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BellaRock
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Why is it so hard?
I just found out that my cousin is expecting. I got all excited for her and congratulated her but ever since I hung up the phone I can't stop crying. Im in such a funk now.
When she was pg with her first DS a few months later I found out I was pg with my DS. My mom was trying to comfort me by saying maybe it will be the same again. But I feel so crappy today that not even that makes me happy.
Oh why is this so hard.
Sorry girls I just needed to vent. It gets to be so much sometimes.
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Re: Why is it so hard?
vent away. I wish I could say something to make it better.....I can't. But I can send you some of these    and tell you that I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.
I really do. Next week we are going on a family vacation. EVERYONE has/is having a baby. Except us. I have to be immersed in it for 5 days. I know exactly how you feel. You will have your day to dance in the sun too. 
Message edited 7/30/2007 10:05:27 PM.
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| Posted 7/30/07 10:05 PM |
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Believe me, I completely understand where your coming from. Just about every cousin and friend of mine has a baby, it's so hard being around them all when all I think about is wanting one so badly each day
Your not alone
Hang in there, there is plenty of hope for us TTC'ers
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| Posted 7/30/07 10:13 PM |
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06bride
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Re: Why is it so hard?
You are not alone. It's never easy hearing that someone else is pregnant when it's all you want and can think about. Hopefully you will be right behind her and your kids will be the same age again 
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| Posted 7/30/07 10:26 PM |
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mskittynj
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Re: Why is it so hard?
I know it's tough to hear other people are pregnant when you're trying so hard. So far since I've started ttc, 3 of my friends have found out they're pregnant! 1 who JUST started trying (it took her 1 try) 1 that wasn't trying and is now pregnant with #3 and today I just found out another friend who was trying for 6 years (that's right 6 friggin years girls) is pregnant with twins!!!!!!!
I am sooooooooo thrilled for all of them and I am very happy they shared these news with me. Even though I do not feel any jealousy or any other feelings of that sort towards them, I can't help but to think "I can't WAIT for my turn!!!" and "I wonder how much longer I will have to wait until it's my turn" I'm a big believer in negative energy and "evil eyes" I am unsure now that I would share my news with other women who are trying to conceive because you never know what kind of energy will be directed at me for it.
I know we can't help it sometimes to feel a little misfortunate when others are so fortunate but the more positive energy you put out into the world the more positive energy will be directed back at you! As hard as it may be we should try to be genuinely happy for the happiness of others, I don't know that's just how I feel.....OK there goes my positive energy speech...lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty
P.S- I can't friggin sleep!!!! and I gotta go to work tomorrow morning!!!
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ZOOKIE
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Re: Why is it so hard?
IM SO SORRY , KEEP YOUR HOPES UP IT WILL HAPPEN 
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| Posted 7/31/07 5:30 PM |
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stayandjohn
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Posted by abutterfly1123
I just found out that my cousin is expecting. I got all excited for her and congratulated her but ever since I hung up the phone I can't stop crying. Im in such a funk now.
When she was pg with her first DS a few months later I found out I was pg with my DS. My mom was trying to comfort me by saying maybe it will be the same again. But I feel so crappy today that not even that makes me happy.
Oh why is this so hard.
Sorry girls I just needed to vent. It gets to be so much sometimes.
I know exactly how you feel. Since my 2 m/c early this year I've been patiently waiting to start trying again. My best friend and I were pg together (my 1st her 2nd), I found out today she is pg with her 3rd and it doesnt look like I'm pg this time. I cried pretty much all day, went threw a range of emotions and questioned why not me.
I'm very happy for my friend dont get me wrong, I pray her baby is the girl she longs for, her 2nd child has DS so I know she is petrofied that something will go wrong in this pg.
Our times (everyone on this board I pray) will come.
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BellaRock
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Thanks Ladies.
I am feeling a lot better today that's for sure. I just keep telling myself that it will happen. That this roller coaster ride is worth it in the end   It always is. 
I don't know what I would do without this board and you wonderful ladies. Thanks so much for the hugs.
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Posted by mskittynj
I'm a big believer in negative energy and "evil eyes" I am unsure now that I would share my news with other women who are trying to conceive because you never know what kind of energy will be directed at me for it.
I know we can't help it sometimes to feel a little misfortunate when others are so fortunate but the more positive energy you put out into the world the more positive energy will be directed back at you! As hard as it may be we should try to be genuinely happy for the happiness of others, I don't know that's just how I feel.....OK there goes my positive energy speech...lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty
Please don't ever marginalize people's feelings on this board.
When you'be been trying for over a year....then come back to us and preach your "positive energy"
When someone is feeling upset about TTC and all the people around them that are having children, it's NOT YOU"RE JOB to preach, but rather empathize. Come back in a year when you've had the same stuggles.....
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Posted by when
Posted by mskittynj
I'm a big believer in negative energy and "evil eyes" I am unsure now that I would share my news with other women who are trying to conceive because you never know what kind of energy will be directed at me for it.
I know we can't help it sometimes to feel a little misfortunate when others are so fortunate but the more positive energy you put out into the world the more positive energy will be directed back at you! As hard as it may be we should try to be genuinely happy for the happiness of others, I don't know that's just how I feel.....OK there goes my positive energy speech...lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty
Please don't ever marginalize people's feelings on this board.
When you'be been trying for over a year....then come back to us and preach your "positive energy"
When someone is feeling upset about TTC and all the people around them that are having children, it's NOT YOU"RE JOB to preach, but rather empathize. Come back in a year when you've had the same stuggles.....
Wow.. are you kidding me? Aren't you the same person that told a poster nobody wanted to hear about her "accident"? Talk about marginalizing peoples feelings! For your information..
I am one of those people who have been trying for 1+ year, and being treated for infertility, and I am truly happy for each and every woman that announces a BFP here on the TTC board REGARDLESS of how long they have been trying. Do I have my down days.. Absolutely, but I would NEVER project my negative feeling days on anyone here.
mskittynj certainly was NOT preaching to anyone. Like I said in a previous post, if you don't want to hear people's positivity or news of their BFP's, then maybe you're reading the wrong board. Every one of these ladies are so supportive, understanding, nobody here ever preaches or puts anyone down.
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by when
Posted by mskittynj
I'm a big believer in negative energy and "evil eyes" I am unsure now that I would share my news with other women who are trying to conceive because you never know what kind of energy will be directed at me for it.
I know we can't help it sometimes to feel a little misfortunate when others are so fortunate but the more positive energy you put out into the world the more positive energy will be directed back at you! As hard as it may be we should try to be genuinely happy for the happiness of others, I don't know that's just how I feel.....OK there goes my positive energy speech...lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty
Please don't ever marginalize people's feelings on this board.
When you'be been trying for over a year....then come back to us and preach your "positive energy"
When someone is feeling upset about TTC and all the people around them that are having children, it's NOT YOU"RE JOB to preach, but rather empathize. Come back in a year when you've had the same stuggles.....
Wow.. are you kidding me? Aren't you the same person that told a poster nobody wanted to hear about her "accident"? Talk about marginalizing peoples feelings! For your information..
I am one of those people who have been trying for 1+ year, and being treated for infertility, and I am truly happy for each and every woman that announces a BFP here on the TTC board REGARDLESS of how long they have been trying. Do I have my down days.. Absolutely, but I would NEVER project my negative feeling days on anyone here.
mskittynj certainly was NOT preaching to anyone. Like I said in a previous post, if you don't want to hear people's positivity or news of their BFP's, then maybe you're reading the wrong board. Every one of these ladies are so supportive, understanding, nobody here ever preaches or puts anyone down.
UH....OBVIOUSLY....you didn't ready my message and you don't know who I am.
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Re: Why is it so hard?
Posted by when
Posted by MrsRbk
Posted by when
Posted by mskittynj
I'm a big believer in negative energy and "evil eyes" I am unsure now that I would share my news with other women who are trying to conceive because you never know what kind of energy will be directed at me for it.
I know we can't help it sometimes to feel a little misfortunate when others are so fortunate but the more positive energy you put out into the world the more positive energy will be directed back at you! As hard as it may be we should try to be genuinely happy for the happiness of others, I don't know that's just how I feel.....OK there goes my positive energy speech...lololol
XOXOXO
Kitty
Please don't ever marginalize people's feelings on this board.
When you'be been trying for over a year....then come back to us and preach your "positive energy"
When someone is feeling upset about TTC and all the people around them that are having children, it's NOT YOU"RE JOB to preach, but rather empathize. Come back in a year when you've had the same stuggles.....
Wow.. are you kidding me? Aren't you the same person that told a poster nobody wanted to hear about her "accident"? Talk about marginalizing peoples feelings! For your information..
I am one of those people who have been trying for 1+ year, and being treated for infertility, and I am truly happy for each and every woman that announces a BFP here on the TTC board REGARDLESS of how long they have been trying. Do I have my down days.. Absolutely, but I would NEVER project my negative feeling days on anyone here.
mskittynj certainly was NOT preaching to anyone. Like I said in a previous post, if you don't want to hear people's positivity or news of their BFP's, then maybe you're reading the wrong board. Every one of these ladies are so supportive, understanding, nobody here ever preaches or puts anyone down.
UH....OBVIOUSLY....you didn't ready my message and you don't know who I am.
what message? All I read was that you understand what the OP is going through and that you are telling mskitty not to preach to anyone.
Do you know what it's like to try for a year or more as you keep talking about? I recall you have been trying for 4 months...not very long in the TTC world.
I think you need to show a bit more sensitivity to the women on this board.
You don't know who I am either, what does that have to do with anything?
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