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baghag
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Re: MIL responses
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DjPiLL
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Re: MIL responses
Posted by Shellyesq
So following your logic, then most women do sweat the "petty" things and make issues of them, hence straining the DW/MIL relationship.
I don't think that is necessarily true. Sometimes yes, but I wouldn't generalize. There are plenty of women out there who let things roll of their backs and still have conflicts.
Sorry... but again I don't buy into "plenty of women who roll off their back and still have conflicts". Unless somebody holds a gun to someone's head... threre is always a way out of every bad situation.
The problem though is some people just can't resist the confrontation (and this can go towards men as well... doesnt have to be women).
Point being.... I respect my wife.... AND I VALUE MY MARRIAGE... to not get involved in a bad way with anybody on the other side. I am sure if I were to say something... my wife would not appreciate it (even though she feels the same way that I do)
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Janice
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Re: MIL responses
I think it is easy to be on the outside and look in and say "I would never let it get to that point", but everyone is different. It is a sore place for me, I feel truely gipped. My mother and her MIL have a great relationship. That is what I grew up around.
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| Posted 1/12/06 3:01 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: MIL responses
Posted by DjPiLL
The problem though is some people just can't resist the confrontation (and this can go towards men as well... doesnt have to be women).
I agree with this- and it can be the MIL, DIL, FIL or SIL. But I still don't think this is the root of MIL/DIL issues.
We'll just have to agree to disagree on this one.
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TwoGirls4Me
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Re: MIL responses
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Posted by MrsERod
i wish everyone DIDN'T have the MIL issues that they did. 
I never even got to meet my MIL. she was battling colon cancer for a few months before dh and I got together, and passed away one month into our relationship. 
Dh, my SIL, and everyone in his family said that we (my MIL and I) would have gotten along great, and would have loved each other very much. it's very unfortunate that many girls have issues with their MIL's, b/c I'm sure that alot of DH's would only suffer should they experience losing their mom. I saw first hand how much my DH suffered in pain when he lost his mom. it's just sad when i think about it.
I agree with everything you said Chris..
And lots of these  for Honey (and you too!)
I often cannot even reply to the "MIL" threads here... because I admit that FORTUNATELY for me, I cannot relate to them. I have a wonderful MIL, she is truly a gem, and I adore her .. She treats me as a daughter and a friend
I truly wish sometimes I could "clone" my MIL or have have her teach classes to all the other MILs out there on how to communicate and interact better with their DILs, because there would be far less problems out there overall!
I am sorry for those of you who have inlaw issues, truly, I feel for you
its like u took this right out of my head! I completely agree, I generally dont even stop to read the MIL posts because they never relate to me. I too adore my MIL, all my in laws actually and sam goes for DH. We do realize how lucky we are though and how uncommon it seems to be my MIL has 2 boys so I really am her daughter and its great!
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MrsJ
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Re: MIL responses
I really think my MIL is clueless that I don't like her. Mainly becuase I never let her know. I love my DH and it's his Mother, who he loves...and because of that, I won't be mean to her or tell her how I really don't like her.
For now anyway 
I think she likes me but I think she pretends to love me to pieces but it's a little bit of an act - that's how she is, fake and dramatic.
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leighla
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Re: MIL responses
In my case, my MIL issues are not because of DH, but because of DH's Brother's Wife.
She was the first DIL and she is not an easy person to get along with. I, in the beginning, opened a lot of doors that weren't previously opened to my MIL with her first DIL.
I thought it was great to have them around and we invited them to lots of things and asked their opinion. But as things have progressed with DH and I, I feel MIL takes some things for granted and forgets that we have our own lives.
I feel like Debra on Everybody Loves Raymond. She loved Marie at first, but too much of her and her overstepping her place has strained their relationship. That's me and MIL.
So it's partially my fault, partially my sister in law's and partially my MIL.
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preciouslove
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Re: MIL responses
Posted by MrsERod
i wish everyone DIDN'T have the MIL issues that they did.
I never even got to meet my MIL. she was battling colon cancer for a few months before dh and I got together, and passed away one month into our relationship.
Dh, my SIL, and everyone in his family said that we (my MIL and I) would have gotten along great, and would have loved each other very much. it's very unfortunate that many girls have issues with their MIL's, b/c I'm sure that alot of DH's would only suffer should they experience losing their mom. I saw first hand how much my DH suffered in pain when he lost his mom. it's just sad when i think about it.
I agree and feel the same way.
I am fortunate that my MIL and I have a great relationship. I can talk to her about things that I couldn't even talk to my mom about. Not that i'm not close to my mom but she is old fashioned so I can't really talk to her about certain things like say intimate issues if I needed to. But my MIL always gives me that feeling that I can talk to her about anything but she still respects my relationship with my mom. My MIL is very corny which can be annoying but I'd still rather have a corny MIL than one who makes life a living hell for you.
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