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05mommy09
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Yet again..
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Jillysmom
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Re: Yet again..
I would not make a big deal about it.. she is watcjing your son for you. its her grandson she wants to show off...
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| Posted 1/12/06 12:36 PM |
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Boobobunny
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Re: Yet again..
Marissa I am so sorry that your MIL is causing so much stress for you....but I think on this one you need to just let it go.
Maybe in a few days you can bring up to her that you don't mind Ryan having visitors...as long as your MIL verifys that the visitors aren't sick before they come over.
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| Posted 1/12/06 12:38 PM |
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steph4777
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Boobobunny
Marissa I am so sorry that your MIL is causing so much stress for you....but I think on this one you need to just let it go.
Maybe in a few days you can bring up to her that you don't mind Ryan having visitors...as long as your MIL verifys that the visitors aren't sick before they come over.
I agree.... I don't think this is a battle worth fighting.
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| Posted 1/12/06 12:47 PM |
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Samlove
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Re: Yet again..
Marissa I know its hard but just think that your MIL is helping you so much. Things like this let them slide - she is proud of her grandson. Dont make a big deal out of this one.
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:04 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Yet again..
I probably wouldn't make a big deal of it. I am sure if her friend was sick she would not let her come over.
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:11 PM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Boobobunny
Marissa I am so sorry that your MIL is causing so much stress for you....but I think on this one you need to just let it go.
Maybe in a few days you can bring up to her that you don't mind Ryan having visitors...as long as your MIL verifys that the visitors aren't sick before they come over.
I agree
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:15 PM |
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dld4e
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Re: Yet again..
I probably would not make a big deal out of it. It sounds as if she is helping you by taking care of him, I would let something like this slide. I am sure she wouldn't have someone come near the baby if they are sick.
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:19 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Princessmaris
Im fully aware that I tend to blow things outta the water...just because I have so much hate in my heart towards her!
marissa, i think herein lies the answer to alot of your problems w/MIL. maybe do some soul searching....think about things BEFORE you react to them.
to say you have 'so much hate in your heart' towards the woman who gave life to the man you fell in love with, not to mention the man you chose to have children with, is a bit harsh, imo.
i'm in NO WAY judging you, just asking that you try and open up your heart to the possibility that maybe someday, you WILL, and CAN feel differently about her. 
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:19 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Yet again..
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Message edited 2/21/2006 8:51:56 PM.
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05mommy09
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Re: Yet again..
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MelToddJulia
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I have tons of MIL issues too, but If I look into everything my MIL does I will go insane!!!! I dont think she invited her friend over to get you upset, she's probably just so happy to show off her new grandson! I'm sure shes not going to call you about everything she does during the day unless it has to do with Ryan. Let it go and enjoy with rest of your day!! 
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:53 PM |
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iffer042373
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Re: Yet again..
i would let this one go its not worth starting a huge battle over.
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| Posted 1/12/06 1:54 PM |
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curley999
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Things like this used to bother me in the beginning as well, but you have to put it in perspective and realize that she is doing you a favor watching him. She doesn't mean any harm Im sure, just showing off her grandson. You can mention that you want to be careful to not have any visitors over who are sick.......
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:29 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Jillysmom
I would not make a big deal about it.. she is watcjing your son for you. its her grandson she wants to show off...
I agree, it's also her house. She thinks she shouldn't have to call you to get your OK to have people over her own house...I pretty much agree...
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:30 PM |
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MrsJ
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Princessmaris
Yea... Im just curious when Im gonna be the one who gets to make the decisions for my child....
She dosent ask my consent on anything!
BUt she is babysitting him, she has to make decisions for him because she is his caretaker. That's one of the responsibilities the caretaker has.
When he's with you, you make all the decisions...but when someone else is watching them, they have to. It would be the same if your Mom was watching the baby, she would make decisions for them and have people over and all.
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:33 PM |
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by MrsJ
I agree, it's also her house. She thinks she shouldn't have to call you to get your OK to have people over her own house...I pretty much agree...
I'm going to have to agree with Mrs. J.
You do get to make decisions about your baby. You decide IF she gets to babysit at all.
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:33 PM |
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mommy2bella
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:38 PM |
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05mommy09
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I agree with you Kathy...BUT a phone call to tell me whats going on (not to necessarily ask me) She tried to hide this from me, and I hte sneaky people....
I wouldve never said no....cuz it is her house....but I just wouldve liked to know....not to find out from someone else.....
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:38 PM |
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by MrsJ
Posted by Princessmaris
Yea... Im just curious when Im gonna be the one who gets to make the decisions for my child....
She dosent ask my consent on anything!
BUt she is babysitting him, she has to make decisions for him because she is his caretaker. That's one of the responsibilities the caretaker has.
When he's with you, you make all the decisions...but when someone else is watching them, they have to. It would be the same if your Mom was watching the baby, she would make decisions for them and have people over and all.
I agree, I think if you didn't have any other issues with her this might not bother you.
I hope it gets easier for you, but the more you put her under the microscope the more you find she gets under your skin
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Princessmaris
I agree with you Kathy...BUT a phone call to tell me whats going on (not to necessarily ask me) She tried to hide this from me, and I hte sneaky people....
I wouldve never said no....cuz it is her house....but I just wouldve liked to know....not to find out from someone else.....
How did she hide it? You called and heard the lady in the background. No?
I would say she was hiding it if she didn't answer the phone at all 
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:41 PM |
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05mommy09
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If her friend didnt start yelling in the background I wouldnt of been informed...
You are all right!!!! And Im am more than willing to admitt, that because i feel the way I do towards her, things always seem so much more extreme to me! But I cant help the way I feel....
IMO- if i can be reached there is no need for her to be making decision w/o my knowledge....whats next table food? medicine?
I havent even had visitors @ my own house because DS has been sick!
I feel like I let everything go in fear of it turning into a war....and because this isnt such a big deal, I could have an in to lay my ground rules, w/o it turning into a fight....if that makes sense...
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IrishTracy
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Re: Yet again..
IMO-This REALLY is not a big deal. The woman could of just dropped by. And I'm sure she would have waited to you got home to say "we had a visitor". Is she supposed to tell her friend not to come in till she calls you? You have it really good & I wouldn't get so anal about things. She might turn around & tell you she won't do it anymore.
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| Posted 1/12/06 2:57 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by IrishTracy
IMO-This REALLY is not a big deal. The woman could of just dropped by. And I'm sure she would have waited to you got home to say "we had a visitor". Is she supposed to tell her friend not to come in till she calls you? You have it really good & I wouldn't get so anal about things. She might turn around & tell you she won't do it anymore.
Not at all.....
I wish she would "quit".... Id much rather have my mom 5 days....but I wouldnt be the one to intiate it, for splitting the days was only fair...
ETA: Why am I not allowed to be anal? Hes my son, and I just started leaving him for the 1st time?????
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| Posted 1/12/06 3:00 PM |
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IrishTracy
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Re: Yet again..
Posted by Princessmaris
I wish she would "quit".... Id much rather have my mom 5 days....but I wouldnt be the one to intiate it, for splitting the days was only fair...
Ok answer me this..if it was YOUR mom & one of her friends stop by would you be this upset?
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