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QuoteTheRaven424
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Work Question -- UPDATE
If one of your supervisors overheard a phone conversation that involved a very personal matter and began gossiping the information all over the office, would you say something to that person or that person's boss.
I know you can argue that a call that personal shouldn't have been made in the office, but what's done is done. The person who made the call was whispering so it is obvious that this person was eavesdropping.
also, you found out about the gossip through a third party so the person that told you would likely get in trouble.
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Re: Work Question
wow, im not sure at all what i would do don, but  pple have such big f*cking mouths!!!
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dpli
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Re: Work Question
I have on occasion told a person who was the subject of gossip what was being said about them. I didn't really want to get involved in a whole office drama about it, but I just thought the person had a right to know what was being said about them.
I did not divulge who told me or how I heard it, just that it was going around the office.
If it doesn't help the current situation, at least they will be more careful about making calls from work in the future.
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| Posted 10/17/05 3:37 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Work Question
ETA: this issue does not involve me, it involves boosh
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| Posted 10/17/05 3:39 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Work Question
The tricky thing here is that if it were my supervisor who was doing the gossiping, I wouldn't trust his or her supervisor to keep my name out of it and it will affect how I am treated in the future by my supervisor.
I stand by saying tell the person who made the call and leave it at that.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Work Question
Posted by dpli
The tricky thing here is that if it were my supervisor who was doing the gossiping, I wouldn't trust his or her supervisor to keep my name out of it and it will affect how I am treated in the future by my supervisor.
I stand by saying tell the person who made the call and leave it at that.
thanks
the issue is that boosh made a very personal call from work - she was whispering and took care to see that no one heard her. one of her supervisors overheard anyway and began gossiping. The question is, does boosh address the situation?
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| Posted 10/17/05 3:43 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Work Question
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by dpli
The tricky thing here is that if it were my supervisor who was doing the gossiping, I wouldn't trust his or her supervisor to keep my name out of it and it will affect how I am treated in the future by my supervisor.
I stand by saying tell the person who made the call and leave it at that.
thanks
the issue is that boosh made a very personal call from work - she was whispering and took care to see that no one heard her. one of her supervisors overheard anyway and began gossiping. The question is, does boosh address the situation?
OHHHHH. I think in that case, as difficult as it might be, I would confront my supervisor, and if Boosh doesn't think that would work, I would go to his/her supervisor. I think people can be pretty thoughtless and say things without thinking sometimes. I would hope that if Boosh could have a rational discussion and explain how damaging this is, the supervisor would knock that crap off. If that didn't work, I would go over his/her head and complain to their supervisor. I think most bosses do not like you going over their head as the first step, even if they are in the wrong and it may backfire on her if she doesn't try to resolve it with her own boss first. JMO.
Good luck to Boosh
ETA: I wouldn't say who told me, just that I heard people talking about it.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Work Question
thanks
i mean, yes, the call should have been made from the outside, BUT, she was whispering
this boss has caused problems before
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| Posted 10/17/05 3:48 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Work Question
i didn't mean that Boosh was thoughtless - I meant that the supervisor might have been thoughtless in telling others.
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Janice
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Re: Work Question
That is a tough one. I would not confront the supervisior, almost like adding gasoline to an open fire. The supervisior sounds like an A-hole, and would probably just create more of a problem. She could try HR, but I tend to shy away from conflict, so I would not do that. Either way it is a very shady situation, supervisior was way out of line, but I would think bringing it to someone's attention would make supervisior act out more and not let it die.
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Re: Work Question
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by dpli
The tricky thing here is that if it were my supervisor who was doing the gossiping, I wouldn't trust his or her supervisor to keep my name out of it and it will affect how I am treated in the future by my supervisor.
I stand by saying tell the person who made the call and leave it at that.
thanks
the issue is that boosh made a very personal call from work - she was whispering and took care to see that no one heard her. one of her supervisors overheard anyway and began gossiping. The question is, does boosh address the situation?
I would. It isn't appropriate to gossip about someone or something personal. If she handles it in a professional manner, there shouldn't be any problems.
Being that most of us work 40+ hours at the office, it's impossible not to have to deal with personal matters at work.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Work Question
Posted by dpli
i didn't mean that Boosh was thoughtless - I meant that the supervisor might have been thoughtless in telling others.
oh aboslutely, i got that
no misunderstanding -- i know you didn;t mean boosh
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Posted by Janice
That is a tough one. I would not confront the supervisior, almost like adding gasoline to an open fire. The supervisior sounds like an A-hole, and would probably just create more of a problem. She could try HR, but I tend to shy away from conflict, so I would not do that. Either way it is a very shady situation, supervisior was way out of line, but I would think bringing it to someone's attention would make supervisior act out more and not let it die.
true, but boosh and this person have a history, and i think it's silly for her to continue to take sh*t
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dpli
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Re: Work Question
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by Janice
That is a tough one. I would not confront the supervisior, almost like adding gasoline to an open fire. The supervisior sounds like an A-hole, and would probably just create more of a problem. She could try HR, but I tend to shy away from conflict, so I would not do that. Either way it is a very shady situation, supervisior was way out of line, but I would think bringing it to someone's attention would make supervisior act out more and not let it die.
true, but boosh and this person have a history, and i think it's silly for her to continue to take sh*t
I agree, Don. It sounds to me like the boss is already treating her pretty shabbily and if she stands up to the boss, perhaps it will get better. I mean, if you were whispering and someone took the effort to eavesdrop and then gossip about you, they already don't care about how they treat you.
AND to add - who knows how many other people are being treated like crap - and if no one ever says anything, this boss is allowed to keep doing this to employees?
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Janice
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Re: Work Question
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by Janice
That is a tough one. I would not confront the supervisior, almost like adding gasoline to an open fire. The supervisior sounds like an A-hole, and would probably just create more of a problem. She could try HR, but I tend to shy away from conflict, so I would not do that. Either way it is a very shady situation, supervisior was way out of line, but I would think bringing it to someone's attention would make supervisior act out more and not let it die.
true, but boosh and this person have a history, and i think it's silly for her to continue to take sh*t
Yeah that suc ks, I guess that is why I am a company jumper. I just hate issues, and clearly her supervisior was in the wrong. I always feel like unless they let supv. go, I don't think I would feel satisfied. Is it a big company? Can she make an internal switch?
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CookiePuss
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Re: Work Question
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
Posted by Janice
That is a tough one. I would not confront the supervisior, almost like adding gasoline to an open fire. The supervisior sounds like an A-hole, and would probably just create more of a problem. She could try HR, but I tend to shy away from conflict, so I would not do that. Either way it is a very shady situation, supervisior was way out of line, but I would think bringing it to someone's attention would make supervisior act out more and not let it die.
true, but boosh and this person have a history, and i think it's silly for her to continue to take sh*t
Since it's her direct supervisor, she might have to go above them. If she doesn't do something now and there's a past history, this is always going to happen.
I recently had a situation with one of my bosses who said something I didn't like. I called him on it and brought it to the attention of the other boss. I received an apology.
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Re: Work Question
I think that makes a huge difference. Is supv. male or female? Male I would confront, Female I would ignore
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Re: Work Question
If there is a history, take it up with the supervisor's boss.
If its a one time thing, I woudl take it up with the supervisor. I would ask them why they listened in on my converastion and felt the need to spread it around the office. If I didn't feel the response was good enough, I would tell the supervisor- as a curtesy- I am going to your boss to report your behavior.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Work Question
the supervisor is female
she cannot switch internally, it is a small company
her big concern is that it will fall back on the person that told her about the gossiping -- the person told her in confidence and will likely get in trouble
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Re: Work Question
I DEFINETLY WOULD SAY SOMETHING!!!! Sometimes we need to make personal calls at work .
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Donna
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I think Boosh should say something to the supervisor's boss. The supervisor should be held to a certain level of responsibility as a superior and this one isn't capable of that.
Good luck to Boosh!
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Re: Work Question
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
I know you can argue that a call that personal shouldn't have been made in the office.
Bingo.
Not much you can do about it since its a supervisor unfortunately.
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june262004
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Re: Work Question
Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
I know you can argue that a call that personal shouldn't have been made in the office.
Bingo.
Not much you can do about it since its a supervisor unfortunately.
I disagree. I had a medical issue and the only time I could get the Dr. Was during my work Hours.
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| Posted 10/17/05 4:05 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Posted by DjPiLL
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
I know you can argue that a call that personal shouldn't have been made in the office.
Bingo.
Not much you can do about it since its a supervisor unfortunately.
even if that person went out of their way to eavesdrop?
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