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LIF Zygote
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hi i am a regular poster and you know the story this is a new name. i just wanted to know your opinion on this.
last night dh and i were at a party. i was driving so he was drinking. at the party someone asked him to drive them to the airport at 4:30am today. dh agreed to this at around 10pm.
when we arrived home at 12 dh told me he was going to the airport at 4:30 meaning just four and half hours away. at first this was fine. then at around 12:45 it occurred to me that dh had been drinking (he had 6 bottles of beer and 1 shot). i told him i didn't think it was safe for him to drive.
he thought i was overreacting since he had been eating when he was having the beer and was not drunk. he had the drinks over a 3 hour period. he was annoyed that he had to let his friend down.
at first he was really mad at me for being so paranoid but i just had "a feeling" and i think legally he would have been drunk driving.
i am glad i told dh my concerns and he listened. in the morning he could see my side and apologized for being angry but he still thinks he would have been okay to drive.
i hardly slept at all last night. the friend called the house at 4:30am looking for dh even though dh left him a voicemail and a text message at 12:45. when dh told him at 4:30 he couldn't drive him his friend said thanks for nothing and hung up. thinking of his friend stuck without a ride to the airport really upset me and i did not sleep at all from 4:30.
so what do you think was dh okay to drive? am i paranoid?
how lonmg do you wait after a few drinks before you drive?
this whole thing made me think of those nights in college when my friends and i would go out drinking at night and then wake up and drive the next morning. none of us ever gave it a second thought. it makes me wonder if i ever did get into a car with a drunk driver
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No, you did the right thing... you would've felt much worse if you didn't say anything and something happened to your DH. It sukcs for the friend, but he'll get over it... his safety could've been at risk too.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:31 AM |
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DeniseMarie
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I am with you 100%. I have no tolerance for people who drink and drive.
It is always better to be safe than sorry. I think you did the right thing as you were just looking out for him!
I do not even drink 1 beer if I am driving. Its just not worth it. So dont feel bad!
Was it at all possible that you could have driven him the the airport?
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:33 AM |
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Kara
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I don't think he was okay to drive. I wouldn't drive, nor would I let anyone I cared about drive.
If it were a close friend who was really stuck, though, I'd have driven him or her to the airport myself.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:34 AM |
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Bxgell2
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You did the right thing - any friend who cannot understand the safety implications involved here really isn't such a good friend after all. 
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:34 AM |
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Diane
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Posted by CoopersMom01
No, you did the right thing... you would've felt much worse if you didn't say anything and something happened to your DH. It sukcs for the friend, but he'll get over it... his safety could've been at risk too.
I agree
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:34 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Posted by CoopersMom01
No, you did the right thing... you would've felt much worse if you didn't say anything and something happened to your DH. It sukcs for the friend, but he'll get over it... his safety could've been at risk too.
couldn't agree more. DH was in a similar situation not too long ago. He drove and I wish he didn't although nothing happened.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:34 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Your DH was probably going to be okay to drive BUT cops were on a MISSION this holiday weekend. He could've ended up in jail instead of at the airport.
But of course the worst case scenario is much worse if he really was NOT ok to drive.
The friend will get over it. Tell DH to blame you and let you be the bad guy.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:36 AM |
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Shelly
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You definitely did the right thing.
But I also see it from the other guy's POV. Its 4:30, he is waiting for his ride to the airport and calls only to find out no one is coming. I'm sure in a few hours he will calm down, but if that was me, I would be panicking about missing my flight.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:38 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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driving 4 hours after 6 beers + a shot is NOT a good idea.
you did the right thing.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:39 AM |
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i couldn't go because i would not have been back on time to make the train for work. if it had not been a monday i would have called out or been late but after a 4 day weekend i couldn't do anything to help him. i think we should have arranged a taxi at 12:45 for the friend and paid for it but that only occured to me after hours of being upset about this. i feel awful that he was stuck and now i feel even worse that he won't even speak to dh.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:39 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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I agree that you did the right thing. The only thing I would have done differently is that I would have driven the friend to the airport myself.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:40 AM |
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Blu-ize
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he'll get over it. Also, the friend is probably one of those people who would drive after 6 beers too.
he was first making his transport arrangements 6 hours in advance? What was his plan if your DH didn't offer?
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:41 AM |
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LaurenExp
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I think you did the right thing. Only thing I would have done differently if it were me would be to call the friend a car and pay for it myself since I promised him a ride. Other than that, I think you were 100% in the right to not let him drive...
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:42 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Posted by Blu-ize
he was first making his transport arrangements 6 hours in advance? What was his plan if your DH didn't offer?
that's what I was thinking too 
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:43 AM |
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LIF Zygote
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Posted by LaurenExp
I think you did the right thing. Only thing I would have done differently if it were me would be to call the friend a car and pay for it myself since I promised him a ride. Other than that, I think you were 100% in the right to not let him drive...
i feel so dumb for not even thinking of this last night. i was just so set on dh not driving that i wasn't thinking of anything else.
his friend was going to get a taxi to the airport if dh said no.
i wish i could have driven him but i couldn't have done that and made ot to work on time.
i am going to call his friend later and let him know how awful i feel that we made a promise we could not fullfill. i don't even know if we should get him something for when he comes home or if we should say sorry and forget about it.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:48 AM |
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SweetTooth
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Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Blu-ize
he was first making his transport arrangements 6 hours in advance? What was his plan if your DH didn't offer?
that's what I was thinking too
good point!
I think you did the right thing. I probably would have driven the friend myself though so he wouldn't be stuck without a ride.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:49 AM |
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DeniseMarie
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Posted by Blu-ize
he'll get over it. Also, the friend is probably one of those people who would drive after 6 beers too.
he was first making his transport arrangements 6 hours in advance? What was his plan if your DH didn't offer?
good point
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:50 AM |
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lucyloo
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You did the right thing- it's not worth the risk.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:50 AM |
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JandJ1224
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I think he might have been okay to drive, he had the drinks over the 3 hour period, so that meant he started drinking at 9 so that was about 7.5 to 8 hours before he would be driving. It probably would depend on the size of your DH etc. You know your DH better than anyone else and you used your judgement. I am sure you made the right choice!
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:52 AM |
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MrsPornStar
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I agree you did the right thing. Even if DH felt ok to drive, he probably wasn't. As for the friend being upset, your DH sent him a text message informing him that he couldn't drive. That left him plenty of time to arrange a taxi. I understand feeling bad, but you definitely did the right thing.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:54 AM |
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Disneygirl
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Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Blu-ize
he was first making his transport arrangements 6 hours in advance? What was his plan if your DH didn't offer?
that's what I was thinking too
This is what I don't understand. Doesn't sound like the most responsible person.
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| Posted 11/26/07 10:58 AM |
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LIF Zygote
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Posted by BabyAvocado
Your DH was probably going to be okay to drive BUT cops were on a MISSION this holiday weekend. He could've ended up in jail instead of at the airport.
But of course the worst case scenario is much worse if he really was NOT ok to drive.
The friend will get over it. Tell DH to blame you and let you be the bad guy.
yes this is kind of what i thought. dh is a big guy and he was by no means falling all over the place drunk. he is responsible and has called a taxi or made other arrangements for us to get home safely if we were out together. he has even hidden keys from friends so they would be forced to sleep over at our apt.
i don't want people to think my annoymous lol husband is a drunk.
i think this could have gone either way really. he would have been okay to drive but not driving was just a much better option for peace of mind and safety i was glad he didn't.
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| Posted 11/26/07 11:02 AM |
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kahlua716
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I think after 5 hours he would've been fine...but if you weren't comfortable with it, thats your perogative...however, you should have arranged for a car service or something for the friend...I would've been po'ed too. Text messages don't always go through, unless he actually spoke to the friend to let them know they no longer had a ride, it was up to him to provide one. JMHO.
I'm sure the friend will get over it.
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| Posted 11/26/07 11:03 AM |
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mrswask
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Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Blu-ize
he was first making his transport arrangements 6 hours in advance? What was his plan if your DH didn't offer?
that's what I was thinking too
me too!
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