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With all the BFing articles....
I just wanna admit- how truely torn apart I am on giving up- for some reason its something I just cant shake... and find myself being jealous of my pg. friend because she will soon be able to BF, also I find myself wanting another ASAP- just so I could "make it up to" them...
Whats wrong with me- I feel crazy....
I have to say I agree with all these articles... but they are def. making me feel worse...
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
It's horrible that these articles, instead of promoting BF'ing awareness, and support in the workplace, or changing maternity leave times, are making women feel like cr@p cause they couldn't or didn't BF their child.
You have done soo well with that cutie of yours, you are a great mommy, BF'ing or not wouldn't change that!
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| Posted 7/14/06 11:00 PM |
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
I am having a lot of similar feelings because of all Miranda and I went through with BFing and how it basically turned to all pumping. Yes I'm happy she got BM but I am still very sad that we never had a great BFing relationship. It is still hard for me to watch my friends nurse their babies and old babies because I had plans of nursing Miranda until she weaned.
I totally understand how you feel.
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| Posted 7/14/06 11:25 PM |
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
I feel the same way...I feel so guilty when I hear about moms who BF. I basically just gave up...for no good reason.
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Maris, I feel the same way! Can't wait to have the next one to do extended BF until he/she is at least 5  Well, maybe one.
Ironically, all my friends are now giving up BF'ing at six months and I am still pumping!
Isn't it Ironic, don't you think???
eta...I am looking for a good therapist to discuss this with!
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by monkeybride
I am having a lot of similar feelings because of all Miranda and I went through with BFing and how it basically turned to all pumping. Yes I'm happy she got BM but I am still very sad that we never had a great BFing relationship. It is still hard for me to watch my friends nurse their babies and old babies because I had plans of nursing Miranda until she weaned.
I totally understand how you feel.
Although we only made it the 1st 6-8 weeks.... I only nursed for the first 2- and the rest was all EBM...
I think a big part of this sadness Im feeling is because I didnt "nurse" as well-
It really has nothing to do with Ryan.... because he did get 2 months of BM and other than colds here and there- he's never really been sick....(Here he is at 10 months, and he was just put on antibiotics for the 1st time- due to an ear infection and really- our babies were infant throughout the winter.. .so Id like to believe- this is all because of the BM he got...)
I think its all about me- I feel like I missed out on something- some bond, and it truely depresses me.....
Rachee- I think speaking to someone is a great idea.... something I most certainly should be looking into...
But when I think of how lucky I am- to have what I have- I literally feel silly going to someone to whine about the fact that I choose to give up BF....
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
I gave up when he was a month old. I just couldn't do it anymore. And the only reason I didn't stop earlier was because I was so pressured into doing it. I felt like I was a bad mom for not BF'ing longer.
I am soo happy now. As soon as I stopped I felt like a new women and I have been having so much more fun with Andrew 
I was putting way to much pressure on myself and it was getting ridiculous. I eventually almost dried up and had no choice but to stop The ped said he was not gaining weight and she was getting worried. Plus he was crying so much I know now because he was always still hungry.
He has been on formula for 3 weeks and is thriving. For us, it wasn't going to work and I let the pressures around me and my guilt affect Andrews well-being.
Don't let others pressure you and don't feel guilty. Formula is so close to BM now. I was a formula fed baby and I think I turned out ok I also know a women that BF her 2 children and they are always so sick and have bad allergies.
Do whatever YOU want to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by 5ofClubs
I gave up when he was a month old. I just couldn't do it anymore. And the only reason I didn't stop earlier was because I was so pressured into doing it. I felt like I was a bad mom for not BF'ing longer.
I am soo happy now. As soon as I stopped I felt like a new women and I have been having so much more fun with Andrew
I was putting way to much pressure on myself and it was getting ridiculous. I eventually almost dried up and had no choice but to stop The ped said he was not gaining weight and she was getting worried. Plus he was crying so much I know now because he was always still hungry.
He has been on formula for 3 weeks and is thriving. For us, it wasn't going to work and I let the pressures around me and my guilt affect Andrews well-being.
Don't let others pressure you and don't feel guilty. Formula is so close to BM now. I was a formula fed baby and I think I turned out ok I also know a women that BF her 2 children and they are always so sick and have bad allergies.
Do whatever YOU want to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AMEN!!!!!
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by 5ofClubs
I gave up when he was a month old. I just couldn't do it anymore. And the only reason I didn't stop earlier was because I was so pressured into doing it. I felt like I was a bad mom for not BF'ing longer.
I am soo happy now. As soon as I stopped I felt like a new women and I have been having so much more fun with Andrew
I was putting way to much pressure on myself and it was getting ridiculous. I eventually almost dried up and had no choice but to stop The ped said he was not gaining weight and she was getting worried. Plus he was crying so much I know now because he was always still hungry.
He has been on formula for 3 weeks and is thriving. For us, it wasn't going to work and I let the pressures around me and my guilt affect Andrews well-being.
Don't let others pressure you and don't feel guilty. Formula is so close to BM now. I was a formula fed baby and I think I turned out ok I also know a women that BF her 2 children and they are always so sick and have bad allergies.
Do whatever YOU want to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think you misunderstood my posts...It has nothing to do with feeling pressured, or "doing whats right for my child" or even Ryans health- 7.5 months out of his 9.5 month life he has been formula fed, and up until last week had never really offically been "sick"-
What Im feeling is purely about myself and my regret in stopping...
Im not debating whether or not formula is almost as good as BM- I know its ok- my son is a FF baby, and is wonderul!!! I-for myself- feel like I missed out on something- and cant wait to have another- just so we could REALLY expierence BFing together...
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Oh Ok Sometimes I get so heated on the subject. I need to stop doing that
What do you feel like you missed out on?
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
I will be very honest while in the hospital the lactation specialists were very rude to me and unfortunately it turned me off of breastfeeding, It was so upsetting I was a mother all of maybe 12 hours and was attempting... 
And hugs to you!
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by mishy
I will be very honest whle in the hospital the lactation specialists were very rude to me and unfortunately it turned me off of breastfeeding, It was so upsetting I was a mother all of maybe 12 hours and was attempting...
Me too. I was so pressured in there by this crazy LC. She kept touching and squeezing me. And then she got my # and started calling me at home to make sure I was BF'ing Maybe that is why I get so heated
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by mishy
I will be very honest while in the hospital the lactation specialists were very rude to me and unfortunately it turned me off of breastfeeding, It was so upsetting I was a mother all of maybe 12 hours and was attempting...
A big part of the reason I gave up- The LC at the hospital SUC KED!!!! Had I been given the proper instruction in the hospital... and had certain people in my life been more supportive- Id prob still be BFing today-
But as a new mom- you have so many emotions going on- the last thing you need to do, is be stressed about weight gain, discomfort, oh and in my case- the nasty remarks about BFing from a certain family memeber 
5ofclubs- Im not gonna say I missed out on a bond- because my FF son and I have a bond that is no less stronger than a mom and a BF baby- but it wouldve been nice- being the ONLY one who could feed him- I dont know- in my head- it wouldve been nice....
Not sure why I feel the way I do.... I just do- and I feel seriosuly depressed and sad over it...
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
All I can offer then is
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
I'm sorry it makes you sad. I get heated up like 5ofclubs as well. I hate the anti formula stuff in the news lately!!
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I think a lot of us know exactly how you're feeling or at least are wrestling with similar issues. I've been in tremendous pain since her birth with nursing and she wasn't gaining weight which really scared me. Turns out, I've got vasospasms, which I'm pretty much just stuck with. I'm going to keep trying and see, but I can just as easily see myself stopping soon. We'll see. For now she's supplementing and I'm working with an LC on supply and a support group for morale. Hope you feel better and get another chance with a future little one so you arent' left feeling like you missed out.
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by Princessmaris
I just wanna admit- how truely torn apart I am on giving up- for some reason its something I just cant shake... and find myself being jealous of my pg. friend because she will soon be able to BF, also I find myself wanting another ASAP- just so I could "make it up to" them...
Whats wrong with me- I feel crazy....
I have to say I agree with all these articles... but they are def. making me feel worse...
I posted this in the other thread, but I know exactly how you feel. I had to give up BF my daughter so that I could take antibiotics and recover from a kidney infection right after she was born. I am pro-BF and BF my son for a year. It took me some time to shake the feeling that I am cheating my daughter out of all the goodness of BM my son got. You are not crazy, trust me.
You will shake those feelings if your daughter does go to formula. I had great support, and that helps. My daughter is doing wonderfully and I am feeling great after a rought start, and that is what is important.
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by Princessmaris
Posted by mishy
I will be very honest while in the hospital the lactation specialists were very rude to me and unfortunately it turned me off of breastfeeding, It was so upsetting I was a mother all of maybe 12 hours and was attempting...
A big part of the reason I gave up- The LC at the hospital SUC KED!!!! Had I been given the proper instruction in the hospital... and had certain people in my life been more supportive- Id prob still be BFing today-
But as a new mom- you have so many emotions going on- the last thing you need to do, is be stressed about weight gain, discomfort, oh and in my case- the nasty remarks about BFing from a certain family memeber
5ofclubs- Im not gonna say I missed out on a bond- because my FF son and I have a bond that is no less stronger than a mom and a BF baby- but it wouldve been nice- being the ONLY one who could feed him- I dont know- in my head- it wouldve been nice....
Not sure why I feel the way I do.... I just do- and I feel seriosuly depressed and sad over it...
See I guess I am in the minority because I feel like I really did miss out on a bond because we stopped BFing so earlyon. I am thrilled she got 7 months of BM but I hate that it wasn't from BFing. Sure she adores me and I adore her but I definitely feel like we lost something very special and it still makes me very, very sad.
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by Princessmaris
Posted by mishy
I will be very honest while in the hospital the lactation specialists were very rude to me and unfortunately it turned me off of breastfeeding, It was so upsetting I was a mother all of maybe 12 hours and was attempting...
A big part of the reason I gave up- The LC at the hospital SUC KED!!!! Had I been given the proper instruction in the hospital... and had certain people in my life been more supportive- Id prob still be BFing today-
But as a new mom- you have so many emotions going on- the last thing you need to do, is be stressed about weight gain, discomfort, oh and in my case- the nasty remarks about BFing from a certain family memeber
5ofclubs- Im not gonna say I missed out on a bond- because my FF son and I have a bond that is no less stronger than a mom and a BF baby- but it wouldve been nice- being the ONLY one who could feed him- I dont know- in my head- it wouldve been nice....
Not sure why I feel the way I do.... I just do- and I feel seriosuly depressed and sad over it...
See I guess I am in the minority because I feel like I really did miss out on a bond because we stopped BFing so earlyon. I am thrilled she got 7 months of BM but I hate that it wasn't from BFing. Sure she adores me and I adore her but I definitely feel like we lost something very special and it still makes me very, very sad.
Jen- I dont wanna use the word bond... because I stongly feel that Ryan and I still have a bond..... but I feel like I missed out on "something" else by not nursing... I TRUELY understand how you feel....
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Posted by 5ofClubs
. Formula is so close to BM now. QUOTE]
Not trying to start drama, but formula is no where near as healthy as breast milk.
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
Bit of a spinoff, but I can't help noticing. Is it just me or does it seem from these posts like so many of us BF moms are having to supplement. I thought I was the only one but I feel like I keep hearing that. It's just seems like a strange epidemic for it to be so widespread. sorry to hijack
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Bit of a spinoff, but I can't help noticing. Is it just me or does it seem from these posts like so many of us BF moms are having to supplement. I thought I was the only one but I feel like I keep hearing that. It's just seems like a strange epidemic for it to be so widespread. sorry to hijack
Normally BFing moms should not supplement because in the end it will only hurt your supply.
Then you have cases like mine where I truly did not make enough milk not matter what I did. I tried not supplementing but my daughter was not gaining weight. I pumped, took supplements, etc and nothing got me much more than 20-22oz a day.
Looking back though I feel that this could have sustained my daughter because she never really drank more than that and I plan to trust my gut more next time around.
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Re: With all the BFing articles....
[See I guess I am in the minority because I feel like I really did miss out on a bond because we stopped BFing so earlyon. I am thrilled she got 7 months of BM but I hate that it wasn't from BFing. Sure she adores me and I adore her but I definitely feel like we lost something very special and it still makes me very, very sad.
I agree with this, for me, I also feel that I missed out on what I thought that my new motherhood experience was going to be like. I imagined myself to be breastfeeding for a year, and when that didn't happen, I was distraught. Noah and I have a fantastic bond and I feel it everyday, the little scamp!
Also (controversial statement here) I don't think there is anything wrong with mixed feeding...you can supplement successfully. I don't see a problem with it one bit. I think that people get so hung up on whats right and wrong, but there is no right or wrong. Its just what feels good for you!!!
Don't let the man hold you down girls!
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