERYTHING...has gotten to you and now you're snapping at every possible thing. I've the done the same thing and I can totally relate to you.
Yes, there should be some ground rules set and you need to set them ASAP. Hopefully, she'll respect your wishes.

I don't believe that this person was an "unexpected" visitor. Who comes over and doesn't call before? It's a matter of common courtsey to call. However, this is my OPINION.

I got my Dh involved in your situation ( he was reading over my shoulder)...I asked him for his advice...(We know how our DH's love LIF!!) He said that you need to sit down with your MIL and talk to her about the situation at hand. She needs to know that you and your DH are fighting and the main reason is her. IF all thess things she does, does not change there will be no family and less connection with her grandson...if the marriage dissolves. Does she really want that to happen?

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i think you really have to put this into perspective and not make this a mountain out of a molehill... you are lucky to have your situation.

i know that you are disappointed about not being able to be a full time SAHM - but as an outsider looking in - you have a very nice situations set up ---- you have the opportunity to only work part time to supplement your family's income and have not one, but two family members willing to babysit for you for FREE. By lunchtime you are home with your baby.

that is huge ---- i know myself, and a lot of other women on this site and general would love to have that opportunity presented ----- i know that when my turn comes - i will be forced to work full time, forced to pay day care (which will not be cheap) and have no other choice then to drop my baby off before 8 am and be lucky if i can get back before 6pm. And i know that once at daycare, my baby will be coming in contact with many different people throughout the day...

so my advice, count your blessings, choose your battles carefully and enjoy every minute you get to have with your son!

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I think you are over reacting a bit... IMO It is one thing if she is taking him somplace but having guests in her own home is totally different.

ETA: I read some of your other posts, she is a real PIA! If anything I would have your hubby handle it. This way he can deal with the attitude.

Good Luck and try to stay calm you don't want to let her provoke you into saying/doing something you will regret.

Message edited 1/13/2006 9:28:19 PM.