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So..... I have a get together at my house the other night.........I was expecting 5-6 people.....some of my guests decided to bring SO, and children.....bringing my head count to 12......which is normally no biggie, the more the merrier,,,however, I didn't anticipate feeding 12...... and felt terrible....as a host am I suppose to anticipate that people rsvp for 1 and show up w/ a party of four???? If it ended there I wouldn't be as frustrated..... So a friend of mine walks in and the first thing she does is pack a huge tupperware(she brought) to bring home food for her DH b/c he didn't want to come.....how about waiting till the end on the night to see if there is anything left???? Am I wrong???? oh, it gets better....... her two teenage children make their way over to the heros.... they decide they only want the cheese and turkey from it.....so they take 4 pieces each,place the turkey and cheese on a plate and throw away 8 pieces of hero.....I didn't see it,another guest did and was commenting to the mother...her response....yeah they are picky eaters...o.k I'll admit I was freaking out b/c I was already concerned about having enough food..... but..... they wasted an entire hero....am I wrong here?? let's move on to dessert.... I take out half a watermelon...... which I inteded on slicing and serving....get called away for a few....when I return the two kids are eating the watermelon w/spoons....digging into it as if it were their own personal watermelon..??????I don't know how I didn't lose it.....my friend walks in,laughs,and says there such pigs sometimes...I'm still in shock....
Am I over reacting? Should I say something to my friend? how do I say something w/o hurting her feelings??

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Wow everything was horrible. No manners at all. I would have flipped on some of the people. Good thing you kept your composure hosting the Griswolds.

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I ran into something similar with one of DH's friend's wives.

I solved the problem by not inviting them over again.

I would just hang out with your friend by going out to eat, shopping, etc.

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I think that's the last time you invite all those people over your house for a while.

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WOW! *** is wrong with people?

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I wouldn't say anything to your friend because, really, what will that accomplish after the fact (even though I'm fuming for you!). BUT, I would've said something to the friend when she was shoving food for her DH into it's own container. I would have had no problem asking her to wait until the end of the night. I would've explained that since there are more people than you had anticipated you're worried that there won't be enough food but whatever is left she's welcome to take... but what does it matter now.

WOW! Is this a good friend of your's?

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Posted by MrsNYPDsGirl

I ran into something similar with one of DH's friend's wives.

I solved the problem by not inviting them over again.

I would just hang out with your friend by going out to eat, shopping, etc.

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I'd say there were ZERO manners involved! So sorry this happened. I've learned over the years to always expect the unexpected when inviting others over.

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I think it's the parents fault. When we were growing up we KNEW better, then to touch things that weren't ours, we would NEVER go in to someones house and start eating a half of watermelon. My mom would have killed us. I would never invite them over again. And the whole tupperware thing would have sent me over the edge, I would have told her "why dont you wait until everyone ate, then take something for DH" thats balls right there. Sorry.

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Wow they would not be invited back for a meal....maybe just have them over but don't feed them

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it amazes me how utterly RUDE people can be

I wouldn't say anything, but I am not sure I would invite those people over again!

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Say something and not worry about hurting her feelings. Those kids should NOT be doing that.
Maybe at home with your parents you can all share but a social gathering is another.
I'm truley disgusted by that! NO consideration for others. I love watermelon but would have never eaten it after their saliva coated spoons dug back into the watermelong and left their kooties to infiltrate the rest of the fruit.

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Wow! They would not be invited back to my house for a meal again.

I don't know how you held it together - I think I would have blown up at the time (the watermelon being the last straw) - but to say something now might cause a big fight between you and your friend.

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WOW!! I guess those kids learned their manners from their mother.

I would have def said something

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Wow!

I would not invite them back and they need to teach their children manners.
OMGosh soooo rude!!!


I'd be furious at my friend!

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So inconsiderate. Many of the issues would have been bad enough on their own. It's terrible that all of this happened at one party!!

One time I made a pumpkin pudding cheesecake pie to bring to my sister's house. My teenage niece thought it was ok to cut 3 big slabs, scoop out all of the filling, and eat the pie crust.

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Wow!! You were far more composed than I would have been. I would have given those kids a good tongue-lashing and then asked the mother is this the manners she taught them. Good friend or not, they ALL had one h*ll of a nerve. It would be a VERY long time before I invited them to have a meal at my home, if ever.

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Wow! Absolutely NO MANNERS!!! I can't believe your friend didn't even apologize for her kids behavior, or better yet say something to her kids right then and there. The fact that she just let it slide with some dumb comment on them being pigs...well, if that were me, they wouldn't be invited over again!

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If she's a good friend, I'd definitely talk to her about it, just so you don't have to cut her out of mealtime at your house completely.

If she's NOT a good friend, I just wouldn't invite her over again.

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How rude! I would be so mad.

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You are probably going nowhere fast if you say something to either of these women after the fact. The mother of the two "picky eaters" is clearly clueless. While there was arguably an excuse for the teens to not eat part of a combination hero that they didn't like, there was no excuse for them to attack a watermelon with two spoons. Saying something now will probably only result in hard feelings (though these people are thoughtless and slobs) so be prepared for that if you do decide to say anything.

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W T F??? You have way more patience than I do. People are so rude.