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This is something that I would need all the specifics of before I could have a definite opinion about..with that said..Im going to say that I find it a little odd...

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My SIL did this, as well, and we were livid. At the time, we didn't know if we were having a boy or a girl, and she LIED TO US and said she was naming him Dennis, then when her husband came out of the delivery room, he said, it's a boy and his name is James. We were really angry. It's probably stupid to have been angry over, since DH goes by JT and not James, but STILL, that's HIS name.

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My sister is planning to give her future son(god willing) our brother's name as a middle name...and its because they are so close...they are 13 months apart.

That I don't find weird...but his first name....a little weird.

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my SIL named my hubby's nephew his name 4 yrs ago and i cried when she gave birth. .i said to his mom on the phone, "if ihave a boy i can still name it Christopher" and her exact words to me were" of course" so now being pregnant we dont know what we are having and if its a boy it will be named after my hubby. that is what HE has always wanted and i think having a Jr is so adorable.

as for the same name thing, its C R A P! i mean come use your husbands name but to name a kid the same name of your husband or mine thats ballsy!!!

I hate the fact if you ask me. But i really dont care and if feelings get hurt oh well.. my hubby and I came to a realization that ITS HIS NAME and he has the right to name it HIS NAME!

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I definitely think it's ODD.
We're going through a similar thing with DH's cousin....we're both PG at the same time and have both struggled to get PG. She's known forever that DH wants to have a son named after with his same name, but DH's cousin called last week to tell my MIL that she's decided on a name and IT'S DH'S NAME! I didn't think I would mind that much, but DH's family is very close and we know the children will see each other a lot. I'm annoyed by it,and I think DH is annoyed, too, but the one who is reall angry is my MIL. She actually voiced her opinion to DH's cousin to let her know she should choose another name!
ETA: The name could be a unisex name, and DH's cousin has a SIL with the same name. Think of the name "Kerry" or something similar....So this little boy will have the same name as his mom's cousin AND his aunt. Weird.

I'm also very sorry to hear that her PG milestones are painful for you. This must be very difficult for you to feel joy for her when you think of what would have been your special time.

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I think it's odd especially given the circumstances. My brother's name is actually my father's name and he is deceased so I am using it as a middle name specifically so that if he ever has a son, he could use it himself. he doesn't know whether he ever would really use it but i think he should have that option if he ever wants to!

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I don't really think it's odd because it's happened in my family. One of my uncles named his son after one of my other uncles, and DH's neice is named after his other sister although that is a different situation bc his sister passed.

I guess because I've seen this before it's not strange to me.

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definitely odd. funny you brought this up, I was just talking with an old friend last night who told me that her sister named her son the same name as their brother. I found that too to be a bit odd

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IMO, I don't think it's weird. I'd be a little more if it were a name that you were planning to use. Did they discuss it with you first, or just tell you?

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Is she naming her child after your dh? or just using his name? There is a definate difference. If she is naming her child after your dh, I aould think that is a true honor.(Provided that you were not planning on doing the same thing.

I have 3 siblings but my brother and I are very close. He is so great with my son. His wife is wonderful too. His boys are my son's best friends. I also happen to love my brother's name, so if I had no other siblings to insult I think there is a slim chance that I would use my brother's name too....but would definately run it by his wife. ( My dh is Jewish and can not name a child after himself)

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It's definitely a little odd

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I don't think it's that odd, especially if you weren't planning on using the name yourselves. My brother actually suggested his name as a possible name for our baby if we have a boy and I think either of my brothers would be very flattered if I named my baby after them.

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I say it is definitely a little odd...especially if she didn't speak to you guys about it.

In the future, I will likely use the middle name Daniel which happens to be my brothers name, but also my late grandfather's name. I will definitely run it by my brother when the time comes, even with just a middle name.

In fact, several of my cousins have named their sons Daniel, and all of them have called to get my parents blessing. Is it necessary? Probably not. But respectful (especially in your situation?) Definitely!

ETA: So sorry about your difficult time!

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Without knowing anything about your relationship with your SIL, I don't think it's weird. But my DH's family has a long tradition of naming kids after various other relatives, so it'd be more normal for us. My SIL gave her son my DH's name as a middle name, and it was an honor for him. I can't say for sure how I would feel had she given him that name as a first name, but I don't imagine it'd bother me that much. I'm sorry she's upsetting you - it sounds like this is only one of many things