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DiamondGirl
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Would you send a card
I wouldn't, though I do get that you're happy for him and would like to, I Would leave it be.
What's with all the nasty responses is 2013 the year of the nasty bitxh?
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InShock
life is good
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Re: Would you send a card
Posted by JenniferEver
One of my exes was a reader at our wedding! I'm still in touch with the other guy I mentioned earlier. Not all DHs ate insecure or would have a problem with it.
IMO, this really has nothing to do with what the OP is asking. You clearly maintained a friendship with your exes - that's great. The OP and the guy have not and it's been 10 years since they've had contact. Kind of a huge difference.
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| Posted 1/1/13 12:56 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
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Re: Would you send a card
Posted by DiamondGirl
I wouldn't, though I do get that you're happy for him and would like to, I Would leave it be.
What's with all the nasty responses is 2013 the year of the nasty bitxh?
I didn't see any overtly b!tchy responses, but I personally think this falls under the category of "if you are questioning it, you probably already know the answer"
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| Posted 1/1/13 1:01 PM |
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Re: Would you send a card
I agree. I think people were just honest, given the details provided.
And I don't foresee 2013 being any different than any other year in terms of
b!itchiness on this site. 
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| Posted 1/1/13 1:05 PM |
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lynnd126
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Would you send a card
I wouldn't but I could see myself wanting to. I had a really good friend foryears and same thing- he professed love. We minimally kept in touch like on myspace, lol, and I wanted to invite him to my wedding, which wasalso like eight years after we stopped being friends. Well, He didn't want to come. I asked for his address and he shot it down right there saying he had a vacation planned that week. I think for me I didn't put enough stock into his love for me. I mean not to sound conceited, but tome we were just buddies but to him it was so different. I got this crazy long love letter, etc. I sort of belittled it I guess. My point is that he is probably happy that hurtful door is long closed. He probably doesn't think of and remember the relationship in the same way you do.
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| Posted 1/1/13 1:28 PM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
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Re: Would you send a card
Honestly, I am a little surprised with some of the responses. And for the record, I did ask my DH and he doesn't care either way. Why would he?! This is not an ex-boyfriend. It's an ex-friend that I was extremely close to for many years. I was close with his family. Attended his brother's wedding. Spent Christmas with them (I'm Jewish.) forgive me for feeling sentimental in hearing he got married.
I see that some of you got where I was coming from and I think I will take the advice of "wait and see" how I feel in a couple of weeks. If its still tugging at me, I will send a card. As far as his wife goes, I would highly doubt he told her about me. We weren't ever a couple and he was left hurt in the end. Why would he tell her? And again, it would just be a simple congratulatory card, not a novel about our old friendship.
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ChilisWife
God Bless America
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Re: Would you send a card
I would really want to, as I had many close guy friends in the past that I miss, but wouldn't. I may consider shooting a quick email or FB message but re-initiating contact at this point would seem odd and unfair to all parties.
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| Posted 1/1/13 6:03 PM |
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sameinitials
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Would you send a card
It's funny... just yesterday morning I emailed an ex-friend of mine (who I haven't really talked to in 4 or 5 years), because I saw on facebook that she had a baby - it was just a simple email congratulating her, and saying that I hope everything is going well. But now I am kicking myself thinking that maybe I shouldn't have (partly because I haven't heard anything back).
I don't see there being a problem with you reaching out in some form to congratulate him. In a way a card might be better than email or facebook (as some people suggested), since if it's a card there is no obligation or need for him to respond.
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| Posted 1/1/13 7:21 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: Would you send a card
I wonder what your underlying reasons are for thinking of reaching out to him now. Is it curiosity, regret, hope for some kind of relationship again now that he is married? I don't think it'd be terrible to send a card, though I do think it could open up a can of worms. I agree with sitting with it for a few weeks and if you still want to send it, then do.
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MrsA1012
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Would you send a card
I probably wouldn't but what is the worst that can happen if you do?
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| Posted 1/1/13 8:38 PM |
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JenniferEver
The Disney Lady
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Re: Would you send a card
Posted by InShock
Posted by JenniferEver
One of my exes was a reader at our wedding! I'm still in touch with the other guy I mentioned earlier. Not all DHs ate insecure or would have a problem with it.
IMO, this really has nothing to do with what the OP is asking. You clearly maintained a friendship with your exes - that's great. The OP and the guy have not and it's been 10 years since they've had contact. Kind of a huge difference.
A LOT of posts were based on the assumption that her DH would have a big problem with it. I was saying not all men would.
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summertime
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Re: Would you send a card
Posted by Karen
Posted by LiveForMoments
I wouldn't. How would you feel if you were just married and some girl that your DH used to be in love with and hasn't talked to in years sent a card? I don't think it's appropriate, but that's my opinion.
Exactly!
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| Posted 1/2/13 10:44 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Would you send a card
Posted by headoverheels
You haven't spoken to him in 10 years and heard through the grapevine that he was married?
Honestly I think sending him a card is totally unnecessary. If you were going to stay friends that would have happened long ago, and the card may open up a can of worms.
Couldn't agree more!
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| Posted 1/2/13 10:53 AM |
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jams92
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Re: Would you send a card
no way!!!
stinks that your friendship ended but its been so long, there is no need to try to reconnect now
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