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Moehick
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Re: He responded
That really sucks that you can't rely on him to help when needed....if he has always been like this looks like he won't change....just keep being the great daughter you are
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Bxgell2
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Re: He responded
Posted by Blu-ize
the fact is he is a lame duck son and brother. Tell him that. This situation is not benefitting you it's for your dad.
I want to kick him in the shins.
Since you are the one running the show you get to decide the timing. If he was running the show then you would be the flexible one.
A month's vacation...obviously money isn't the issue. There is another issue here. Get to the bottom of it and you will have your answer.
It's his job to help..you are not asking, you are demanding. If he won't, then he needs to know that he can never...I mean NEVER ask you for a single thing. Let him know that. There may come a time he will need help and you will slam the door in his face as he is doing to you.
How awful for you and your dad.
Tough love works..I'm living proof.
It's sad, but what helps the most is having this all validated by everyone on here. For too long, I felt like it was MY fault, like I was asking too much of him. He is the master at manipulation - he knows exactly what to say to make me feel guilty for even asking.
The end has already started for him - he moved into his new place a few months ago (by the way, he asked my father for the downpayment, which he obliged). My DH is incredibly handy so he was recruiting him to help with some repairs, but he started this shiat with DH, who is Israeli, and speaks his mind when he thinks something, or shall I say, someone, is wrong, and it all hit the fan. Now they aren't talking and my brother is getting no assistance from DH, and none of our nice little collection of tools.
I just hate that these kind of moments and confrontations take such a toll on my mental state. I came home grumpy, and I've been grumpy ever since. DH is fuming, and I'm just really, really, really sad 
I'm going to mull over what an appropriate response should be to his email overnight, and send something tomorrow.
Message edited 8/23/2007 10:12:16 PM.
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