Jealousy - do you experience it?

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Message edited 7/14/2008 7:31:33 AM.

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

I do but only a very little bit...mostly because I am anxious I guess. I get over it quickly though.

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

Generally speaking, jealousy is a completely normal emotion to feel when you want something and are working so hard to attain it, and then it seems to come so easy to some, and sometimes to those who seem "undeserving." I do know what this feels like (not specifically in terms of TTC) and it is HARD and it has caused me to not want to be around certain people because I do get resentful and jealous, especially when I feel like a gerbil on a wheel. I often have gotten angry with myself for feeling this way. Now when I feel this way, I talk to myself, give myself a pep-talk and try to think of the good that I do have in my life, which makes it a little better.

You are human- let yourself feel your emotions- it is healthy- and normal.

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

Yes, I think we all feel that way at some point.

You are definitely not alone. I think the only reason you're not getting replies on here is because this topic has been posted a few times lately.

I am so sorry you are feeling that way but I do think that it is completely normal! There is always a bittersweet feeling I have when I hear that someone is pregnant. On one hand I am happy for them, but on the other I am asking, "When is it my turn?"

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

Do I ever! I think we have the same friend! This girl I know wanted to get pg so bad that she purposfully misled her boyfriend of 3 months. Now she's preggo and they are getting married. She is one of the meanest people I know and totally undeserving of a child. But my friend and I laugh bc we gave her a nickname...MANTRAP!

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

I think we al experience feelings of envy/jealousy for one reason or another. Since I have had trouble getting pg in a year and a half, I now find myself unfortunately feeling envy towards people who are becoming pg or having kids, or even ones that have kids already. I mean, I don't wish them bad luck, but I do have envy, definitely.

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

It's not pretty, but yes.

My SIL has never gotten a BFN and had 3 kids without any problems or issues. I had just gotten yet another BFN when I found out she was preg with #3 at her 2nd child's baptism.

I will admit asking why it was so easy for her and not me. I'm not really proud of that, but it was a TOUGH day for me. AF had been a week late, too!

I think it's human nature. I also try to remind myself that things DO work out and happen for a reason.

Re: Jealousy - do you experience it?

Yes, but uualy just a tinege and then it goes away, I am genuinley happy for everyone here as well as all 4 of my PG friends in RL!

I know someday it will happen for me!