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lorimarie
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Your thoughts on this.......
So my brother has a date tonight and is taking her to this super nice restaurant.
My husband thinks he's an idiot for taking this girl to an upscale restaurant for a first date. His reasoning is that you need to save the "nicer" places for special occasions and that now she'll expect to go to only nice places. DH thinks that the girl should get the standard date, something nice but not upscale.
My take is that I think its nice he's taking her to this particular place (the food is awesome and atmosphere is really great). I don't think that she is going to expect this type of place every time they go out - if she does then she's not the type of person my bro should be with.
I don't think it matters where you go on a first date - as long as you have a good time. I think DH is being a jackazzzz 
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by lorimarie
So my brother has a date tonight and is taking her to this super nice restaurant.
My husband thinks he's an idiot for taking this girl to an upscale restaurant for a first date. His reasoning is that you need to save the "nicer" places for special occasions and that now she'll expect to go to only nice places. DH thinks that the girl should get the standard date, something nice but not upscale.
My take is that I think its nice he's taking her to this particular place (the food is awesome and atmosphere is really great). I don't think that she is going to expect this type of place every time they go out - if she does then she's not the type of person my bro should be with.
I don't think it matters where you go on a first date - as long as you have a good time. I think DH is being a jackazzzz
I agree with you I have learned that married men should not give dating advice
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:37 PM |
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Phyl
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I say bring me your A game or don't bring me at all!
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:38 PM |
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Kara
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
My honest thought is that you don't take a first date to a really expensive place, but for different reasons:
1. You don't even really KNOW this person. Why are you going to spend $$$ on her just to get to know her? It sets up way too many expectations.
2. It puts more pressure on the whole situation. Get to know her in an unpretentious, more relaxed atmosphere and see how you like her.
3. It makes it look like you are trying to hard. When I was dating, I'd never let the first date be somewhere fancy or upscale. If they recommended that, I'd recommend a more casual venue.
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:38 PM |
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lorimarie
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by melijane
I agree with you I have learned that married men should not give dating advice
LMAO Melissa - my DH is the LAST person who should be giving dating advice. I'm still amazed at the stuff that he says 8 years later 
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:38 PM |
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Michelle
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I agree with you. As long as this place is not so out of his price range that he can never take her there again in his lifetime I don't think she will expect nothing less then this.
If he can't afford it and will take her to BK for every other date, then maybe DH is right, but that doesn't seem like the case in this situation.
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lorimarie
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by Kara
My honest thought is that you don't take a first date to a really expensive place, but for different reasons:
1. You don't even really KNOW this person. Why are you going to spend $$$ on her just to get to know her? It sets up way too many expectations.
2. It puts more pressure on the whole situation. Get to know her in an unpretentious, more relaxed atmosphere and see how you like her.
3. It makes it look like you are trying to hard. When I was dating, I'd never let the first date be somewhere fancy or upscale. If they recommended that, I'd recommend a more casual venue.
Good points Kara. He's met her a few times before but I think this is their first "alone" time.
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:40 PM |
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I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
DH took me to a very expensive place on our first date and I by no means expected it all the time after that nor did I think he was trying to hard.
We got married and had a baby...so I say KUDOS to him!!! Hope it goes well!
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I have to agree with your DH. If that's what your brother is doing for a 1st date, what's he going to do for her birthday or (if they make it this long) their anniversaries? To me, those are more important and I'd rather see him go all out for those than a 1st date.
I mean, it's just a 1st date, who knows where the relationship will go after that. Save the fancy stuff for the bigger things, otherwise he's never going to be able to top it and she may end up disappointed.
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Ang-Rich
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I agree with you...but you have to laugh at the way guys think.
Good for your bro for wanting to show her a good time. Like you said..if she comes to expect this all the time from him and can't be happy otherwise then she's not the girl for him.
First impressions go a long way so I think it's really nice that he is doing this.
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:44 PM |
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well if he puts on the big show and gets nothing in return tonight 
then it's burger king on the next date
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Boobobunny
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Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
well if he puts on the big show and gets nothing in return tonight
then it's burger king on the next date
1$ menu
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:45 PM |
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Chrisnamy
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I agree with you!
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:46 PM |
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lorimarie
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
I think the other part of this particular restaurant is the difference in what DH and I see it as.
I see it as a nicer place - he thinks its upscale. We had gone and I think the bill for the two of us was $120 which is definitely a nice dinner but not as expensive as some places we've gone.
I like the place for a date only b/c its nice, great food/service, and quiet.
I don't know - you all have valid points.
I just hope it goes well. The girl seems nice, has a good head on her shoulders, good job........fingers crossed here. My brother is a fantastic catch (not just saying it b/c I'm his sister) so I hope it works out. He doesn't need to marry her but I'd like for him to at least have someone to go out with and enjoy a nice dinner with.
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:47 PM |
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Lori's new favorite word: jackazzzz
Totally agree with you! I think that's great. ANd you are so right, if she comes to expect that kind of service every date, she's not the person for him!
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:47 PM |
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Message edited 11/13/2011 1:29:47 PM.
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by melijane
Posted by lorimarie
So my brother has a date tonight and is taking her to this super nice restaurant.
My husband thinks he's an idiot for taking this girl to an upscale restaurant for a first date. His reasoning is that you need to save the "nicer" places for special occasions and that now she'll expect to go to only nice places. DH thinks that the girl should get the standard date, something nice but not upscale.
My take is that I think its nice he's taking her to this particular place (the food is awesome and atmosphere is really great). I don't think that she is going to expect this type of place every time they go out - if she does then she's not the type of person my bro should be with.
I don't think it matters where you go on a first date - as long as you have a good time. I think DH is being a jackazzzz
I agree with you I have learned that married men should not give dating advice
I couldn't agree more!
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lorimarie
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
well if he puts on the big show and gets nothing in return tonight
then it's burger king on the next date
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Phyl
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Maybe now I KNOW why I'm single
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Posted by Kara
My honest thought is that you don't take a first date to a really expensive place, but for different reasons:
1. You don't even really KNOW this person. Why are you going to spend $$$ on her just to get to know her? It sets up way too many expectations.
2. It puts more pressure on the whole situation. Get to know her in an unpretentious, more relaxed atmosphere and see how you like her.
3. It makes it look like you are trying to hard. When I was dating, I'd never let the first date be somewhere fancy or upscale. If they recommended that, I'd recommend a more casual venue.
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While I can agree the fact that he can take her anywhere he wants and it shouldnt affect future outings, I also agree with all of Kara's points.
My hubby's a big spender, always was. He always bought me very expensive gifts while we were dating (ah those were the days ) but honestly, the things I remember are "the little things".
I remember the times he cooked for me and set the table up all cute, and not so much the expensive dinners..
Good luck to him though. He'll know if she's a good match !  
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| Posted 10/18/07 3:58 PM |
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by Phyl
I say bring me your A game or don't bring me at all!
lol, agree!
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| Posted 10/18/07 4:25 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
Posted by Kara
My honest thought is that you don't take a first date to a really expensive place, but for different reasons:
1. You don't even really KNOW this person. Why are you going to spend $$$ on her just to get to know her? It sets up way too many expectations.
2. It puts more pressure on the whole situation. Get to know her in an unpretentious, more relaxed atmosphere and see how you like her.
3. It makes it look like you are trying to hard. When I was dating, I'd never let the first date be somewhere fancy or upscale. If they recommended that, I'd recommend a more casual venue.
Well said
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Emily
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Re: Your thoughts on this.......
DH took me to a gro place on our first date. I agree with the poster that said expensive places bring expectations. From a man's point of view, Ryan (I can say his name because this happened 10 years ago, lol) always said "Steak=sex. If a man buys you steak and you don't put out...you will never hear from him again." I wonder if he ever got married. 
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| Posted 10/18/07 4:36 PM |
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Phyl
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Posted by Emily
DH took me to a gro place on our first date. I agree with the poster that said expensive places bring expectations. From a man's point of view, Ryan (I can say his name because this happened 10 years ago, lol) always said "Steak=sex. If a man buys you steak and you don't put out...you will never hear from him again." I wonder if he ever got married.
Probably not he sounded like a Wiener!
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Emily
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Posted by Phyl
Posted by Emily
DH took me to a gro place on our first date. I agree with the poster that said expensive places bring expectations. From a man's point of view, Ryan (I can say his name because this happened 10 years ago, lol) always said "Steak=sex. If a man buys you steak and you don't put out...you will never hear from him again." I wonder if he ever got married.
Probably not he sounded like a Wiener!
Actually he got all the women. He was a short guy who was rich. His only downfall was when he opened his mouth and spoke.
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