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Would you bring DC or no?
My cousin passed away last week. He is being cremated and then there will be a memorial and a brunch next week.
My DS is 10. He knows my other cousins really well, but not this particular one. My parents and sister are pushing me to bring him.
I have an exDH, so he can go there for a night. It's in Boston, so my SO, my parents and sister are going the night before.
I'm not sure.
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Posted 4/24/17 5:14 PM  |
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MrsG823
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Would you bring DC or no?
I would bring my daughter. She is only three but DH and I brought her to a funeral of a close family member. We feel strongly that death is part of life and dd should learn this like any other part of growing up.
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| Posted 4/24/17 5:41 PM |
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Michi
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Would you bring DC or no?
I feel the complete opposite. Unless they need closure from the situation I dont think it is necessary for him to be there. They will encounter plenty of real life sadness, anything I can avoid, I would.
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| Posted 4/24/17 5:46 PM |
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ANewDayHasCome
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Would you bring DC or no?
I wouldn't. I don't think it's appropriate for a kid to go, especially when he didn't really know him.
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| Posted 4/24/17 5:48 PM |
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Adri
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Posted by Michi
I feel the complete opposite. Unless they need closure from the situation I dont think it is necessary for him to be there. They will encounter plenty of real life sadness, anything I can avoid, I would.
I agree with this. I wouldn't, unless it is completely necessary.
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| Posted 4/24/17 6:00 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Death is a part of life and at that age, they are old enough to understand that people die. My DD is 8.5 yrs old and I wouldn't think twice about bringing her if I were in your situation but it's really a personal decision, you have to decide what is best for you.
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| Posted 4/24/17 6:11 PM |
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luckyduck
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Posted by Adri
Posted by Michi
I feel the complete opposite. Unless they need closure from the situation I dont think it is necessary for him to be there. They will encounter plenty of real life sadness, anything I can avoid, I would.
I agree with this. I wouldn't, unless it is completely necessary.
I agree with this as well.
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| Posted 4/24/17 7:15 PM |
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StaceyWill
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Message edited 4/24/2017 7:21:33 PM.
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Posted by luckyduck
Posted by Adri
Posted by Michi
I feel the complete opposite. Unless they need closure from the situation I dont think it is necessary for him to be there. They will encounter plenty of real life sadness, anything I can avoid, I would.
I agree with this. I wouldn't, unless it is completely necessary.
I agree with this as well.
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| Posted 4/24/17 7:21 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Have you asked him? I was around that age when my grandparents died. My parents asked me if I wanted to attend the funerals.
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| Posted 4/25/17 11:50 AM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
I would bring my DC. Funerals provide time to be with family that you don't often see. Since this is a memorial/lunch I don't see a reason not to bring him.
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| Posted 4/25/17 11:53 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
No, I wouldn't bring him. Maybe if he was close to him, I would feel differently but in this situation it seems unnecessary. He can learn about death later in life. For now, he can enjoy the innocence of childhood. That's my $.02
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| Posted 4/25/17 12:27 PM |
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phoenix913
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
I would. But I agree with a pp that said to ask him if he wants to go.
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| Posted 4/25/17 12:33 PM |
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pumpkinmom
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Would you bring DC or no?
I would bring him.
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| Posted 4/25/17 12:48 PM |
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backfor3
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
its a personal decision but since a lot of your family will be there I would probably bring him.
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| Posted 4/26/17 7:07 AM |
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ml110
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Would you bring DC or no?
at 10, and if he wasn't that close to your cousin- i would ask him if he wants to go, or if he's ok with going. maybe you could find something fun to do in boston with him the next day or something...
my grandma passed away when my DS was 4.5. same thing, she was cremated and we had a memorial service and a meal after. he pretty much HAD to go , because we didn't have anybody to watch him. the funeral was 2 hours from where we live, so we could't leave him with a friend, and my family was obviously all there. and ILs live 4 hours away...he hung in there for about an hour, and then my DH took him to my parents house when he started to get antsy, and then they met us at the restaurant later.
it wasn't bad- it was nice for him to see my family and friends from home that he doesn't see a lot (we live 2 hours from where i grew up...)
So, at 10, i would see what your son wants to do...
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| Posted 4/26/17 7:50 AM |
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Momma2015
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Will the other cousins he knows well be there? He might be a source of comfort for them. If they were, I'd see if he wants to go. Otherwise, nope.
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| Posted 4/26/17 7:50 AM |
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Posted by Michi
I feel the complete opposite. Unless they need closure from the situation I dont think it is necessary for him to be there. They will encounter plenty of real life sadness, anything I can avoid, I would.
I agree with this.
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| Posted 4/26/17 9:22 AM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
At 10, I wouldn't necessarily shield him from death especially if it was a close family member. Unfortunately it's a part of life. However, if he didn't really know the cousin, I probably wouldn't bring him. There's no right or wrong answer. It's what you feel comfortable doing.
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| Posted 4/26/17 9:31 AM |
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Salason
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
If it was local, I'd bring him. But since it's in Boston and he could stay with ExDH, I would leave him home if he didn't know the person well.
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| Posted 4/26/17 9:40 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Would you bring DC or no?
Posted by MrsS2005
At 10, I wouldn't necessarily shield him from death especially if it was a close family member. Unfortunately it's a part of life. However, if he didn't really know the cousin, I probably wouldn't bring him. There's no right or wrong answer. It's what you feel comfortable doing.
I agree.
As a kid my parents always brought us to wakes and funerals. We were never shielded from death- it's a part of life.
I didn't ever feel scared or feel I was scarred from the experience.
I am actually grateful for the learning experience.
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| Posted 4/26/17 9:44 AM |
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evrythng4areason
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Would you bring DC or no?
I teach middle school (6th/7th), and with rare exceptions of very immature kids, by 10 kids know what is going on in the world. I would talk to him about it, but I would absolutely bring him. I also wouldn't really give him the option.
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| Posted 4/26/17 10:16 AM |
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