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4ForMe
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Would you be hurt...
if your sisters-in-law totally blew off your 40th birthday? I didn't want a party, but does that mean I don't deserve at least a card? My husband and I went totally out of our way on their 40th birthdays (and gave very generous gifts).
Maybe I am being childish. I don't usually expect any fanfare on my birthdays, but being it was a milestone one I assumed they would be a little more thoughtful.
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Re: Would you be hurt...
i would be hurt, especially if you and DH went out of your way to make their 40th b-days special. did you ask them about it?
happy birthday!!!  
ETA: that being said, it wouldn't matter what i did for my SIL, she has absolutely no concept of what it means to be thoughful and i would be lucky if she signed her name to a card her mother bought.
Message edited 12/27/2007 11:31:02 AM.
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:29 AM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Been there and yes I've been hurt by it.
Sorry you were too.
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:31 AM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Would you be hurt...
does she normally acknowledge your birthday?
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:31 AM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Are you sure, maybe they are going to do something special for you even though you said you didn't want to do anything.. but if they didn't send you a card or give you a gift than 'YES' i would be upset and hurt... but i would say as long as 'YOUR' family remember's that is what is important. I'm sorry they didn't remember.
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:32 AM |
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4ForMe
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Re: Would you be hurt...
No - I didn't say anything. It was 3 weeks ago, so I thought maybe when we got together for Christmas something would have transpired - but not.
Thanks for the birthday wishes!
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:32 AM |
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Niblet
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Yes, I would be hurt...and please don't feel guilty for at least wanting some well-wishes.
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:35 AM |
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4ForMe
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Posted by luvsbob4603
Are you sure, maybe they are going to do something special for you even though you said you didn't want to do anything.. but if they didn't send you a card or give you a gift than 'YES' i would be upset and hurt... but i would say as long as 'YOUR' family remember's that is what is important. I'm sorry they didn't remember.
No, I know nothing is planned. And no, we don't usually exchange gifts for regular birthdays, but we have on the milestone ones (I should say we have given gifts).
The other thing also is I don't want to say anything to my husband because I don't want it to get back to them and then I look like the beyotch. Also, unfortunately, my husband will find some way to defend them - his family rarely can do wrong.
They did call me but at around 10 p.m. that night - one right after the other. It was more of like an afterthought. I let them leave messages - I didn't even answer the phone.
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:36 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Would you be hurt...
are you close to her at all? like do you hang with her w/o DH or call her on your own ? has she ever made you feel bad before or blown you off?
sometimes i think that we do things and expect that others will "do the right thing" as well, and are shocked when it doesn't happen. i've come to realize that no behavior surprises me anymore.
i'm sorry that she hurt your feelings, at least you know where you stand now. so you don't have to go out of your way for her.
maybe mention it to DH and see if he finds out what happened with her.
other than that--i would just try and not let it bother me.
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:38 AM |
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NewlyMrs
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Try not to let it ruin your day!
Happy Birthday!
I did not have any of my 'friends' wish me a happy birthday! I guess being in NC, out of sight out of mind!
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:43 AM |
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lkrpaul
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Yes, I would be hurt. Not even a card? I would definitely be upset. Especially if you did just a big thing for her.
Happy Birthday!!
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:45 AM |
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SPECIALNEEDSMOMMY
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Re: Would you be hurt...
YES ... I would be very hurt and upset. Since I know you ... and knowing how thoughtful and kind you always are to your family and friends ... I can totally relate to how you feel. Also, if you have to "remind" them of your birthday ... would the gift or card they would now send really mean anything anyway?????
I would just remember their thoughtlessness when their special days roll around in 2008.
Sending many hugs
P.S. - Would another Cannolli cake help????? LOL
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| Posted 12/27/07 7:35 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Yes, I would definiltey be hurt. I was also going to say, maybe, they have something planned.
I am so sorry.
I do wish you a very Happy Birthday!
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| Posted 12/27/07 8:02 PM |
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CAMCaps
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Re: Would you be hurt...
I think it depends on the family dynamic. If cards are always sent but suddenly do not appear on my birthday I woudl be bummed. If I never or infrequently received cards I would not be too upset.
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| Posted 12/27/07 8:02 PM |
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4ForMe
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Posted by SPECIALNEEDSMOMMY
YES ... I would be very hurt and upset. Since I know you ... and knowing how thoughtful and kind you always are to your family and friends ... I can totally relate to how you feel. Also, if you have to "remind" them of your birthday ... would the gift or card they would now send really mean anything anyway?????
I would just remember their thoughtlessness when their special days roll around in 2008.
Sending many hugs
P.S. - Would another Cannolli cake help????? LOL
Would you believe I ate the whole damn thing?
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| Posted 12/27/07 9:32 PM |
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neenie
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Re: Would you be hurt...
i would only be hurt if she kicked me in the shins while forgetting. 
My ILs dont know when my birthday is, i dont send them cards on theirs, IMO the only people that need to acknowledge my bday are DH and my parents. Honestly, i don't even know if my ILs even know how old i am.
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| Posted 12/27/07 10:06 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Blew off as in not even an acknowledgement? Only if I thought it was purposely being mean. If she forgot, then no. If she never acknowledged it to begin with, then no.
Lauren: Take note for May.
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| Posted 12/27/07 10:24 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Would you be hurt...
No I am hoping come February everyone forgets I am turning 40
Sorry they hurt your feelings
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| Posted 12/27/07 10:25 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Its a big b-day IMO. I would be hurt yes, even a card matters in a small way to show they care at least.
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Re: Would you be hurt...
I would expect it in my family....
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| Posted 12/27/07 11:57 PM |
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an9elic
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Re: Would you be hurt...
i would be upset if i did a lot for someone on their birthday and they didnt even try to do anything special for me.
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| Posted 12/28/07 1:40 AM |
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4ForMe
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Re: Would you be hurt...
Posted by k-bam
i would be upset if i did a lot for someone on their birthday and they didnt even try to do anything special for me.
Yes, this is the case. And like I said, I told my husband I didn't want a party or anything, but a card would have been nice.
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