x-post - Vent about DH and SA

I'm hoping maybe someone has some advise / tips on how to get DH to agree to do an SA !

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TIA !!!

Message edited 7/14/2009 1:06:32 PM.

Re: x-post - Vent about DH and SA

MY Dh was apprehensive but my doc told him he has to do it.

I will tell you that after we found out it was most likely me with the problem he was very relieved. Then the doc told him don't be so relieved. It's much easier to fix a problem with the males than the females. It's a much bigger deal if there is a female issue.

So try that tidbit of info and let him know that at this point the doctor is not going to do any more testing on you until he is tested.

To make him feel a bit better, just because you had a DC from a previous relationship doesn't mean you don't have a problem. He may be thinking that since you were able to have one with someone else it will be his problem. You won't know until you both are tested.

I would insist on it before you do an HSG. I hated that test.

Re: x-post - Vent about DH and SA

My DH is the same way. He has been completely uncooperative in doing any of the VERY FEW things that HE has to do for this whole process. I just tell him that I've gotten poked and prodded on several times a week so he should be THANKFUL that he only has to do a few minor things. Producing the sample at home was easier for him-----I don't think I could have gotten him to do it on-site.

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Re: x-post - Vent about DH and SA

My DH was not happy about going, either. But, I just told him that it had to be done if we expect to get pg and explained ALL of the tests, poking, and prodding that I will have to go through.

DH went and was fine...he said it was weird, but he got through it. Your DH can collect at home...my doc said it was difficult because you have to get the specimen to the lab within an hour and it needs to stay at room temp.
It can be an option, though...if he really just can't handle it.

I think he may just be nervous that something is wrong with him. If it is, though, then you can move on and do what you need to do to get pg!!

Good luck!!!

Re: x-post - Vent about DH and SA

I was very lucky in this aspect with DH. He had no problem doing it and actually had to provide a sample several times- both off and on site. He never complained because he saw all that I was going through. He did make me hold the cup when we brought it in from home- he was embarrassed to carry it in.

If I were in your situation, I would ask DH why he is so resistant. Is he embarrassed to do it? If so- explain that it can be done at home (with your help) and no one but the andrologist has to see it. They see it all day everyday so it's nothing to them. They could care less.

If he's afraid it's him with the problem- let him know it's much easier to bypass a male issue than a female one.

Good luck!