Would you still go?

So a friend e-mails me asking if I'm going to her daughters christening next Sunday.

I replied that I never got the invite.

She says she mailed it out weeks ago.

Obviously, I never got it, but told her that I would make it anyway, just give me the details.

I've been thinking - I kinda have a feeling she isn't meeting the minimum amount of people she guaranteed for the restaurant, so she decided to invite me & DH last minute & claimed she sent the invite.

Would you still go to the party, or would you get offended?

We are still going, no doubt, but I hate that I feel like this- kinda makes me feel like she just invited us because she didn't have enough people. But then again, just being invited to share in this wonderful event is an honor.

I really dont even know what to feel anymore.

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Just go and have a good time. Don't drive yourself nuts thinking about it. If she did in fact invite you last minute, then when she sees you and your DH, she will feel like a fool for having left you out in the first place.

Sometimes people get a little crazed when planning! Not to say it's right, but it happens.

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Maybe it really did get lost in the mail?
If you're a close friend...I would go.

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If I wanted to go, I would go and just forget about the particulars of how I was invited and have a good time. Life is just too short for me to get too worked up over this stuff.

We were invited to a wedding where we suspected we were the "seat fillers" to meet the minimum, but they were friends of DH and he was going to know a lot of other people there. We don't get all dressed up and go to events like this too often, so we went and had a great time. What I thought was more rude was the "friend" who informed us at the church that indeed a whole bunch of people were invited because the bride and groom needed to make the minimum.

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I was in a simialr situation for a baby shower last year.

I thought she was having a shopwer, but didn't hear anything. Then a mutual friend asked if I'd be there & I told her I didn't know anything about it.

Then a few days before the party the dad-to be emailed me & invited me. He said sais his wife's sister sent out the invites & mind got returned to her, but he didn't know why.

It sounded to me like they left me off the list, and I wonder if my mutal friend was the one who mentioned it to him, but I dont' knwo the wife's sister well, I am mor ethe husbnad's friend, so I can forgive her if she forgot.

I was happy for them, and wanted to see the mom-to-be ( and I happend to be free Labor Day weekend), so I went.

It was a mad rush to get a gift, but I'm glad I went. Several people couldn't make it because of the holiday weekend, so if if I was an add-on, I was happy to be there for her.

ETA- getting lost in the mail is a possibilty. A few of my bridal shower invites got lost or were bad addresses, and I was invited to my friend's rehearsal sinner even though I wasn't in teh wedding & I wodered why he never gave me specifics when I emailed him , and it wasn't untill mnmths after that the invite came! I didn't even knwo he had sent out paper invites, since it was a RD. I thought he was just being flaky by forgetting to tell me the name of the restauarnt.

Message edited 3/4/2008 11:11:21 AM.

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I defintely would go no matter what the circumstances were. There is a good possibility that it did get lost in the mail. If not, like another poster said, she will feel silly when she sees you guys there. Have a good time.

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I would go enjoy it

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Even if it was that, I wouldn't get upset. These events are expensive and sometimes you think you can't invite people you really want there, and then circumstances change.